Not sure if this is in quite the right category, sorry if it isn't.
So our wedding was 3 and a half months ago now and SIL never got us a gift. Okay fine, a little strange we both thought knowing how wealthy she and her hubby are but no biggy.
Anyway we popped round to visit them this weekend and they had bought us a belated wedding gift. Gift vouchers ......................... I really can't believe it .............................................£2.5k!!!!
I won't say where for, I saw the vouchers when we opened thrm and just presumed it was in the region of around £500 but when hubby counted them after we had left then asked me how much I thought there were I joked £1k. I almost crashed the car when he told me.
How are we ever going to be able to show anywhere near that kind of generosity to them? We don't have that sort of money, I am incredibly grateful but it's so much I feel embarrassed.
I feel like I'm forever indebted to them or something.
Has anyone else received incredibly generous wedding gifts and felt embarrassed to accept? Or felt you will forever owe them something?
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
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Wow. You are very lucky! I don't think you should worry about being able to compare what you get them to what they got you as I am sure you will put thought into their present and they will graciously be as thankful as you are. After all, I think that no matter what present you are lucky to receive for a Wedding present or in general, you are always surprised at people generosity.
I understand how you feel as at Xmas me and H2b, H2b's brother and 2 cousins received a cheque for a rather large amount of money from H2b's Nanna. To give you an idea on how much, it has paid for all bar £1000 of our Wedding Venue including Wedding Breakfast, Buffet and Drinks Package.
We all had a rather large, and a rather strong drink after opening the envelopes and getting over the shock lol.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Thanks MrsT2Be. Wow that is generous too. We also had majority of our wedding paid for my my parents and FIL. People are incredibly generous, it's just it's a crazy amount to spend on a wedding gift surely, no matter how rich you are. Thing is we can't really afford to spend any more than £30 quid per head on things like Christmas presents because there are so many to buy for. I dunno, I guess accepting money from parents is easier than brothers and sisters.
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
Perhaps you could take them out for a meal later on in the year so it is something extra for them?
I know what you mean, but even when it came to my Mum who has/is paying for my Dress and alterations I felt guilty. When I was shopping and I liked a dress the ladies in the shops told me the price of the dress and asked if it was ok. In the end my Mum just kept shouting Yes from the other side of the changing room curtain lol.
The way that I have started to see things is that people wouldn't do these things if A) They didn't want to or B) They couldn't afford to.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Yeah, you're right. They wouldn't. They also talked about taking us out once we'd spent them to tell them what we got!
I feel so spoilt its embarrassing spoilt.
My parents and FIL each gave us 4 times what SIL gave us as a wedding gift plus more for other things.
I just cannot believe how much we were given xxx
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I would like to take them out for a meal but the kinda places they eat out at we can't really afford xxx
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CommentAuthorMattsBride
Take then to spoons! ;) Cheap and fun!
My parents are paying for our wedding reception and for the guests first drinks (dad seems to think this is a custom) which is more than we could ever have asked for.
CommentAuthorLauraT41
cook for them, a lovely home made meal with a couple of bottles of wine and great company is the things money cant really buy ! enjoy the vouchers xx
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Awww, that's so lovely of them. We got a couple of very surprising (and generous) gifts and it really is quite embarrassing. But enjoy them - you deserve it babe! x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Enjoy it and don't feel guilty!
It's very kind and thoughtful of the,, however I'm sure they wouldn't want you to feel under obligation to them in any way shape or form...
I agree cook them a nice meal, or if your good at anything crafty, maybe you could make something personal for them?
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CommentAuthorsarah
What an amazing gift. As you already mentioned that they wouldn't have given the gift if they didn't want. I understand that you feel indebted but I would thank them the same way you thanked your other guests. I think that anything else may make them feel uncomfortable.
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Ahh that is so sweet; I guess it could be embarrassing but just spend it wisely ()
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CommentAuthorVickyB70
Wow!! Just enjoy it. They wouldn't have given it to you if they didn't want to so there's no way you should feel guilty or awkward! And I'm sure they understand that you can't afford their usual restaurants so just take them to where you can afford to say thank you x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Thanks ladies. I feel better about it now.
I think we'll definitely be having them around for a meal soon as SIL hubby hasn't seen the house yet, SIL saw it before the wedding but before we actually moved in so without furniture etc.
I did print out all the official photos of them and their family, their 3 year old daughter, our niece, was our FG and they loved looking through the photos so I know they appreciated that.
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CommentAuthorangel830609
awww that's amazingly generous of them, like some of the other's said cook a nice meal with a few bottles, and if you havn't already one of the photo's you showed her of your niece in a nice frame as a thank you gift would be nice as well enjoy spending hun xx
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CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
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Just be happy that you have amazingly generous family! Like others have said, take them out as a thank you or get them somethibg personalised. I'm sure they will appreciate the sentiment even if you cant afford somewhere too lavish!
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Thanks ladies. I guess I need to try not to feel like I'm in anyway inferior or anything to them but can't help it and don't like feeling that they may not enjoy a meal hosted by us because we won't have expensive bottles of wine (we're the £5 - £7 a bottle type on special offer and their usual is in the region of £50 a bottle) etc.
Our neice actually said to us "our garden is bigger than yours", ummmm yeah we know that and really don't need reminding.
This very generous wedding gift has really brought out some mixed emotions for me.
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