I have spoke 2 a few people and everyone is saying different things. What do you think? x
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CommentAuthorboo
entirely up to you. We're paying for the outfits for the BMs and Groomsmen but I've seen people on here say BMs etc are paying for their own instead of buying a wedding present. It depends on what you want to do, your budget, and if your BMs etc are willing to pay for all or part of their own outfit
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CommentAuthorKirsty
I would say the couple who are getting married too. We are paying for ours x
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
I asked mine to put money towards their outfits particularly the BMs why should they get a free dress out of me
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we have paid for them but i know people who have asked bm to pay for own dresses x
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CommentAuthorlemlau
Its entirely upto you. You could ask for a contribution towards them but the way i see it is you have asked them to be part of your big day so you should pay. They don't have to be mega expensive there is alot of good quality on tge highstreet.
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CommentAuthormcclay2b
We are paying but we on a budget so might look in the high street 4 maids an look 4 evening dress type
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
My mum is buying both my sisters stuff (everything they need) Asking my MOH to help pay for her stuff and we are going to ask the bestman and the usher to help pay for theres. That is if we have a bestman as he has not com round or rang our texted martyn for 6months and martyn has been trying to ring him to come round to talk about the wedding
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CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
We're paying for my MOH but I have asked her if she will buy her own shoes and jewellery since she is more likely to wear those again. H2B is talking about buying a suit instead of hiring, in which case we would probably ask his BM to at least contribute - for the same reason - but if we hire then we will pay.
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CommentAuthorloubyscooby
We are buying our 6 Bms dresses and also paying to hire the 7 groom/BM/FOTG/B and ushers outfits but it comes down to your budget, what you are asking folks to wear and whether they can wear it again. I dont think there is a right or wrong answer here.
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
It depends i think. My BM are paying for theirs, they asked instead of a wedding present as they know we are struggling with the money. this is a really big help for us xx
CommentAuthorfelicity.h
im paying for bridesmaids unless there really expensive then they said they would buy them as they dont want me going for the cheap option just cos of my budget. we are paying the deposits for everyone but were only paying fully for best man father of groom and groom. theres just too many of them.
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
thanks all for ur posts, my 4 bridesmaids are my own 2 children, my sister and me best friens. as my sisters partner is an usher and her 2 sons pageboys, i am thinkin of paying for the bm dress and usher suit but asking my sis if she will help with the pb suits as my budget isnt that high x MCCLAY look in bhs thats where i have chosen mine from x
CommentAuthorlemlau
Marks and sparks are launching bridesmaid dresses in feb and they start from £49.50
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CommentAuthorChrissy
We're paying for ours too but I have to admit they all offered to pay for their own but I wanted to pay :o) xxx
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CommentAuthorPennylane
I'd say if you ask them to do it, you should pay but that's just my opinion. We're paying for all of ours x
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CommentAuthorRobynFrances1990
MOTG is buying our BM dresses but they are the grooms sisters. Our HeadBM is buying her own also but that is cause she offered. Xx
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses. They both assumed they would be so I'm going with it- they all earn more than I do anyway! lol!
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
it depends on ur budget im asking my bridesmaids to get there own instead of getting us a gift but im payins 4 everything elce
CommentAuthorrebeccalou21
i think bride and groom should pay as you will have asked them to do it so cant really make them pay for something they have no choice in wearing, everyone is different though
CommentAuthorMaggielou
We're paying for ours, they're part of my 'vision' why should they pay for it? Know a lot of bms who offer to pay orbuy their shoes tho. Can u afford them?
CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
We are paying for them. Its different to each person, some people ask their wedding party to pay for themelves but i think the usual is for the bride and groom should pay for it. x
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CommentAuthorlil miss sunshine
my lovely ladies are paying for their own dresses and all the trimmings....... we're hireing the mens suits but they are buying their own shoes cant say fairer than that
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CommentAuthorBeskiboo
If you really want to cut your budget I would simply ask for a contribution towards the dresses, and make sure the dresses you pick can be reworn. There are some really nice ones on the high street. I got my MOH dress professionally dyed black after I had worn it and wear it all the time (it was a wine colour). I did not pay for it but paid for the accessories and shoes
CommentAuthorlouise
We are paying for them but we have been really lucky and had loads of help in paying for everything else so its only fair really
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I think if you are getting married and you ask people to be part of the wedding party then you should expect to pay for it but if someone is kind enough to offer to pay for something then give them a big hug. If you are on a tight budget then I would say to them when asking them if they would like to be in the bridal party that it would involve either helping out with costs or paying for it so they know up front before they make up their minds and don't feel pressured into having to pay out later just because they said yes.
