My H2B and I have just started discussing our top table plans and come to a bit of a dilemma! My parents are married so I will be having my mum, dad and CBM (my sister) on the table. However his are split up and have been for over 20 years, both remarried and split from them etc. H2B's mum has a new partner but his father doesn't and there is tension between his mum and dad so they don't talk. As you can see this will make the top table very awkward, we don't want to put H2B's mum's partner on the table as this may make things worse so we were thinking of having him on a table with H2B's family and his mum on the top table, but H2B's mum and dad won't talk!! Any advise would be appreciated ha ha!
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CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
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Get your h2b to talk to his parents about seating arrangements, I'm sure they could get along for 1 day & as long as her partner is sat with people he knows there shouldn't be any issue. We're probably going to have just myself, h2b, our children, maid of honour and best man at the top table. My parents are divorced and both remarried & h2b's mums is extremely shy & has begged us not to make her sit on the top table lol.
CommentAuthorFlossie
I would just sit them wherever you want them to be sat and tell them to get on with it. They shouldn't be causing a fuss on YOUR day - I'm sure they can be civil for just one day for the sake of you and your other half.
Both of our parents are divorced. My mum is single at the moment but my dad and OH's mum are re-married and OH's dad has a long-term girlfriend. We are sitting just parents at the top table and all partners will be sat elsewhere - but they all know other people so it's not like it would be awkward for them. x
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
Top table would mean they dont need to be near each other anyway - ours goes Grooms dad - Brides mum - H2B - ME - brides dad- Grooms mum
Is that traditionally how people on the top table are supposed to be sat? We were going to sit my mum and dad together and OH's parents together.. They all get on with each other thankfully x
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
We are planning on having CBM - My dad - My mum - H2B - Me - best man - his mum - his dad as my family and H2B's family don't really know each other. That's why we are stuck haha but we might have to change the seating plan a little.
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CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
A lot of people mix it up to encourage coversation however even though I posted that image above we're having
BM - MOH2 - MOH1 - ME - H2B - BMAN - MIL - FIL
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
It would normally be CBM - MOG - FOB - Bride - Groom - FOG - MOB - best man (I think). The tradition is for the groom's and bride's parents to mix.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I never knew that! We won't be mixing though I don't think.. I think I would rather have both my parents on the same side of me.. Plus OH is having 2 best men, one of which is his dad so would make sense for him to sit on his side anyway. I'm not having a MOH either, literally just parents and the other best man which is his brother x
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Traditionally you sit your dad next to you and grooms mum next to him then your mum next to groom and his dad next to her ... It 'brings the families into one' ... If u did it this way they'd be in opposite sides of the table??
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CommentAuthorJennK
I had a massive headache over this, we have decided to go for a sweetheart table instead and just have h2b and I on a 2 person top-table :)
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPendlebury
For this reason I'm not even having parents on top table! H2B parents split up and the father has a habit of making 'a point'. Luckily my father won't be there (in Australia and has disowned me so no drama there!)
My top table without parents: Usher Usher Best Man Groom Bride MOH Bridesmaid Bridesmaid 2 ushers are each of our bothers, best man is our best friend, MOH is his sister, Bridesmaid is his cousin and my sister. I'm having a big table for Grooms mother & step father, My mum and step dad and mine and his grandmothers.
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CommentAuthorbride2b90
We most definitely won't be mixing since my mum doesn't like my H2B or any of his family. So I will certainly be keeping them as far apart as possible I think we will be having it as MOH BF BM Bride Groom GM GGF BM, problem is I have to try and account for two fathers (on my half) then two sisters and a brother, who I dont know whether they should be on the top table! urhg so much hassle
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I'm not having any of that, we are having a round table undated of a "top table" and we are not having any of our parents on it, they are housing there own my mph is not even on it as she has her hubby and kids, we are having our friends and a few cousins that are our age we want there.
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
My top table will be mixed up a little fro tradition and hopefully will be like this.
FIL Sadly passed away page not is our son so only natural he will be at top table next to my mum so he doesn't get my dress dirty from food lol. Otherwise it will be this
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
Update on this! H2B ' s mum has said that she wouldn't want to sit with FIL or leave her partner to sit alone so wouldn't want to sit on top table but I would like my parents and sister on it. Not sure how I could have the table now though, H2B said he might take his dad off it too...
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CommentAuthorFlossie
*sigh* Why can't people just make it easy just for one day? If I had a daughter who was getting married I would sit wherever she wanted me to sit!! xx
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CommentAuthorTeresa
It's so difficult,isn't it,trying to make sure everyone is happy.
CommentAuthorFlossie
I don't think you should have to worry about trying to make sure everyone is happy though. They should be the ones trying for the sake of your special day! xx
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
That is exactly what I thought and said to H2B to ask them if they can just get on for one day for us but he decided not to give them that option and asked her what she would prefer to do, so now we have to go with that!
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I hope you find a way to make it all work out.
Also, just realised you are a MrsP2B as well hehe xx
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CommentAuthorSamiH92
I would let them get on with it,. Its one day, and if people cant put their differences aside for YOUR SPECIAL DAY then sod them. you cant keep everyone happy. Your wedding day is ment to be the happiest day of your life, so you shouldn't have tp stress over if people will like where they sit. I wouldn't worry any longer over it tbf x x
CommentAuthorleasa
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Do any of you have a suggestion for ours?
My mum passed away 8 years ago, who sits next to groom instead??? There's a gaping mum shaped hole in my wedding day
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CommentAuthorJoD96
Leesa your post made me come over all emotional as I'm the same as you I won't have my mum there either I've asked my Aunty to sit on the top table with my dad as I don't think he would want to be there on his own and I'm also sitthing them next to each other, sod tradition
CommentAuthorleasa
We always put a blue helium balloon at the table at family events to represent mum, but I don't want Chris' dad to be like a lepper on the end of the table, might put mums balloon at the end instead.
I'm going to be so emotional on the day, even more so without mum x
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