Hi all, something I hadn't thought about until my fiancé randomly asked me the other night 'What are your thoughts on people dressing to compliment the theme''
I asked what he meant and he said ''I don't know, people asking what the theme is and then wearing a tie or whatever to match''
I asked why he asked and if someone had been asking him and he said no (if anything we've had someone asking the theme because she only wears purple and wouldn't want to wear purple if it were our theme.... we've yet to tell her our theme is yellow and purple now)
What are your thoughts on this?
I was under the same impression as the purple person and if I was going to a wedding a guest unless I had been asked to wear a certain colour I would either not think about it and just wear something which looked nice or if I knew the theme I would avoid dressing in that colour.
What is your opinion on this?
As far as I know noone has said anything to him, his mum had picked her outfit before we picked a theme lol and she's gone for coffee and cream so it's a good job we didn't go with black as a theme because she'd clash :p
CommentAuthorbarbie86
As a guest, if I knew that the bridesmaids were wearing a certain colour I would probably try to avoid wearing it unless that meant buying a new outfit. If I didn't know what they were wearing I wouldn't ask and would just wear anything.
As a host, I don't care what our guests wear, as long as it isn't a wedding dress lol. I wouldn't ask them to avoid wearing the same colour as the bridesmaids, and nor would I ever ask people to dress to match. If anyone asks me what our colours are I tell them, but leave it at that (ie I don't add 'but we don't mind what you wear!', I leave it up to them)
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we asked all out guests to wear black and white to our wedding..... i had a gold dress and my bm`s were in fushia pink it all looked fab
Yeah I'm the same as a host I don't mind, but me personally as a guest would avoid that colour if I knew what it was... but wouldn't think to ask if I didn't know.
Although I say I wouldn't mind people coming in the same colour I can't see people coming in yellow.
The purple lady probably will find something else as it seems to be something she worries about, but I wouldn't mind if she did wear purple, she's the best man's girlfriend and he'll be in a purple tie so she'd match him, also my bridesmaids are in yellow with purple accessories so she doesn't need to worry about looking like she was trying to match them either. But if she doesn't feel comfortable in it then that's how she feels, we'll see when the change of colour plan is mentioned to them
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
Haha Carla, when I said about being asked to wear a certain colour I had black and white in my head for some reason :)
I wouldn't mind being asked to wear a particular color if it was something I already had, but I'd be a bit miffed if I had to go out and buy a specific color outfit. I wore a dark green dress with a bright green lining to a wedding once ... and the bridesmaids were in the same colors! Although my dress was completely differnet style, I had no idea that it was the same as the color scheme. No-one said anything to me, it's not like I did it on purpose as they weren't really good friends and I didn't know.
Our colors included purple and loads of people wore purple to our wedding.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I would wear what I wanted and avoid the theme colour If I knew it (as there normaly included in the invites) One of my bms the other day said about getting a royal blue dress for her daughter the other day, have not said anything yet, but don't think its appropriate as the bms will be wearing that colour and she will look like shes part of the bridal party.
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CommentAuthorAlexN29
I did wear a red dress to my cousins wedding and her theme was red, was a little bit weird but I didn't look similar to the bridesmaid so I don't think it mattered. I would avoid the theme colour if I could and I would avoid white, ivory or champagne. I won't be asking anyone to wear a certain colour but I might ask people not to wear all black.
CommentAuthorCoral
It must be an old fashioned thing as my mum told my sister not to wear blue as the bridesmaid is wearing blue. Some people just like to check you won't be annoyed if they wear the same colour as the bridal party. It comes down to will it bother you if people turn up wearing the same colour as the bridal party?
CommentAuthorHelainaH
When I ask about the theme colour, it's so I don't look like I'm trying to muscle in on the wedding party lol.
I wouldn't have dreamed of asking people to wear a certain colour to my wedding. My mam was worried because she bought a cream and gold dress, and asked if I minded. I didn't of course; as long as it's not a wedding dress, I couldn't careless :-) Plus, one of the things I like most about weddings is seeing all the different outfits/dresses, and colours.
CommentAuthorMegs84
I have only told the wedding party what to wear, just so nobody clashes with my colour (red). For anyone else, they can wear whatever colour they like. They all know the colour from the save the dates and the fact there is an element of gloucester rugby in the day. As long as they don't look like they're in the wedding party I say leave them be.
