Wedding Forum - No one to give me away can i go without?...

some people may remember i had asked my uncle to give me away but he is very unwell and getting worse and he has said theres just no way he can do it which i totally understand and just really hope he can maybe be there at some point if he is well enough but it has left me a problem! my dad (or the sperm donner as i prefer to call him) left me when i was 6 months old , my mum remarried al lovely man who unfortunately passed away from kidney failure 13 years ago, she then was with my brothers dad alan who again was a lovely man but was killed /died of a brain heamorrage 10 years ago, she has since become involved and intends to marry heer current partner who is ok but doesnt particularly mean anythingto me and we dont always get on, he seems to be jealous of the ralationship i have with my mum. I asked my mum and she said no she didnt want to and that i should ask him .i just cant imagine it being him i have waiting with me and im sure he would try and shift focus t him somehow which also doesnt feel right. i have 4 brother 3 will be usher and 1 pageboy/ringbearer and dont want to pick one of them as it would seem i favour one , i do have a son who is 7 who i have thought about or could i just walk down on my own? starting to feel a little abandoned by my family no-one seems to want to be involved ive done everything on my own aid for everything including their outfits im starting to feel like they are just in it for a party and free food , gutted cuz thought it would be an exciting time ;/

I like your idea of your son giving you away :-)

I think your son would be great, and he would probably love it.

I think your son too, that will be lovely and also then he will have a special job xx

Your son is a great idea.. Don't worry what other people think.. The person that is closest to your heart should walk you down the aisle.. Not someone who means very little to you xxx

How old is your oldest brother ? xxx

No course it's not hun.. You could always be sneaky and have your brothers and son walk down in front of you so you're not totally alone.. Say your 10YO and 16YO bro in front, your 17YO bro and son in the middle and your eldest bro behind them with you following ? Technically on your own, but still with your most important boys there too :-) xxx

Aww that'll be good :-) You definitely won't look like a loner with all those :-) xxx

Why don't you get your son to walk in front of you and carry one of those 'Here come's the Bride' signs? That way it's like he's giving you away plus it will give him a job to do x

Your son giving you away sounds lovely, but if he doesnt want to I dont think there is aproblem with going down the aisle on your own, but maybe a childhood friend? or your moh? xxx

yea think im gonna go the same way heidi and go it alone any other decisions are going to cause arguments! plus im not happy with any of them. i kind of would of liked my son but i think its too much pressure for him and he really wants to do the rings. my MOH is my sis and that wouldnt be right (her and my h2b cheated on me when we first got together its done now and we got passed it but i wouldnt want her beside me so to speak walking towards him with her would feel totally wrong! what if he thought he had made wrong choice lol) so its going to be just me simple if they dont like they can lump it!!!

Sorry for your losses :( I definately get your son to do it :)

Its such a hard choice and when you have more than 1 brother can see why you dont want to seem as favour one.

I love the idea of your son as think it very special but i dont think tehre anything wrong wioth walking down by yourself at all if that what you want to do either x

The other thing is your closest and dearest friend? xxx

Welf i love that idea xxx