Wedding Forum - **Neighbours important or not ?**...

When me and h2b bought and moved into are house in December are neighbour nocked on with a bottle of sparkling wine and introduced herself and her husband they are a lovely couple other than that we don't know any other neighbour's x

Well.... At first glance the street appears lovely, there are the odd few that introduced themselves and we are able to just walk into their house to see them and they us.

However, then you get the kid next door playing with make shift flame throwerers (also known as aerosol cans and lighters). Thankfully this kid has grown up alot over the 4yrs we've been here. We get on with him better than we used to. He even helped me put my eldest new bed together on Sunday, only asked for some help getting it up the stairs! He has been lovely the past few weeks. He helped narrow down the time scale for when our landy got vandalised, think he may have even helped clean it off without being asked.

Then you notice the drug deals happening.... There are 2 houses im aware of, one out the front, o.e out the back (everyone uses the back doors on our street as they face the road.) Then you get thefts happening. Then a flat gets burgled. (all of this is done by people on the street).

Then a dealer gets patted down in front of us and days later someone spray paints our landy for no reason other than thinking on that we "grassed" on them.

Are neighbours important?
Some of them are, some of them can suprise you in a good way. So of them will find out you black out without warning and will make it their business to pop over a few times a day for a "chat" when really you know they are just checking im ok and haven't fallen into a coma. Other neighbours however.... Need to go to juvy!!!!

When I lived with my mum nee our nextdoor neighbours really well , there daighter who wer 5/6 years older were like big sisters too me, playing games etc, looking after be at primary. And im still close to them and one of the daughters who reguarly is at home visiting her mum like me.

On the other side we always seem to have had dodgy people , a women who seemed to want to kill her son sn vice versa, and now people who seem to be drugies an are always in an out or prison for one thing or another.

Our neighbours at our current address, we have quite nice neightbours, just had someone buy the house adjoining ours, on other side we have a nice couple who are very friendly and when we first mived in helped us change our tyre as it had a ouncure an we had no idea. Next to them we have a lovely ladie who I alreasy knew due to her doing bowls with my mum an also happens to be landladys sister, an we quite often pop in for a chat, and she lets us borrow anything we need, we currently have her ladder, and she more or less gave us her lawnmower.

Then all around I know most of the people or they know we. My bestfriend from primary lives 2 doors up with her mum. And my bestfriend/adopted gran lives down the road. Aling with a load of other people. I feel so safe here surrounderd by people who I know if anything were to happen.

The street we have moved into is lovely really. The neighbours are nice, one knocked the door to say hello and welcome and how nice it was to see someone living in the house after it had been empty for so long after building it. My other street was larger, and even though I had a few friends there we all used to keep ourselves to ourselves really.

We don't know our new neighbours after moving but I got on with my old neighbours next to my parent's house so they're invited to the wedding :)

We made the effort to introduce ourselves to our neighbours when we moved in. We live in a little close but our house is on the main road and our garden backs onto the communal parking area that everyone uses. We know everyone and speak to everyone. We go round to the elderly lady next door (I say elderly but she acts like a 20 something lady), we have wine with her, walk her dog, she loves our dog. When I had a sickness bug she bought me round a bunch of get well flowers. I've had more flowers from her than I've ever had from h2b LOL. We love it so much, we're dreading have to move when we expand as we only have 1 bedroom. Next door has asked that we don't move because she's had some awful tenants, bless her. We look After her like we would our grandparents, and we love her!! Her and her daughter will definitely be invited to our evening reception and our wedding is on her birthday :D xx

Ours is an incredibly mixed street. I really don't like the neighbours either side of us. One side is the type who are banging and crashing around at 2am. Has too many bodies in the house and not enough bedrooms and also plays music at 6am in the morning at full blast. On the other side we have the thugs with dumped cars everywhere, the garden is a tip, they have been reported multiple times and one even headbutted the other side of them neighbours for no reason at got arrested! I can't wait to move away from them all! X

I talk to my neighbours either side,one side has two daughters similar ages to mine so they play together in the gardens and we have private gated parking behind so they sometimes play ball out there in the holidays when there's no cars there in the day.
When I lived at my old house I know neighbours three doors either side plus the four houses across the road ... But I have a school across the rd from my house now so a bit different x

I'm welsh! It's law here that you know/talk to/gossip with your neighbours lol! No honestly I think it's rare in the valleys not to know your neighbours whether you like it or not. Mine are all elderly but have been brilliant taking in parcels etc....

When we first moved back to the island we lived in a what was basically a two up two down with an extension for the bathroom, terraced house. It was great. In the summer we used to all sit in the doorsteps chatting away. Was so lovely.

