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    • b2bnicola
      CommentAuthorb2bnicola
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    I dunno tbh if im living with my head in the clouds or not.
    Me n my h2b are going thru a rough patch atm.
    Lots of things hav happened lately inc a lass from work txting him at inappropriate times.
    Id seen a msg on his phone and took it the complete wrong way and we have a major arguement about it all.
    He was even going to go bk home for a couple of days for us to have a break and cool off, but he didnt go - he stayed and i thort we worked it all out.
    In the mean time tho hes went n told all his work that we're having problems atm and that he was going to have a break from me. Everythings fine now apparently but he hasnt really told his work that we're okay and i feel humiliated really.
    So im still sittin here going over every little thing and i just dont think its going to happen nemore!
    :(
    I really want us to be back on track - any suggestions girlies?

    xxx

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    • Mrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
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    Put the wedding to one side and concentrate on each other.

    Go on dates, cook each other meals- whatever you did when you first starting dating.

    Big hugs hun- the good things in live are worth fighting for!

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    • CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
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    you both really need to talk,thankfully you still have enough time to discuss what you both want,if your worried about anything,get it out in the open now,,putting things off doesnt work and in the long run can do more damage ..you can both get through this but you need to talk to each other,,good luck x~x~x
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    • b2bnicola
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    Feels like all we've done lately is talk
    He thinks all is okay now but i still feel like there's something not quite right, just not sure what
    I dunno if its just me really

    Yeh we're hopefully doing that this week but hes only off tonight and sat night so its quite difficult.

    In our huge row a lot of things came up and theyre still pretty fresh in my mind.... i think hes just moved on from them!

    Just wish i knew what to do really!

    xx

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    • CupCake
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    The problem is hun women have better memories than men, and when they yell things at you in anger, it flippin well hurts, and for a long time after!! Men seem to just say it, then move on. Is it worth going to Relate for some couples counselling? At least there you have an open forum to talk, but you have a mediator that keeps things moving without it turning into a full scale row. If you're all talked out at home and there is no improvement it might be worth thinking about it xxxx

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    • Mrs Turps (Nicpep)
      CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
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    Aw hun, you have both had an awful lot to deal with recently and its probably taken its toll a bit on you both.

    I think the best thing to do is just spend some normal time together, not discussing the wedding, or the relationship, just get back to basics and hang out together as friends xx

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    • Walesfromafar
      CommentAuthorWalesfromafar
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    Awwww I'm so sorry darling. Everyone here's totally right, you need to take a step back from the wedding planning and just concentrate on yourselves as people and a couple. Remember that you have to love yourself in order for anyone else to love you so do something nice for yourself and something nice for him. Even if you just relax in the bath with a glass of wine, candles and a good book. Maybe find out when his favorite team are playing on TV, invite round a couple of his mates and put on beers and some snacks and then you'll have done something lovely for you and something lovely for him. It'll relax you both and hopefully make you both feel a lot more comfortable within yourselves. Then maybe organise a surprise romantic night another day for the two of you and see what happens. Romantic meal, film, candles, bubble bath or shower together, massage.... Don't give up babes. If it's meant to be (which you both obviously believe coz else you wouldnt have got engaged) then it will all work itself out in its own time x
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    • Bee
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    i agree, take time to yourself and think about the most important thing to you. Then if you still have worries, sit him down and tell him whats troubleing you. Hope you get it all sorted, but in the meantime you know where we all are x
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    • Iz
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    It could be that it's something else entirely. I don't know exactly, obviously, but I've found that when Tim and I fight about us, normally we sort it out, and it goes back to normal. When we fight over and over and it goes on and on though, it normally means that one of us is actually p*ssed off about something else, and is just projecting on to the nearest person. Could there be anything else, however unrelated that's bothering him/you? That would mean that it doesn't matter how much you discuss your relationship, you're not got to fix the cause of the problem.
    It doesn't mean that you can't take some time to focus on you though. It's always good to get back to basics... especially after a rocky patch. Enjoy your dates :D
    xx
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    • Faye
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    When me and stu almost split a few weeks back, we wrote each other a letter explaining everything about how we felt and any problems we had in a nice way, as face to face can sometimes result in shouting etc!
    Or you could sit down with eachother and read eacothers letters.... xx
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    • Suzi
      CommentAuthorSuzi
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    I agree with Faye, putting it in writing about how your actually feeling may help him to understand that your still hurt by his actions hun!! I wish all this would go away for you I really do x x x

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    • Jay
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    aaw huni, its shite when things are rocky! he shouldnt have told everyone in his work about you guys, im a firm believer that what goes on behind closed doors should stay there (apart from girly chats lol) everyone is right and you need to take a wee break from wedding stuff. at the end of the day woman are intuative and if you feel somethings just not right you need to sort it out x
 

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