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    • Amadao
      CommentAuthorAmadao
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    Hi Everyone!

    I'm new to this forum and was wondering if you could help me out.

    I'm looking for some fun, interesting and heartfelt ways to ask my friends if they would do me the honour of being my bridesmaids. Does anyone have any ideas?

    How did everyone here ask their girlfriends?
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    • CupCake
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    Hello and welcome hun ;) I'm having my 17 year old daughter which was a no brainer, the other bridesmaid is my h2b's neice, who has always presumed ( along with his family ) that she would always be our bridesmaid :/
    If I were in your situation I'd probably take them out for a meal and ask them after ordering some sparkling champers lol xx

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    • mym72
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    Hi Amadao and welcome to UKB.

    I'm only having a small wedding (20 of us) so wasn't going to have a bm at first - but picked mine (just one) because she's the partner of h2b's cousin, and we go out in a foursome with them quite regularly. I actually emailed her on facebook when I'd made a decision who to have - but it's probably better asking them face to face lol.

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    • GummyBaby
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    Hee hee, i didn't ask, i told my best friend she was going to be my MoH and told my my H2B's sister that her daughters are going to be my bridesmaids. They were all very 'yeeeeeeeeeeeey' with the yay and the yayness, but im not into the soppy stuff. I tell, they do, end of ^.^ x x x
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    • mrs pinkalice
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    me and my sister promised each other when we were little we would be eachothers bridesmaids so there was no asking to be done there. My best friends all just assumed they were being my bridesmaids (lucky I was going to ask them anyway!) but now we have a date booked i was thinking of sending them an official bridemaid invitation as i never got the chance to ask them xx

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    • lala "mod" bunni
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    i didnt ......... i have 3 daughters .....22,16,14 (at the mo) so that was sorted for me

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    • Mrs (Dove) Pidgeon
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    CBM- my mother asked, I confirmed in her birthday card a few days later (it was pretty obvious I would have her!)
    BM1- when I told her I was engaged, she said 'I am a bridesmaid right' to which I replied 'Of course' (Best friends for ten years... again obvious!)
    BM2- asked her over a nice glass of white wine.

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    • ohfiddles
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    well i wanted my sister but she is very shy and dosent like wearing dresses. so i am having my niece, she doesnt know yet am just gonna take her out with her mum and buy the dress when she says whats it for i will say well your a bridesmaid arent you. and i am having my daughter xx
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    • Geordie_Nikki
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    Hey and welcome to the forum, congratulations on your engagement too :-)

    I text them asking if they could do me a massive a favour... when they asked what... just asked them straight if they'd be my bridesmaids. Was only 2 Ive asked and both cried lol
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    • sbride
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    Hello and welcome. I sent my MOH a personalised card from moon pig. The others I just asked to their faces. Well apart from H2B's sister, I was forced into having her but thats another story, lol

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    • DrunchPunk
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    Uh, by text. I'm rubbish I know.

    My CBM - I told her I was engaged by sending her a message asking her what she looked like in pistachio - ongoing joke about what hideous thing we could make each other wear as bridesmaid :) The other 3, I asked them in a text what they were doing towards the end of 2011.. Apparently I don't do interesting or heartfelt :D

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    • Geordie_Nikki
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    My mates only found out I was engaged when I changed my relationship status on facebook lol

