Wedding Forum - When to have it...

Im not fussed on a hen night but im gettin hounded about doing something.. but also its been left to me to organise?

Anyway wedding is 31st july when idealy should it be held? Im trying to sort it where the most ppl can go as the idea out to me was a medieval banquet which r good fun but u do idealy need quite a few ppl. Mam said to me 11th july but hardly any1 can do. The only other weekend i think is any good is 4th july bt i know for sure one of my good mates cnt go or a weekend end of june i snt wana ask every their free dates i just want it sorted so ppl get off my back lol

11th is the only day free for banquet so amy other days would need a different plan i was thinkin cocktails and then a meal bt i fot twisted at "cocktails start 4.30 rhats too early"

Cant seem to win

HELP!! :-) xx

Haha i dnt think cocktails can be too early!! But my aunty has said the banquet is fun even if just a few ppl so looks like thats still on the cards.. im sure the place we go to do cocktails aswell lol x

i have 2 bridesmaids one has her last day of radiotherapy treatment tomorrow so i get it shes had much bigger things to think about than a hen night n my wedding ive been there for her n its always her whos brought the weddin up.not me i didnt want to make anything me me me.. but i found out the other day she had started planning something msg around every1 before her treatment started n wanted sil (my other bm) to take over the planning untill after this weekend. She didnt reply didnt take over and has changed it all completely :-/

Im going to take my friend to a spa probably after the wedding as shes been a massive help even before i asked her to be bm

Its all been left a bit late as u say.. i did know it was meant to be a suprise hen nothing ott but its turned out im now organising it lol thx sil top bridesmaid ;-)

Its hard for all of us as we all have kids aswell
Nm :-) whoever can make it will make it and whoever cnt will party away at the wedding we will make up for it im sure :-)

Thx for replies its all a bit rushed bt think we will stick.with the 11th july or its going to get confusing! :-)

And u!!

I'm planning on having my hen 1-2 months before the wedding :) I'm planning my own as well - out of choice xx

I'm considering planning my own. that or giving strict instructions. Thinking a garden tea party in the summer :)

I'll prob hav my hen about 6 weeks before. The problem is you will never get a date that will suit everyone

We sidnt plan on stag n hens the lads were comin round for a drink and i was guna just go out for a small meal with like a handfull of ppl.. its suddebly turned into him havin a crazy night n me plannin something i dint want to start with.

no matter what i say is wrong i told mam yesterday id theres not many of us we will just go to spa or just a very small meal but again i got shot down.. Id rather not bother the whole wedding hasnt exactly been about me anyway its what h2b wanta and what every1 else things n wants anything ive said has been "what about this instead" etc etc so ive gave up really
i gave up a while ago n just said yes ok if u think etc lol

The banquets are great fun and you dont need loads of people.

I had my hen night about a month before the wedding. There was around 11 of us in the end. Whatever you do, have a lovely time :)

Yea mich my aunty said even a hand full is still enough for a laugh. Will find out this weekend who can go xx thw only.other available dates are fridays and they all fall on my partners late shift so atuck to 11th july now lol x