Taken from a tip search on line but thought was really useful so wanted to share! CAN'T SAY WHERE FROM BECAUSE OF THE RULES ON HERE BUT IF YOU WANT A LINK LET ME KNOW AND i'LL ADD TO YOUR WALL
If like me this is your second wedding and want to get your kids involved as much as possiable here are a few tips for you. Ive also made the girls part of the service my finding some vows for them and matt to say to each other with all 3 exchanging necklaces :-) (i better make sure i can still do this as now doing abroad???? hmmm)
Tips for getting the kids involved
Making children part of a second wedding will help allay any concerns. Here’s how to make them a part of everything... Children don’t necessarily look forward to a second marriage in the way that the parent who is getting remarried does.
In fact, the whole idea of the wedding itself may be traumatic for the children of the bride or groom -- their lives are changing as well as those of their parents, the difference being that the adults have chosen to make the change, whereas the children are often just expected to fit in.
It’s important, therefore, for parents and stepparents to carefully consider the children's needs when it comes to the wedding. How can the children be drawn into the wedding plans and be encouraged to feel that they too have played a part in the decision making?
Here are a few ideas:
•The invitations could include the children's names or even be from them, inviting friends and relatives to their parent's wedding. •Separate invitations from the children could be sent to their own friends and young relatives, they could have their own 'reception' •Older children could be invited to take part in the ceremony by giving a reading, making a speech or proposing a toast. •Sons and daughters, even quite young ones, can act as best man, ushers, bridesmaids or flower girls. •The bride could be escorted down the aisle by her child or children, who could 'give her away'. •A nice touch would be a separate decorated sponge cake for the children and they could ceremoniously cut it at the same time their parents cut theirs, then be given the responsibility to hand it around to the younger guests. This also allows a choice of cake for the adults who may not appreciate the richness of traditional wedding cake. How to make your second marriage celebrations a fantastic success! Second weddings are just as important as your first -- it's a commitment between two people and deserves a big celebration. nearly 50 per cent of all marriages performed last year were second weddings for at least one, if not both partners. Despite doing it all before though, you might find that there are new things you need to know second time around.
From second wedding laws and religious information, to church wedding criteria, to involving children in the celebrations, this confetti perfect planner is your essential planning tool for your second time around...
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CommentAuthorSuffolkSteph
great tips....
CommentAuthorclaire1984
another set of great tips Hails :-) x
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CommentAuthorJane
Some great suggestions! I'm very lucky because my kids are really happy about my 2nd marriage, they all adore my H2B and he loves them to bits too. My two girls (17 & 19) are going to be bridesmaids and lead me down the 'aisle' and my son (15, will be 16 then) may be best man if H2Bs brother cant make it. The really nice thing though is that their father will hopefully be coming to the evening reception with his GF as we are still really good friends and H2B and he get on brilliantly (have got quite drunk together on a number of occasions!)
CommentAuthorMrscarter2b
Hi there, I'm on my second marriage, my h2b's first. My eldest son will be 14 so he's giving me away and my youngest will be 10 so he's going to be a joint best man and ringbearer. Non of them want to do a speech but they will definitely be included in ours xx
