Since we got engaged, I have been ecstatic, excited, overwhelmed with my feelings for my OH and so certain about our forthcoming marriage. The last couple of days I can't help feeling a bit of niggling doubt - does he really love me as much as I love him? Will we be happy? Is it the right thing? God knows where this is coming from? We're so happy - have the odd argument like all couples. He's very loving and is enthusiastic about the wedding itself and our future. What the hell is wrong with me!?!?!? My youngest son (11 years) has a few behavioural problems which I know get to my OH quite a lot but he deals with it in a fantastic manner and really makes an effort. Does anyone else have these feelings? Sorry for putting some negativity out there, just need to get it off my chest!!
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I think it's normal to think like that, marriage is a huge commitment and it doesn't matter how long you have been together. I often wonder why my oh is still with me 8 years later and why the hell did he change his mind on getting married as he never wanted it before. Just keep telling yourself he does love you as much as you love him, you already are happy so that won't change and yeah it's the right thing and hopefully your 'doubts' will pass. X
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
CommentAuthorFranM76
To be honest I think it's probably hormones!! Having been divorced before and had some pretty unsavoury ex's, I don't have a lot of self confidence. Full of outward confidence but could do with a bit more self esteem. Im sure this bit will pass - already feel better for saying something! xx
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
I think it is normal; I feel like it sometimes when we are ignoring each other after a disagreement; just one of those things :)
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CommentAuthorStephanieM71
I get worried every now and then - it's a massive commitment to make. It doesn't help that my first marriage was awful and I never thought I would do it again, but my hubby to be is so lovely, kind and I know he'll make a great husband. My 12 yr old has behavioural issues too - and that can sometimes cause stress between us but he handles it as well as I do lol.
My doubts come in when I think of myself being a wife but he's already said he doesn't expect me to suddenly turn into a 50's housewife and I'm great as I am, even the days when the house looks like a grenade went off and dinner is a takeaway :)
Yes! But I always feel better once we have a cuddle and a chat about it usually I just get told I'm being silly and he loves me lots Recently ive had a personal problem and its made the doubts worse but he always re-assures me bottling it up only leads to a melt down
CommentAuthorKirsty
I haven't had doubts yet but with 8 weeks to go my oh has had his first nerves. We had a heart to heart amd although he wants to marry me, and there is no one thing that worries him, he was panicking. After our talk he went to ned and woke up this morning with the list of things worrying him (like no-one turning up) so he seems a little more relaxed.
In short everyone has a wobble, its natural I think. You just have to know whats a wobble and whats something more. Chat to your oh x
CommentAuthorVictoriaB
I had this wobble as they all it last week,me and h2b were very busy with work and when we did see each other we didn't have much patience as so tired and all I could keep thinking when we spoke to each other was "oh my god is this really what I want for the rest of our lives" anyway we sat down and had a chat and then I felt so much better! We both absolutely love and adore each other I think when you work a lot you forget to appreciate each other and then with the added stress of the wedding things can feel like it's all coming on top,I think the key is to talk to each other, and remember why you were getting married in the first place. Xxx
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I have days like this. I look at him and wonder why he wants me, waiting for him to turn round and say he doesn't love me and the wedding is off. It is irrational I know but my ex let me with some trust issues and now I am still struggling withthem . Just remember the way he looks at you, the times when he sends you a random text saying I love you and nothing else, when you come home from a long day at work to find your dinner on the table and a glass of wine waiting for you. Think of all of those little things that make you feel loved and remind yourself he does them for yo and nobody else. xx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I was like that sometimes right up until a couple of days before the wedding to the point I even screamed at hubby asking him why and if he really wanted to marry me and I didn't know why he was bothering etc. etc. Poor guy, all the stress of moving house 5 weeks before the wedding and then the final wedding nerves were just getting to me.
I think it's natural to have some wobbles as it's a huge thing getting married, it's right up there with moving house, a new job and having a baby so don't worry about it, it's a normal thing xxx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!