Wedding Forum - So annoyed with his family...

as its registry office we are limited with numbers but we managed to sort it so its just close family . whats annoyed me is that i sat in church for all of his cousins weddings an now they cant take 30min out of there day that they have known about for 2 years an there not bloody coming even his nanna an grandad may not be coming , they have all said they will just meet us at the venue thats fine but to me of cause they will come to that for the free food n that . to me the ceremony is just as important its not a party its a wedding !!! i know im moaning and the main thing is that me and my partner are there and people that care for us but its just annoyed me as the attitude about it because its only the registry office its the comments like im wearing jeans ( that turned it to a cat fight lol )n taking mess coz my auntie has gone all out on her outfit wi dress n hat .and comments like i dont see point in getting married look at so n so n so n so ,,, so what we have been together 8 years n have 2 kids n we love each other and thats comming from his mum who is happily married herself lol i cant take the comments anymore i feel like im gunna just blow up n i dont wanna cause an argument ,OH just said to ignore it but its getting hard and its me the one that ends up in tears feeling like im not good enough .. rant over for now : ) is anyone else getting anything like this x

Oh wow that's not good! I'd be really angry/upset too. Not that they're worth having there anyway if that's how they think but that's so cheeky!
A wedding is about saying vows to one and other and becoming Mr and Mrs it's a great commitment and brings families together as one,if they can't be bothered to come to the most important part I'd tell them to bananas!!
My ceremony is in a hotel doesn't make it any less important to me and h2b just because we aren't having it in a church!
I would have serious words and maybe say if you can only make one and not other can they please make it to ceremony they attend as that's the whole getting married part! Xx

well said Donna

That's rubbish :( is your H2B upset about it? I understand what everyone is saying about all or nothing but that would probably cause too much more family hassle for you. Don't let them get to you too much (easier said than done) and just enjoy your big day :)

I'd tell them if they can't be bothered to come to the ceremony then to not bother at all!! So what they don't see you get married but will turn up for free food! Don't think so!! Idiots!!! You don't want people like that at your wedding anyway Hun, retract their invite and you have a wonderful wedding without them xx

I'd tell them either the reception is only for people who come to the ceremony and just send them night do invites... Or tell them to sod their presence and don't bother coming at all !! xxx

I see the ceremony being the most important part seeing as that is when you become husband and wife. If they cannot be bothered to attend that when you are limited to numbers as well, I'd say well you are not welcome to the reception. It's down right rude!

Oh hunni...believe me when I say that I know it's hard, but I've learnt that if they actually love you and care about you wether they are friends or family, they will be there for you. I agree, it is the ceremony that is important. I've had the same issue with my family (there's a post about it somewhere), and it really hurt when they said they wouldn't come, especially when they had no excuse, but as soon as my best friend said he'd take the day off work for it, I realised that if they actually care and want to see me happy and be there to share the big day with me, then they will be there. If not, then it's going to be their problem and loss, not mine. All I can say is, maybe give it some time, maybe they will. Come around? xoxox I'm always here if you want to chat xoxox

I understand everyone saying only invite them to the evening but do you really think its as simple as that? It angers me the thought of my H2Bs family not wanting to come to the ceremony but you've got to remember that they are still his family no matter how out of line they are, uninviting them and creating a family feud might not be the best solution. I think TrasaD's response says it perfect. Give them time and try not to let it get to you too much :)

If people really wanted to be there for you ( & hubby 2 be) then they would no matter where or when or how you getting married. I would go to any of my close friends or family wedding no matter what unless I wasn't invited of course lol
Two of my close friends got married in a church of late and as I'm not religious at all, I still respected their choice, went, sung the hymns thought it was still beautiful and all around had a very lovely time...

hi everyone thank you for your reply's i know why they cant come an i think thats our own fault with it been a friday at 3 n with us all having kids an iv had to say to most of them no kids at the ceremony because there is so many of them but that was why his auntie n uncle was not coming as they was looking after them for an hour . i then found out my oh has said to them if they cant make it to meet us at the venue to his cousins but his mam is going round his other aunties n nannas saying u dont have to go reg office so thats not helped , theres not much i can do as its his family alto hes seen me upset so hes had words with his mam basically saying F them and that no1 is coming so we wont be going to church for christening this weekend we will just go to doo that was not taken very well .iv gotta be careful as i dont wanna cause an argument its just upset me a bit but like oh said as long as me n him with our kids r there stuff the rest x : )

iv had more drop out n all now that's why oh has said something im just gunna say i was washing my hair lol x