Wedding Forum - What Shall I Do? - Guest Issue...

My mum does not have many friends and has her main 3 friends Kim and Andy, and Irene. She was speaking to them about my wedding and they all asked if they could come so my mum asked me. I don't have a problem with Irene coming as I have met her a few times and I know her and think of her as my mums best friend but I don't know Kim and Andy and am unsure on them coming. I met Kim once or twice years ago and thought of her as ok but I have never met Andy. Not only that, Kim knew my Dad years ago and my Dad died last year, although she knows the background on his death, I don't want to be answering questions about his death because it would just upset me. I would have preferred not to invite them but I feel like I am being really mean and that it would be nice for my mum to have her few best friends there as it's not like she is asking for loads of people to come. Am I just being really petty?? I was thinking of saying that they could come as long as they pay the £7.50 per head each for their food but would that not be really cheeky?? We are already re-doing the guest list again to try and keep the numbers (so costs) down.
What would you do?? xxxxx

Hmm, I think in your position, I would invite them... Three people isn't too many for your mum to have, at least it's not the whole street!

I would invite them but ask if they or your mum might be able to contribute towards their exstra cost.
i have a similar problem but mum offered to pay for her guest so it was okay in the end

Depends how close you are to your mum. I wouldn't do it for mine but if your mum has been supportive and they will be the only people she knows then I say invite them. Asking your mum to help with the cost sounds like a good idea

i think i would say yes to her best friend and allow the other too to the evening reception. Hopefully your mum will understand that you want to keep costs down. But then on the other hand if there is then 2 people who are on your original list to come then you can allow them to come as your were willing to pay for them anyway?? if that makes sense,

xx

I had similar probs, but mine were £40 ph and like 10 friends + 6 distant family menmbers (but funny not her brothers) since i had took some of my friends off to fit hers but couldnt fit them all she moaned said she was second class and now were not having any guests at all officially invited! But no sit down meal no either!

TBH i would think that theywould pay if you asked them, and also you could say but you dont need give us a present or anything, if you was worried about being cheeky asking them to pay. (most ppl would have gave you money in a card anyways, thus paying for the evening buffet them selfs) Also for buffets some caterers say you only need caters for 2/3 of the number of guests! Thus i wouldnt count them, 3 isnt alot..... inless its something like bacon butties and thats only 1 each coz then you do need the right number!