Just been invited to the new neighbours housewarming party on saturday! :)

Bit late to the party but just going through the debate threads ;)

Neighbours are not important to me. As long as they are nice enough and don't make too much noise or cause any other nuisance, then we will get on just fine. I say the odd 'hello' to my neighbours when I see them but I'm definitely not the type to spend ages chatting to them or inviting them in for coffee or anything like that. I like to keep myself to myself when I'm at home x

Where we live now I like to keep myself to myself. There are many of the older generation living near us,Kim polite and always say hello to them. Hubby helped a lady out once, she started hounding him after that, we called her his lady friend. Apart from the hellos I have nothing else to do with them.

we are renting at the moment and one side are lovely say hello when we see them but the other side are horrible 3 vans parked up and a car they are noisy don't think there is a wife just dad and son who is 30+ and a daughter that turns up every night. Wouldn't mind so much but the vans block half our drive hubby has had a polite word a couple of times but he is still doing it. Where I lived before my neighbours were lovely really miss one side as we were good friends still see them but not the same...

i grew up know my neighbours and sharing stuff, helping out when people needed it infact we knew everyone on the street, every time ive moved ive tried to get to know my neighbours. I only talk to my next door neighbour when we are pegging the washing out and its normally its a convo about the weather. there is an old bloke that lives across the road he doesnt have family close by so i pop over to see him when i can and help him out. found him fallen in the bath weeks ago so he went to hospital. people te;ll me to not interfer, leave him be but i like helping him, i want him to know people out there care.

One lot of our neighbours look quite similar in age to us but they are so rude. I have smiled at her on several occasions and just get nothing back. I bumped into her when I was walking the dog the other week and she said nothing to me but told my dog he was gorgeous, lol.

I'm not one for being over friendly with neighbours a but a simple hello and a smile doesn't hurt x

I loved my neighbours when I was living in my flat.

The house we're living in now, the neighbours we share our driveway with are lovely and we get on really well but the house joining us (we're a semi detached), she is a miserable moo. I don't have the time of day for her cos she is miserable. Don't like her at all. There are a couple of misery guts on the road who I just can't be bothered with but everyone else is either typical twitchy curtains neighbours who will wave and say hi or just smile when they see you, more of an acknowledgement thing. We're pretty much the youngest on our road though at the moment so not expecting to be friends with them all.

It's nice to be friendly with at least one neighbour but we're so busy I'm not fussed about the rest tbh.

I did get on with some neighbours were I lived with my parents but ,out never talked too or see
I get on with one of our neighbours who are right next door the rest I have no clue
And to be honest you don't have to be close to neighbours they. It really important
xxx

I've been both very unfortunate with neighbours, but very, very lucky too!
I've moved at least 4 times since I was younger, and when we were growing up in one street, an old couple basically adopted us like grandchildren, as both sets of ours lived at least 4 hours away and never really saw us. We went round there every day after school, and at least once on weekends. They were the greatest people that I ever had the fortune to meet!
Then we moved house, and luckily moved 6 doors down from my best friend, and another close friend. But unfortunately, and very shockingly, we had an alcoholic and drunk husband with their 6 year old daughter move in next door about a month after we moved in, within a couple of years, the abusive Step father had murdered his Step Daughter and almost killed his wife! Terrible, terrible situation :( still upsets me to this day, as we used to play in the garden with the little, neglected girl, and were only kids ourselves when we realised what happened.
The wife ended up drinking herself to death a few years later, then we had a young family move in, who at first we didn't like, but after a while, we ended up getting on with really well.
I moved out of my mum's house last year, and we absolutely love our neighbours in our new street! Our next door neighbour on one side is a policeman and his wife and kids, who we exchange Christmas and birthday gifts and cards with, and the other side just moved in recently, turns out I used to work with the woman a few years ago, and luckily she's a lot nicer to live next door to, than to work with!
The other neighbours all work, walk their dogs, and even have a street Rounders team! How cute is that? It's also a neighbourhood watch area, so we have the usual curtain twitchers, but I'm a very anxious person, so I really like that about the street, as I like having the security of both nosey neighbours, and a policeman next door!
We do Christmas cards for the immediate neighbours, and this year, we will be extending those to the ones opposite us on the street, and a few others, who were kind enough to offer us to park on their drives whilst we were having the curb lowered and ours done!
I think the right neighbours can make all the difference. And the wrong neighbours can make you cry yourself to sleep at 13 years old because they Killed your playmate..

we do invite neighbors but only because we are friends with them.