Wedding Forum - Disappointed...

Morning everyone - so last night I met a friend for coffee, I have known and have been good friends with her for around 11 years. She dropped the bombshell that she and around 6 of our other friends had actually planned to go away the weekend of our wedding (they have known for months the date) so none of them will be attending. We have lots of other friends so its not like there will be a huge gap of people, however, I feel very let down and incredibly upset. So after a very tearful night and not much sleep I have decided that I really do not want to spend any more time on people who make me feel like that. The end of an era but onwards and upwards :)

Oh hon that's awful of them! So sorry you've had a sleepless night over them, tho I think you're right: don't waste any more time on people who treat you like that! Tho I'd probably be like Elizabeth and want to know why they did it and then take great pleasure in telling em where to go!

Sending you hugs too hon xx

You don't need them, surround yourself with people that don't suck the life out of you like that. Onwards and upwards, you deserve better x

That's a shame. I would take great delight in letting them know what a wonderful day they missed. I had one or two who didn't bother to ask for time off work, but they weren't such close friends.

Maybe thats the only time they can actually get away? I wpuldnt tske i as theyve done it deliberatly theres worse things they can so than tell you they may not be coming... in the long run theyve told u and didnt just string u along thinking theyd be there and be no shows(trust me this is much worse!)

If u feel u cnt be friends with them because of that them thats fair enuff, but if i was your friend if that was your reaction to my personal plans id let u take your huff and get on with my plans lol

My bm said she was undecided wether to book holiday weekend of my wedding or not and i had told her to do it. Shes since decided not to as she is now saving for her own wedding but it didnt bother me 1 bit.

Also maybe they forgot the wedding and remembered the date but couldnt match it to an event so they picked that date when planning??

Got to look at all options on this... but just remember the peiple who REALLY care wil be there. But i wouldnt take it so personally.. let it blow over your head and just say ok x

Hmmm, if they all knew the date and then all decided that they were going to go away I think that's a bit out of order to I'd question whether they're really proper friends. Hope you can move on xx

Wow, no wonder you were upset. Poor you, not the nicest people in my opinion so maybe you are best off saving the £'s on a sit down meal they clearly don's deserve. Maybe one of them got jealous and persuaded the others to make plans to go away? Just a thought?
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Exactly just think of it that way they r making space for others to go who by sounds of it r the better option :-)

That's terrible! I usually think that I shouldn't care about people who don't care about me. So, just keep this in mind, whoever did this is not worth x

Aww I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling I would be devastated also, it spends how much they mean to you on how you play it. Sending you hugs xx

i see that as a complete disrespect, especially if they call themselves friends...
I'm sure they could have had a girly holiday at another date, even the following weekend..

But what you've said is completely the way you should be, if people are not willing to make the effort that you would make for them, then dont waste your time.

Its important that you have those that are genuine and care enough to not be so unreasonable.