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    • bride2b90
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Mar 12th 2015
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    Hi guys,

    some of you have probe read about the issues with my sister and my mum being a cow... but it just gets worse and worse each day am getting fed up with my mum and tbh i really would rather she feffed off... I am trying to get her involved but overtime i speak about things i get "mmm" or "well thats not how your supposed to have it" ITS MY WEDDING ILL HAVE IT HOW I WAnT IT!!!!! we have chosen to buy our button holes n and bridesmaids flowers off eBay according to mother "your weddings going to look so tacky" Im not really interested in flowers so when I said I was going to have a single rose to carry down the isle "pfft, you'll only look stupid" when I told her we weren't going to spend loads on our rings for the wedding but buy our official wedding rings for our 1year anniversary "cheap rings! cheap flowers the whole day is going to look cheap" Ive bought our cake from a girl our friend knows "bet you she gets it wrong she's not in a shop and its not official so you can't even demand anything when she ruins it" and if thats not bad enough me and my sister art talking because she is just staring trouble between us!!! I've had enough i was just trying to keep her involved and all she keeps is negativity and nastiness.

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    • DonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Mar 12th 2015
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    I just wouldn't talk to her about it to be honest. I think carrying a single rose will look lovely :) I also like the idea of getting the rings for your one year anniversary, what a lovely way to celebrate and also means you don't have that cost on top of the rest of your wedding. As for friends doing your cake, so many people on here have friends or family making their cake, we have a friend making our cake.

    Our parents aren't as bad as yours, but they do make comments like ''oh, I've never seen that before'' as if it's a bad thing, personally we like the idea of things being different and also neither sets of parents have really been to any weddings since the 80's or 90's so what they have seen at weddings aren't exactly what people do now. (we had that comment about the cake being served on the evening buffet and about having an ice-cream cart)

    But back to your problem, just don't share any details with her. I'd say speak to her and tell her she's upsetting you, but from what you've said before I doubt it would have much of an effect, especially with your sisters influence, so just don't give her the opportunity to say anything.

    • michgib
      Got married 18 months ago
      Posted: Mar 12th 2015
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    She is getting worse.
    a single rose will be lovely.
    if she is bothered tell her to pay that will probably shut her up.
    cheer up and just ignore her xx
    • MrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Mar 12th 2015
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    Personally I wouldn't talk to her about anything and if she asks tell her minimal information. At end of day its ur wedding its ur way so her opinion is just that her opinion, nothing else. Try not to let her get u down sounds like she is jealous that u are doing it how u want. Maybe ur mum didnt have the day she wanted and is taking it out on u. I'd just talk to people who are positive and happy and those who r negative just don't feed them any information x
    • Emmilou82
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Mar 13th 2015
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    It's such a shame that people are like this. It's ur day and you are damn right, if you want it, you have it!! Do not let her spoil your plans and dampen your wedding spirits.
    I echo what the others have said, just don't tell her...... Come on here and talk to us about it. Keep your chin up hun x

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Mar 13th 2015
    Try not to let her get to you. At the end of the day it's your wedding. We are having cheap rings that we aren't planning on replacing. It doesn't matter if you spend £10 or £1000000 on them it is the meaning of them which is important.
    I've seen brides with a single flower and its beautiful :)
    • Mrs D2B
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      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Mar 13th 2015
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    Just ignore her give her as little info as possible and prove her wrong by doing what you want and having the most beautiful day!! I think a single flower is a lovely idea and I especially like your ring idea... I might suggest that one to h2b see if he's up for doing that. The lady who's doing my cake doesn't work from a shop but she is known for being the best around and her cakes are amazing. Try not to worry about your mum too much (I know easier said than done, I have mum troubles too and they are more upsetting than any other trouble) just enjoy planning YOUR perfect day xx

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    • Velcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 13th 2015
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    dont tell her anything anymore, but be prepared for the pity party when she starts with OH IM NOT INVOLVED, WOE IS MEEEE

    We had the exact same issues with my mother in law, she was awful, this is wrong that is wrong, you cant have this you cant have that, a personal favourite was when i said we want to be a bit quirky, not mainstream because hearts and flowers just isnt 'us', she said, its not quirky though is it, its just difffernt (erm....what?)

    SO we just gave up involving her/telling her things, then got the whole WE ARENT INVOLVED I DONT WANT TO COME sh1te to go with it, so when i called her out on the above comments, she was like, well its MY opinion, if you dont like it, dont ask. Me and my husband are in our 30's we knew exactly what we wanted and what we like and are into. so I/we weren't asking for opinions on the things we wanted/liked, and still got, 'dont like it, you should have this' or 'its supposed to be a wedding, you can't have a traditional wedding dress and not have everything else traditional. Uhm, why not?

    You can't please some people

    I can totally sympathise with you xxx

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    • CamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Mar 13th 2015
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    It must be terrible not be able to count on your own mother to help you. I would go with what the ladies said, don't tell her anything else about the wedding and don't change the things you want because of what she thinks! Your wedding will be lovely :D
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