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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    Hey,

    So we had our wedding day almost 2 months ago and are sending out our thankyou cards this week (abit later than we had hoped!) but some of our guests came and didnt even get us a card!!

    We asked for money towards our honeymoon and most people kindly donated towards it and some others gave us gifts. I understand some people cant afford to give gifts or money but still not even giving a card I think is really rude.

    Would you guys say anything to them or would you just forget about it? Im obviously glad they came but I still find it rude.

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    • Lesley0401
      CommentAuthorLesley0401
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    It would irritate me but I don't think I would say anything to them. Were you thinking about sending a note to them to say thank you for attending?

    Can't believe it has been two months, that has flown by!

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    • NicoleW665
      CommentAuthorNicoleW665
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    i think i would be annoyed but as Lesley has said I don't think I would say anything. as much as it is expected to at least bring a card i suppose they don't have to x

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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    i know, both your weddings are going to come round so quick!! :D

    Yea ill just put on theirs thanks for attending :)

    I think your both right its probably best to not say anything, i think i find it more annoying cause 1 of the people who didn't even get us a card was one of hubbys past 'acquaintances' and she turned up in a white dress and never even spoke to me. So her not getting a card topped it off lol

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    • NicoleW665
      CommentAuthorNicoleW665
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    it's definitely rude... i would never dream of turning up to a wedding without a gift never mind a card but unfortunately there are those who don't mind

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    • CommentAuthorLoz K
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    Hi Mrs C (no longer "2be"!). I agree with the others in that whilst I would find it quite rude, I wouldn't say anything to her. I'm wondering if you should even waste a stamp to say thank you for coming? The cynic in me wonders if she did it out of spite as a past "acquaintance", but then look where you are now and look where she is - you're in a much better position! :-)
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    I wouldn't say anything. Just thank them for coming and say you're happy they could share the day with you.

    Our best man and wife didn't get us a gift or card either and we know they're loaded. But we just thanked them for coming and for being best man.

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    • CommentAuthorClaire1978
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2017
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    I never go to anybodies house empty handed let alone their wedding! I went to an ex- friends wedding and got her a lovely present and card and never got a thank you card, or even an acknowledgement for attending the wedding. I felt like we were 'rent-a-crowd' prior to the wedding, but definitely did following the wedding. But no I agree you can't really say anything it is their choice, but yes it is very rude!! x

    2 Months?!!!! What the!!! xx
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    • KathleenO17
      CommentAuthorKathleenO17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 4th 2017
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    I wouldn't be too bothered about gifts but I would feel annoyed that I didn't even get a card but I wouldn't say anything as it is not worth the hassle of getting into an argument. I don't think I would ever forget it though.

    I probably wouldn't bother sending them a thank you card either.

    I hope married life is treating you well! x
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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 4th 2017
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    Well, I would feel a bit annoyed but would say anything. But to be honest, I wouldn't send a thank you card either.
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 6th 2017
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    I would be disappointed and a little bummed but wouldn't bother saying anything to them. depending who it is I wouldn't send a thank you. I wouldn't to his ex acquaintance but if it was an aunt etc then I would just saying than you for spending the day with us.

    I wouldn't mind about the gift as i know some people struggle to afford it but a card doesn't hurt really.

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    • Lesley0401
      CommentAuthorLesley0401
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 6th 2017
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    I know I have posted before but I totally agree with Emily on this x

    What are you going to do MrsC, does you OH have any opinions?

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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 13th 2017
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    I sent her a thank you card not that I wanted to but i did it anyway! thanks for your opinions ladies :) x

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 13th 2017
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    How has 2 months gone already? To me it's just rude not to even buy a card- even if you are doing you can pick up a card for £1

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    • SheenieR
      CommentAuthorSheenieR
      Posted: Jul 14th 2017
     
    I think I would find it rude.. But that says something about them. Your reaction speaks about you, so dont say anything, just be happy they came etc. Would make me grrr but ultimately we want their "presence not their presents". We are asking for money to book a honeymoon, i doubt we will get much but a couple of hundred quid might be a decent deposit for somewhere xx
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    • MrsToniKB
      CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 14th 2017
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    I had the same thing happen to us mrs c! I haven't said anything to them directly I just aimed it through my mother in law as it was my husbands side of the family! I'm not beithered about them giving us a gift but a card would have been nice! I know exactly
    How you feel.... it annoyed me at 1st but I think now it one less than you card I have to send out, I even had guests to our evening close family night I add rave and not even turn up or give reason why just have ignored us since!
    Just let it go over your head! :)




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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 19th 2017
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    Congrats Toni!!

    We had people just not turn up or contact us since too. Deffo speaks volumes about them! x

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    • MrsToniKB
      CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2017
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    Thanks Mrs c, I couldn't agree more it really does! Xx




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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jul 24th 2017
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    Some people can be so rude. It's simply disrespectful.

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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 31st 2017
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    Totally agreen InDreamland :( x

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    • GeorginaD78
      CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
      Posted: Aug 4th 2017
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    I'd be annoyed and quite disappointed as cards can be a little keepsake for you, wouldn't bother me about the gifts but you can get a card for like 29p in ****[email protected] [email protected] lol. As for your husbands acquaintance Id have told her to go home lol. No need for rudeness on your big day. Congratulations also x

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