Ok so my issue is that my dad hasn't really ever been around that much in my life apart from when it suits him. My step father has been around all the time and would go to the end of the world and back for me (as I'm sure my dad would after abit of hassling).
So my problem is in an idea world I would like both of them there to walk my down the aisle which I know step father would have no problem with as it is my day and what makes me happy and all that but my dad on the other hand is likely to have kittens at the idea and start stamping his feet.
Has anyone else been in the same or similar situation to me. Any advice would be much appreciated
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Do you really want your dad walking you down if he's not done much? If you don't talk to him you don't know how he will react, how about if your dad is unhappy about doing it with your step dad, they do half and half.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorInDreamland
This is not supposed to be what your dad wants, it's about what you want. What would make you happy?
My FIL and SIL don't have a good relationship, as in SIL just can't stand him, so he was lucky to even get an invite to the wedding. Hubby walked her down the aisle and had the spot at the top table and did the speech. FIL was relegated to being a regular guest with no status.
She chose what would make her happy on her big special day. I'd say you need to decide what it is you really want. Walking down the aisle is such a special moment and the person at your side then is really important, it needs to be the person you really really want to have that honour.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorSarahD992
Thanks both for the advice. Going have to sit on this one and tread carefully I think as I know what ever I do my dad will find s away of twisting it to be my fault somehow
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Your dad really should be grateful that you want your step dad to do the job as well and not just your dad. It shows that he's done a good job as stepping in at a father figure for you
If your dad hasnt exactly been much of a dad to you I dont see how he can expect to walk you down the aisle anyway.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorLindseyW58
In your case I think I would have my step-dad.
CommentAuthorSusanM34
I'm in a similar situation. I only found my Dad about 5 years ago, but since then he is always there when we need him. My step dad has been my father for the last 15 years. I wanted them both to do it, but my Dad said he's willing to step aside for the day and let my step-dad do the job. It hasn't made the decision any easier and my step-dad isn't even happy that my dad will be there for the wedding. I have ended up asking my step-dad. Still really nervous about the whole thing though! Suggest to them both the idea of having them both do the job and ask what their thoughts on it are. I would say to get some advice from people close to you (maybe not your mum though) see what they think and try to make a decision from there. Good luck :) x
