We got engaged in Nov 09 and I went full steam ahead arranging everything for July 24 2010. Then in Feb its felt like my MIL2B has taken over. I was happy going at my own pace but she wants things done and is constantly reminding me. It caused me and H2B to have a big argument. He has had a word with her and she has layed off for the time being. But somewhere in the middle I seem to have lost heart in it all and I feel like I've switched off. Has anyone else felt like this? Whats the best thing to do now. I know I need to get motivated again but where do I start... Sorry girls needed to get this off my chest and open my eyes to some advice xx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Make a list of everything you still need to do, and give yourself a target date for each one.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorDaffy
First, deep breathe! Am sure it will be ok. What have you got sorted?
Daffy
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
please dont panic,,everything will fall in to place,bit by bit it comes together and the picture appears,i agree with dove,maake a list and as you do something tick it off,thats what iv been doing,also having it in front of you in black and white also makes you see what needs to be done sooner rather then later,some things will take priority compared to others,,good luck x~x~x
CommentAuthorlouise1712
emster just remember its your day and everything will go perfect i always go over things when it happens to me and that sorts me out x x
It's funny you should say this, I only felt today that I have 'peaked' to soon, I have been going at it hell for leather, and my wedding is not till next year!!!! I need to chill a bit I think. You should sit down and see whats left to do in order of priority... if you can't get motivated maybe you need to call on some friends to help you out... even if they just tag along with you to do boring stuff it's better than doing it on your own xx
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthoremster
Oh I feel better girls. Thank you xx I've done all the big things, dress, bridesmaids, church, reception, mini-moon, catering, transport, cake, DJ. I now in the process of putting finishing touches to the invites and sending them, this is where I'm not motivated. After that it'll be decorations (balloons, flowers, favours etc) flowers, hair/make up to arrange and hopefully not much more xx
CommentAuthorLisa"n"Iain
i totally understand where ur coming from. i havent got an interfering mum or mum in law but felt that after the initial booking of things there was nothing to really do as it was too early- then i lost heart a bit (not really sure why), but now woahh its all go and i seem to have found the spark again!!
CommentAuthoralibum
I know what your going through as my mil2b has been causing me headaches and steaming ahead with things that i want to make decisions on such as the decor for our reception, how many glasses we need how much fizz we should have etc and i feel poushed out and my h2b just doesn't get it!!(he is grumpy man at moment :( long story!!)its your wedding day so ultimatley your decision is final (&h2bs)xxx
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs Nicol
don't worry take a deep breath and remember what you are doing it for... u and ur h2b.. and think of that nite.. (wink wink)... :)
CommentAuthorjellytot
gosh i am nothing like that at all, altho i havent let anyone push me out or take control. all i do is wedding related...i even dream it! lol. x
CommentAuthorMrsThurlow2be
iv only got 5months left and still got loads to do........il probly start panicking bout a month before, an then its to late so dont worry wateva its like itl be perfect as you be gettin married :) tha wa keeps me going lol xx
CommentAuthorCeCe
Emster - ok, how about the things you have a lok of motivation over you geta ouple of your most reliable friends/family and have a wee get together and organise whats happening, brainstorm etc...you ould even dlegate tasks? Then in a couple of weeks say..have them round for a few drinks and pizza and make invites...menu's...etc?
Justa thought!
CommentAuthoremster
Thanks girls :-) CeCe - That sounds like a great plan to get the girls together and have a moan and brainstorm at the same time! We could plan the shopping trips for dec's etc and prepare lists. Oh yes I'm feeling motivated now :-) Going to start phoning some people now! This feels alot more positive xxx
CommentAuthorspooney24
Emster I can totally sympathise with you and get where you are coming from re lack of motivation on the invite front. As you know I am getting married on the same day as you and Ive all my invites and orders of service to make too and I am struggling to get myself to do them even though I know they need to be made and then sent mid April at the earliest. But everytime I sit down to do some, I lose heart and only do one or two rather than a few. So I have decided to have a wee girlie night with my 2 nieces who have volunteered to help me so to get me motivated and to get the task done. Then at least I know Ive not only got the invites made with help but I have also had a good night into the bargain. x
26th December 2007 - the day I met my special man
8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
CommentAuthorCeCe
*pats self on back for good advice*
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CommentAuthorAmanda
this site is great for having a moan to people who understand. There is nothing more exciting but stressful than weddings and families the two just dont seem to go together. Everyone seems to have bad days when planning weddings, arguments with families and money troubles, what are we going to do girls when all this is over, wont it be sad once we are married and there isnt the hype of, hey guess what i bought today ! what will we do with our time? chin up we all have bad days but we are all here for each other. xx