    My mam noticed straight away that a ring was on my finger on christmas day

    Colin had already told his family he was gonna propose so they were all waiting to see if I said yes lol
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    • Amadao
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    Thanks for the input girls, I think I've figured out how I'm going to ask them...just hope they all say yes!
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    • CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
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    my daughter was easy i just asked her if she wanted to help mummy on her special day,but sarah i took her to a coffee house and we go talking and i said to her "so what do you think of older bridesmaids",she replied i think its nice as long as the look their age so isaid to her thats ok them you can help choose the dresses,to which she started jumping up and down like a mad woman lol
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    • xAbix
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    We are getting married in Italy so we are only having 23 guests. If I had asked who I wanted to be bridesmaids all the girls coming to the wedding would have been in my bridal party! So I decided just to have the one, my brothers girlfriend who has become the sister I never had. Although I didnt give her much choice!!! xxx
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    • Pinkberry
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    Mine were easy so far as I am having my sister and best friend, they kind of just assumed and I assumed they would do it.
    My God daughter is going to be flower girl. She is 2 at the moment and might not quite understand it but will be 3 and a half by the time we get married so we are going to tell her nearer the time. I will ask her mum before hand though.
    I am having a 3rd bridesmaid but I am undecided as yet. Its between 2 people so I am sitting on that choice for a while to see how things go :-)
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    • shellay
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    my bridesmaids are my sons girlfriend, my h2b's neice and my two best friends daughters, my flower girls are another good friends two daughters, so there was no actual ceremony as such i just asked them if they wanted to be my bridesmaids, and they were all over the moon. sorry i cannot come up with any exciting ideas for you, welcome to the forum and good luck with your wedding :)x

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    • ginge23
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    Mines is just my sister who is my best friend she knew it was goin to be her anyway lol xx
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    • Cheryl22
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    i asked 1 of my best friends to be one of mine while she was driving when we were on a girlie day out - she almost crashed into a bridge while screaming ' of course i will' and crying - lol wasnt such a great idea, i thought i was going to die!!

    lol x

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    • Madam Butterfly
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    BUMP!

    I would like to know how you ladies are asking your bridesmaid to be your bridesmaids?
    I know there's just asking, texting and a card. But is anybody doing something else?

    I have two 12 year olds, a 6 year old and then a 24 year old.

    I thought about getting a thorntons chocolate decorated with the question (or a big cookie or cake) or an easter egg and do an easter egg hunt for the little ones.
    Any other thoughts and ideas would be much appreciated :)

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    • Suzie Bear
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    Thorntons would be lovely- attached to a Princess (they do choc princess now - looks like a bridesmaid!)

    I wrote a poem which asked them to be bridesmaids and put it in a card x

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    • Madam Butterfly
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    Thanks Suzie, yer I saw that princess one in there today, would be perfect :)
    Think I will do a card for a keepsake too as I'm sure the chocolate would get eaten!! x

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    • Rachie :D
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    Mine live between 200 & 300 miles from us so it was girlie squeals with 2 down then phone - and then a normal conversation with my sil 2b followed my me speaking to her little girl who promptly asked if there would be cake lol

    The other 2 still dont know and wont for a while otherwise it will get too much (due to family issues)

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    • Unknown
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    i asked the first on face to face and her reaction was so nice. she was so pleased. the second one i was planning on asking her face to face aswell but someone overheard my convo with 1st bm so i had to phone her and ask before this other person told her!!




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    • Madam Butterfly
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    My youngest and oldest live about 200 miles away so will be asking them when I visit.
    Oh no mrsbaker to be, isn't it annoying when someones goes and wrecks your plans grr!

    For the 12 year olds, thats my sister and her friend, I think I will do the thorntons easter egg with a message on.
    For the 6 year old I might do the thorntons princess with a message on or a recorded message in a build a bear.
    For the oldest who I have been friends with since I was 3, I am not sure yet.
    Keep ideas coming :)

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    • Unknown
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    i was so annoyed!! this person always ear wigs! he has even been telling me where he is going to sit and next to who!
    x




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    • Madam Butterfly
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    How rude! You better have told him where he CAN and CAN'T sit! x

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    • Unknown
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    yep! he first said i want to be sat next to ellen. my reply- no, she is on the top table as she is bridsmaid
    then he said fine then but i want to be sat next to robyn so i said umm....no she is on the family table as she is my sister!

    i told him he will be on the friends table as far away from top and family table as poss x




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    • Madam Butterfly
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    Good for you :D x