CommentAuthorLauraCrossan
Think it should be people getting married too x
CommentAuthorfuture-mrs-watson
I think it's up to the individual couple personally. I have 4 bridesmaids, all adults and we're paying for all of them. That said I've already been a bridesmaid for one of them and they bought my dress and I expect to be bridesmaids for the others (2 best friends and my sister!) and that they will buy my dress. What goes around comes around :)
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
We are buying the girls dresses and paying the suit hire and just asking everyone to buy their shoes. The guys will most likely have smart black shoes and I will take the girls shopping so they can get shoes in the right colour that I like xxx
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
I think the bride and groom should pay. We're paying for the dresses and suits and have asked them to get their own shoes. x
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CommentAuthorLiz3yy
As OH and I are having a small do with only close friends and family, we feel it's only fair to pay for the bridesmaids dresses. x
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CommentAuthorLynz_9
We are paying for the bridesmaids and groomsmen. I couldnt tell people what they had to wear and then make them pay for it. We are also paying for bridesmaids and best man accommodation on the wedding night. In return they pay for the hen and stag do :-)
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
thanks all 4 your advice x
CommentAuthorsoon 2B Mrs Sweeting
i was thinking of asking this question too!!!! thank you
CommentAuthorNHR115
We're buying all the outfits. I think that we've asked them so it should be our responsibility to pay for them. xxx
CommentAuthormitch2509
where buying everything, if we want them to be part of our wedding we said we would pay for them !
CommentAuthorsoon 2B Mrs Sweeting
my future sister in law was slighty offended when i suggested paying for the bridemaids dresses today :$
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
its up to u hun and your budget, we have paid for all the dresses, jewellery, suits (apart from my dads and brothers) and the cufflinks and socks, but we have been lucky as am getting the dresses i wanted at a quarter of the price as a friend is making them for me, but like i say it depends on what u want and your budget, maybe speak to everybody concerned and see what they say then make a choice xx
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CommentAuthorMel D
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Historically, the bridesmaids paid for their own dresses, and the groom paid for the bestman & ushers.
We have paid for two of my bridesmaids dresses, and my chief bridesmaid paid for hers. We are also paying to hire morning suits for groom, my uncle (giving me away) and bestman. We have bought ties to match our color scheme for his dad, and the partners of my bridesmaids.
It toally depends on what everyone can afford to pay. I was going to ask everyone to pay for half of their outfits, expecially as I wasn't going to tell them what to wear, but let them choose something with a little direction from me, but in the end they all loved the dress that I showed them so we went for that. The two bridemaids that didn't pay for their dresses - one lives in South Africa (and has the expense of the flights and two weeks off work for me - although she is my sister) and the other has recently lost her job so I felt I couldn't ask them to pay. So I was going to pay for all three, but my CB insisted that she pay for hers. Also the dress that I picked is not very "bridesmaidy" so they will be able to wear them again.
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
were paying for the dresses and their hair but they are buying the shoes and bags and jewellery xx
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CommentAuthorshellay
i think it is upto the budget, we couldnt afford to pay for the bridesmaids dresses and the groomsmens suits, but they all offered to pay anyway, but we are paying for the shoes, jewellery, tiaras, bags, hairdressers etc :) x
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
same here shellay x
CommentAuthorMrsE
We bought the BMs dresses and accessories and asked that they bought their shoes. We bought cufflinks and had the cravats hand made and have also paid the deposits for the suit hire for the boys, but asked that they pay the remainder, therefore it works out about even for both the BMs and GMs.
I think to be honest, it depends on your budget and what YOU want to spend on them :) Our BM's are all family so this will be part of their present :) xx
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CommentAuthormitch2509
im buying the dresses.. but i think there gonns buy the rest!
CommentAuthorLiann
My BMs are paying for their dresses, were paying for the flower girl as shes my step daughter. Were then paying for their shoes, tiaras, jewellery, hair nd make up. the ushers and best man are also paying to hire their own suits.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i`m payying for our Bm`s dreses but then they are my 3 daughters
