I am a bridesmaid for my friend at the end of august.. I was round hers yesterday trying on my bridesmaid dress and asked her and her partner what they wanted as a wedding present.. either money or gifts.. they said that they didn't need or want anything..
I said we would give them money but they don't want it...
So am stuck as I don't want to turn up with nothing.. so was thinking maybe just a small token wedding gift I.e china mr and mrs cups?
I am not sure whether they have said this to everyone... or just us bridesmaids as we are paying for quite a few things as there on a budget.. we are buying our own shoes paying for our own hair and makeup and also she has mentioned staying the night before the wedding which will also cost money..
What are your guys opinions? Would we be rude to not turn up with anything?
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CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
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Personally my OH and I have said we also don't want anything for our wedding but we have advised for anyone inisisting on a gift a donation towards out honeymoon would be great.
With the fact that you guys are already paying for your shoes, makeup and they are asking you to stay the night before this is probably gift enough for the bride as far as she is concerned. Instead of buying something why not make something or get together with the bridesmaids and get her a big card with meaningful message in it. I know if it was me then that would mean so much rather than a Mr and Mrs cup which is likely to end up at the back of the kitchen cupboard.
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
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Hmm what about an experience kind of gift (BM could club together) - something small - perhaps like the James Martin company who deliver a meal to their door? £25 for a 3 course meal for two. I am not expecting anything from my bridesmaids - I have paid for all their clothing including jewllery but not for their hair, they are sorting that themselves. One BM designed our wedding stationary as our gift so essentially gave a gift of her time.
I like the idea of something handmade.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I'd see if I could find out if they have a gift list. If they don't and you want to get them something then you could just buy them something like a wedding photo frame, or an experience they can use after the wedding or honeymoon or just get vouchers.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I wouldn't expect my bridesmaids to gift anything either, although I want to pay for everything on their behalf and I don't anticipate needing them to pay for anything bridesmaid-y. If I was you I would probably just give money anyway as they could put it towards their honeymoon, or get them something sentimental that's not necessarily expensive but will be a nice thing for them to keep forever. :-) xx
