Wedding Forum - Plus ones...

Hi everyone. I hope the wedding planning is going well. I can't believe how time flies and I'm passed the year mark already.

I'm issuing my save the dates just now and hit a bit of a stumbling block. I am part of a team at work and I'm very close to a couple of the team who I would like to invite to the full day wedding however I feel like I can't invite just a few during the day and the rest in the evening so have included the rest of my team during the day which numbers wise I can accommodate however they all have partners and unfortunately I can't squeeze them all in. Do I invite my team during the day and say plus ones only in the evening? We have put it out there and some people see no issue with that however my in-laws say I can't tell people their partners can only come at night and say to my team to only come at night with their partners. The only problem I have I with that is people I consider friends won't see me getting married.

What would you do? X

From experience I'd suggest saying plus ones only in the evening, there is no issue with that and people should understand that plus ones are expensive and if the bride and groom don't know then why would you want to spend a small fortune on them for the whole day and have people you really do want there missing out.

I would not invite partners if you have not met them they will all have each other, doo is not like they will be alone, they could even organise to share a cab there.

My fiancé works has invited about 10 people from work. Personally, if they are all colleagues i dont entirely think they need plus 1s for partners. You are friends with the team you've invited, not their partners. might sound unreasonable but we just invited our friends. We have one +1 for my college friend as if we just invited her she wouldn't know anybody else, bar one other girl who is coming with her husband (would be very much 3rd wheel)

We wrote names of only those invited on RSVPs to reduce the chance of someone sending it back with additional names of people we haven't invited.

i had my work most of my work colleagues come to the evening do and no one brought OH even though i said they could .....i had a couple come to the whole day again they didn't have OH with them

I think it's reasonable if there is a group of them going to not invite their other halves to the day time :)

numbers are already limited.. i would just invite your team... they sshould all know each other and jusst let them know there free to invite partners in eve if they want to...

We had to don our thick skin with our invites, and literally invite the people we knew, liked and bothered with. Some invites went out with plus ones, and some didn't. We had a number limit we had to stick to, and had to be quite tough with our guest list