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    • LeanneS91
      CommentAuthorLeanneS91
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    H2bs parents were here last night and they asked about numbers of people coming to the wedding. We said about 120. Then all of a sudden they start mentioning people who we hadn't even thought of. But they had so they have invited them. They left and me and my h2b sat and wrote a list of everyone who will be coming. Turns out there's 178 people at least! Rang my mam today totally stressed. And I was telling her the extra people r actually people I've never met. There like h2bs 2nd cousins and stuff. I'm not even inviting many of my own cousins for the simple fact I don't see them.
    Rang the rugby club where we will all be going after church and they've said max capacity is 130 and there's no way we can have more due to Health and safety. Which I totally understand.
    My mam was saying to tell his parents there going to have to uninvite people but... They are paying for the room, dj and food. And I think because they are paying this they feel like they can invite who they want. I have 40 people coming and h2b now has 138!
    Everything has been stress free until the last two weeks!!!

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    I know it's Easier said than done, but I would put my foot down. Not only have you never met these people and your OH obviously isn't that bothered about them or they would already be on the list, but they literally cannot come because of health and safety laws! Depending on the relationship youhave with his parents, either you or OH need to tell his parents that the extra people can't come. If they kick up a fuss and don't listen, get the venue to tell them and make them realise it's law that's stopping them, not you being awkward x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    Eeek, that's an awkward situation :( even if they are paying for elements of your wedding, that doesn't give them the right to invite whoever they want, especially without even consulting you first! I would be absolutely livid if my FMIL did that! She could have at least ran it by you first to 1) make sure that you would be ok with it and 2) that your venue can actually hold that many people!

    She will have to un-invite people.. it's not your fault, but you can't be expected to scribble people off the list who you actually want to be there just to make room for loads of random people that someone else wants there.

    Wishing you all the best. Hope it gets sorted x

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    Just say your room has a number limit because of fire regs so they need to tell 2nd cousins 45 times removed that they can come to the evening do

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    Omg how can she do that so near your wedding what a silly woman. IF YOU OR OH wanted them there they would have been in the first place.

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    Why did THEY invite them? It's your wedding. Like Elizabeth said, you would have thought about them if you wanted them there. Invite who YOU want, not who other people want, or out of obligation x
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 26th 2014
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    I'm surprised that they've left it so late to discuss guests and numbers with you. Did they not think to check numbers before they invited people? Ultimately it should be your call, you shouldn't have to turn friends away for people you don't know. Is there a danger that they will withdraw their financial contribution if you put your put down? Could you compromise and suggest a party after your honeymoon that all those random cousins could attend? Is there space for them at the ceremony only?

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