Hey ladies, Not been on for a while as got loads to do with my university degree which I have six months left to do. But I know it sounds awful but just need bit of support off you all as feeling really deflated about my wedding. OH came to stop last night and he was down so I said what up, he goes stepdad kicking off again about us not inviting his children. I was like great it had died down but obvs not. He has a problem because we won't invite his three children who all have partners and in turn have three children between the two eldest. So it am extra nine people and they are people who never talk to either one of us so why should we invite them. So then his mum texts going if you don't invite them I won't be coming to the wedding. How much blackmail do you want. And then his sister has a cheek to reply and say this is gonna make her fail her exams because of atmosphere. Like it my Oh fault?!? Not!!
Just really low sorry
CommentAuthorStephanieM71
Sending you a big hug x
Can't offer too much in advice - except maybe tell his stepdad they are all welcome but have to pay for themselves as you can't afford to have them, they may not want to come once they have to fork out?
Try not to let it get you and h2b too far down - I hate how many people try to blackmail you into having things the way they want when it comes to weddings
CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
Well everyone is paying for themselves so like treating our wedding as a holiday. But if I invite his children I kno it sounds bloody awful but he would make sure they came. And to both me and husband to be we have the attitude of if they don't make an effort with us why should then come to a special day. Sorry if people don't agree.
And thanks for the hug stephanie.
It horrible that his own mum and sister blackmail us. My mum has gone made and is on the verge of going over there. Which I don't want tht to happen but we shall see
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
leAVE THEM TO THEIR ULTIMATUMS AND REMEMBER YOU WILL HAVE A MUCH NICR DAY WITH ONLY PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE THER XX
I say if you don't speak anyway ... Don't invite them! They're not your direct family and you shouldn't feel blackmailed,call your mums bluff, I reckon her hubby has been putting pressure on so just put your foot down! I would never dream of inviting my mums partners kids (he has 5...plus partners and their kids) and that's with me even talking to a couple of them, you have to draw the line somewhere and your mum and her partner need to understand that!
DONT BACK DOWN!!
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CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
No we don't speak Kelly, even they don't speak to their step brother (my hubby to b). Just gets to me they cnt see why. Trouble is I'm worried if we stand our ground my hubby me will get kicked out of their house. Which is ok as we will be moving out next year but I've got so much assignments to do with uni without the stress.
Thanks for your kind support ladies
CommentAuthorJoJ67
Don invite them.because someone else is trying to force you. Ignore them. If they dont want to come then that is their loss! X
CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
We are trying jo so hard but his mum and dad are vile and it just causes so much more stress for me. Just at a loss. Xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Have slightly changed title Hun as it didn't make sense as it was lol
If his sister doesn't like the atmosphere she can go to a library to study. My mum did most of her A-level revision in the college library because someone was visiting who her parents were not keen on having around. Sounds like she's looking for an excuse, so if she fails she can blame it on someone else.
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
Don't get pressured into inviting people you don't want there. I know it must be really difficult but you don't want a group of people there who you don't really get on with family or not xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
Thanks ladies. Had a break through today with his mum who emailed my husband and explain what was going on. So fingers crossed. And Lala it was suppose to be stressing hell don't ask where the inverted commas came from haha. I'm hoping we have a break through but as it is it 18 months so things cud erupt at any point. Feel so lucky to have you to talk too.