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    • stressed to max b2b
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    lol god mines bad compared to u lots lol

    i txt them sayin were gettin married and i want you as my bridesmaid but we cant afford to buy everyones dresses so if your willing to be one it would be great but you will have to buy your own dresses x and they all said yes, allthough 2 have backed out and i am expecting another to drop too
    my sis droped out as she was concerend of havin a baby and it causing troubles for dress so shed rather sit bac and enjoy she said.
    mate dropped out cause 6 weeks notice to go dress shopping and she cant get a day off (allthought i know she could easily swap a shift)
    and one of my others friends is pregant and imo with a control freak that doesnt let her do anything. so i dont think she will turn up for the shopping day. and they know if they are no shows then they are not been one x

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    • suzky123
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    i just asked each one individually. In hindsight it would have been nicer to organise a nice meal or something

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    • stressed to max b2b
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    mrsbarkertobe tell him to earwig this........ YOUR NOT INVITED TWIT

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    • Madam Butterfly
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    haha stressed good one! Hope you still have some bridesmaids left after them dropping out!

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    • CommentAuthormrsbriggs
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    ive chosen my cousin as a bridesmaid as its thanks to her i met my H2b, and my best friend is my chief bridesmaid or maid of honour as shes now gettin married next may so bout yr before me. i'm also having a kid my mums looked after for the last 11yrs since she was 6mth old so i'm like her big sister.
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    • becky -mrs firth
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    i made them all persoanlised cards hun! they all luv them, this is my moh one

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    • becky -mrs firth
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    it wont let me upload it, its in my album silyl thing lol

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    • Unknown
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    i like that stresses bride!!




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    • Katkin
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    Well, I just came off the phone to my best friend James. I was best woman at his wedding and he jokingly said he wanted to be chief bridesmaid at mine so he could wear a pink frilly dress!! I just asked him if he would be my 'support person' for the legal civil ceremony and sign the register - he whooped with delight and said it had made his day and he would be honoured! I am sooooo happy he accepted. Tomorrow I am meeting another of my best friend's - Jo. She is paying for me to have a makeover at 'Mac', and afterwards I am going to take her for a coffee and will ask her if she will be my 'bridesmaid' (for want of a better description), for the hand fasting ceremony and to help tie our hand fasting chord around our hands. I really hope she says yes - I can hear her screams now just thinking about it!!! Lol. It will make my day if she agrees :-)
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    • Unknown
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    so exciting asking your friends x




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    • Katkin
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    Yeah, I am really excited :-)
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    • mcewan07
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    i cant help unfortunately, as my mum decided who i was having, so she told my sisters, and my partners daughter told her sister. i was like o-O grrrrr
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    • Madam Butterfly
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    Good luck with tomorrow Katkin-how exciting!
    OMG mcewan thats not nice I would be annoyed if my Mum did that!

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    • Katkin
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    Thank you MB xx
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    • Mel D
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    My sister assumed she would be as I was one of hers, and I asked the other two over the phone. I asked my MOH to be my MOH when she came to visit me.

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    • NishaVyas88
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    My MoH has been my best friend since we were 6 and we always agreed that we'd be the other's maid of honour. So I didn't actually ask her, I told her.
    As for my bridesmaids, I asked two of my best mates from senior school (we are a core group of five and it killed me to knock two out of the running... but if I had them all, who would be watching the wedding? lol). We went shopping and I was going to ask them while we were having dinner, but I couldn't hold it in and asked them in the middle of the shopping centre. Three girls shrieking and hugging in the middle of Lakeside? That'd be us, lol!
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    • CommentAuthorloubyscooby
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    We arranged 3 family meals over a weekend just after we got engaged to tell everyone we were getting married and then once the announcement was made and there was champagne to toast our happy news I gave them a card that I had made asking them to be part of our special day so more tears and shouting.
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    • Enny
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    HEY GIRLS,

    rather than starting a new post regarding how to ask my future BM to be my BRIDESMAID, i decided to search an add on these one... I have read some or actually quite a few of the old posts and dont know really still which wording I should use...
    I want to ask SIL2B to be my bridesmaid and a really good friend to be my maid of honor but how do I do it the best way!? as SIL2B lives in Somerset and my friend in Kent... shall i rather send a card or give them the card in person? I really dont know...
    what is the best way any suggestions???

    Thanks xxx
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