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    • AllysonW95
      CommentAuthorAllysonW95
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
     
    Ive asked my dad and step dad to walk me down the aisle. My step dad was honoured but my dad has said he'll only do it if its just him and if not he'll still come but wont sit at the top table or anything. My step dad has been around for over 10 years and been really great and my dads not always been around but i still love him and want him to give me away. I get on with both equally well and cant choose between them even though my mums side dont understand why i want my dad to do it at all. I don't agree that my step dad should go without just because my dad has made a fuss but i hate upsetting my dad. Ive asked him to do half each and even said he can do the last bit so hes the one giving me away but hes still said no. I dont know what to do or which side to pick. I know my step dad doesnt like that i want my dad to do half either but hes doing it for me. Am i wrong to still want my dad to walk me half way down the aisle and what do i do if he refuses?
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    You say you don't want to go upsetting your dad, however this is exactly what he is doing to you right now. Upsetting you. Your step dad has been a part of your life for a long time now, and I think now you need to sit down with your dad and explain your feelings fully, letting him know this is upsetting you. And to be honest, he should be grateful this man has taken you on like he has.

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    • Sarah D
      CommentAuthorSarah D
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    I agree with GF defo talk to your dad and explain your feelings, he needs to think of what makes you happy xx

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    Id speak to your dad. It's understandable that you have built a relationship with your step-dad after him being in your life for so long but still have the connection with your dad to want him there too.
    by sharing it you aren't pushing either of the 2 of them away. Its a way of saying thanks to both of them and not picking sides between them.

    I wouldn't back down but just explain why you want it that way to him and then see what he says.

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    Your dad needs to stop being selfish and put what you want first. As GF said, you don't want to upset your dad, but he is the one upsetting you right now! I can understand how it may be hard from his perspective but we are in the 21st century and these family set ups are very common now. As said above he should be grateful to your step dad for being a part of your life and helping you become the woman you are today. I think having them both walk you down the aisle would be fab and a lovely gesture to them both. Hopefully a good chat with your dad will make him realise how important it is to you xx

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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    I agree with Floss, he needs to stop being selfish.

    I have a rocky relationship with my Dad, he attended the wedding but was no different to any other "normal" guest. I was concerned he would kick up a fuss, but he said to my MIL that the day was about me and my husband so he kept quiet. My brother walked me down the aisle, it was a no brainer.

    But yes, have a chat with him so he understands.

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    Because I was faced with the same issue, I walked down the aisle with my brother. Solved the problem.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2015
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    It's unfair to make you have to choose. He needs to respect your wishes.

    Try talking about it to him like others have said. Hope you can get it resolved x

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    • JoanneH4
      CommentAuthorJoanneH4
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Oct 7th 2015
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    You should tell your family how this decision that you are making for your perfect day is making you feel. As for who is walking down you down the aisle is up to you because it's your choice. Who do you want to walk you down the aisle before you say 'I do'
 
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