Why do we stress about sending out std to allow people to keep the date free, when they just go make plans anyway! Out of a possible 100 guests, only 64 are taking us up on our invitations. Excuses, booked holiday etc... Just makes me so mad!! C x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
They're the people then that you don't really want there. The people who really want to come are the ones who will make the effort. It's amazing how weddings bring out peoples true colours and also you find out who your real friends are and how much family value you ..........sounds harsh in a way but speaking from experience of my sisters wedding last year where a number of people are no longer on the Christmas card list.
It is really frustrating though. Just think of the cash you'll save xxx
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorclare0481
and the cash we won't get for the honeymoon lol. C x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Oh bummer, they may not have given enough to cover their per head cost anyway. Or they may not come but still get you that pressie ;) x
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorkimi1987
i had this problem with my dads brother. i dont even class him as family anymore, decided to not send invites to him, his wife and my cousins. to me weddings bring 2 families together and i wanted mine to be there but clearly other things were more important to them. dont stress about it hun but like indreamland said think of the cash you'll save or maybe invite other people who you would like to spend you special day with xx
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That is the point, we invited everyone who we wanted there to share our special day! I know you're all right but it doesn't stop you feeling unimportant :(. C x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I know, my parents are still smarting from a few people last year at sisters wedding and they're now off my guest list .........including one of my cousins, only these people confirmed attendance so we booked with them, added them to the table plans and then a couple of them two days before the wedding cancelled, and a few just didn't show on the day. Grrrrr xxx
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorClareS
I've sent out save the dates for those far away and those closer by I've told them the details. Invites will be going out as soon as I can get my but into gear and get them printed. I know my close family will be there and some friends have already made travel arrangements. Other than that I really don't mind if people back out. I'll be budgeting for them coming, but come the rsvp deadline if no reply then they aint coming. After reading some previous threads on related subjects peoples excuses seem to be getting more and more extravagant. I'm going to try and not let it affect me and say it'll be their loss, although I'll probably still be upset lol x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Trust me, on the day you won't miss them! My sis and BIL had it from both sides letting them down and they still had their perfect day and said that they wouldn't change a thing. You'll be on top of the world xxx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorclare0481
Another Clare that spells their name the same as me :)! C x
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
It's upsetting, i can imagine but they're not worth getting upset over hun. 64 is still a large number of people to have at your wedding and you'll still have such an amazing day, BIG HUGS xx
CommentAuthorclare0481
Thanks peeps :)! C x
CommentAuthorElle23
Oh hun, this is horrid. It's your special day and they cant make the effort. It is such a shame You will still have a lovely day x
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CommentAuthorkirstyless
It is upsetting, we had the same problem, but my attitude to it in the end was, those that really wanted to spend our special day with us were making the effort. We had ours 300 miles away where my parents live, so all of Craigs family were willing to travel down and a couple of our friend/collegues aswell. Craigs friend who knew 2 years ago we were getting married down there was a nightmare! We said to him that we needed to know for definite if him and +1 were coming by a weekend cos thats when we were confirming and he said yup def...a week later no I cant come I cant afford it. Craig tried every which way - even saving the guy £100 by fixing his phone and he still said no. He was a really close friend but he mucked us about that much I want nothing to do with him now.
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Oh hun, im sorry to hear this! But if people cant be bothered to come to your wedding then it is their loss not yours! And as for the honeymoon money you may still get it! It is ettiqete (sp) that if you are invited to a wedding and cannot make it you send a card with well wishes on it along with a present or money. I dont know if many people still do this but it used to be the done thing xxx
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