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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
      Posted: May 19th 2014
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    So, along with my neice and my god-daughter, one of my very good friends is a BM. She's not the most popular person (especially with other females) because she has quite a high opinion of herself - but in all honesty that doesn't bother me one bit. She has a heart of gold and would help anybody in need which to me is more important than whether she's vain or not. Anyway, I showed her pics of how I'd like my hair on the day and we were discussing the BM's hairstyles at the same time. She said, I was going to have mine how you want yours but I don't want to upstage you on your wedding day!!!!! Lol, I let it go over my head as a typical vain comment but H2B and another friend think she was bang out of order and said I should have said something. She's also now said that her dress is too big (it's clearly not) and she wants to try on the other BM's dress which is 2 sizes smaller!!! I've told her to go for it if she wants to try, but I can't see why she thinks it will fit if her usual size fits great!!! I'm starting to worry that this choice of BM might be a rocky journey when all I want for my wedding day is a relaxed, casual, happy day!
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    • LeighS
      CommentAuthorLeighS
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: May 19th 2014
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    Just try to let it go over your head but you need to make sure you a not bulldozed by her regarding your plans. If she feels her own dress is to big may be suggest she gets it altered three weeks before the wedding to fit other wise she may want the other BM dress even if it is too small. Take a deep breath hun. xxx

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: May 19th 2014
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    I wouldn't take the hair comment seriously at all, I read that and though nothing of it, I joke with my BM's about them not upstaging me....seems like the groom is being a bit over sensitive lol

    Tbh, you've handled it all perfectly well, let her try her dress on if she wants, she will see it doesn't fit if it's two sizes too small, and like you said, if she needs one taking down nearer the time then that's better than having a too small dress.

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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
      Posted: May 19th 2014
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    That's what I thought Velcro - I don't see the point in causing agro if none is needed! Think H2B is concerned that she's gona be attention seeking on the day and try and take over the planning....it's not going to happen! We have a firm idea of how we want it and nothing is going to sway us from that. If she does a bit of attention seeking on the day - well so be it - why would I care as long as our wedding is special, I don't care if she wants a bit of attention - she's good fun and like I said has a heart of gold underneath the vain bit ;-) xx
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      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: May 19th 2014
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    The hair comment seems small to me, I would leave it. It's better than her insisting that her hair is done the way that yours is. The dress can easily be taken in if needed.

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: May 19th 2014
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    I agree with everyone else, I think people are being a little sensitive. It didn't bother you and you've said before you asked her you knew she could be a little like that but it doesn't bother you...


    As for the dress I think suggesting having it taken in closer to the time is the best option, you don't want her deciding she wants to swap dresses with the other bridesmaids whether it fits or not :/




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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
      Posted: May 20th 2014
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    Said BM came round last night to try on smaller dress - when I asked her if she was aware it was a size 6, she said no, she thought it was an 8 so said she wouldn't even try. By the sounds of it she needed to just try hers on again for a bit of reassurance. Her mum had seen photo's and said she thought it looked too big but after 2nd try on, her mind was put at rest that it actually fits perfectly!!!! When all's said and done, I think her "vain" attitude is a big cover up for a lack of confidence. The only thing that annoyed me a little bit was she said to my H2B on a couple of occasions, Bren, you sure you've picked the right girl??? I do look great in this dress don't i!!!???? But, that's her all over, I know she doesn't say these things with mallace - so I just ignore it and/or make a daft comment back :-)
 
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