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    • clarebear1
      CommentAuthorclarebear1
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    Seriously thinking about cancelling our wedding in UK and pis**** off to Gretna Green Just me HTB and few family members, my so called bridesmaid can never be bothered picking up fone to see how I am , I always make the effort, she never wants to come mine for a drink or do anything, No one seems that interest when Im talking about it to bridesmaids etc about dress'es and that it sounds like Im a monster I dont talk about the wedding loads but try to have a little input, and why should I go out to work to save about £7000 for half the people coming dont like me and dont give me the time of day, I had my heart set on scotland and changed my mind so everyone could come our wedding but again thinking about everyone else instead of me and HTB, I will only lose £300.00 the deposit for wedding reception, head is battered

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    • MorgsysGirl(kempy)
      CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    Hunny if it was me I'd do whats going to make me happy. If thats scotland and you want it more intimate then go for it especially if you dont mind loosing the £300. Gretna have some great packages!!

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    • MrsHardy2be
      CommentAuthorMrsHardy2be
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    It's ur day so do Wat ur heart wants, maybe it don't have to be gretna u could still have the wedding of ur dreams
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    • maryannt
      CommentAuthormaryannt
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    I think ypu have to do what you want
    after all its your day
    you shouldnt just be doing things just to please other people especially if they arent making the effort back
    xx
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    • CommentAuthorbridalmiss
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    Exactly, it's your lasting memories at the end of the day and rather than feel over anxious about other people then have a smaller wedding :-)
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    • starlighthunny
      CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    Do what your heart tells you chick x

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    • clarebear1
      CommentAuthorclarebear1
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    I know we did Initially first want to book Greta Green and Just have about 20 people parents/grandparents/sisters and few friends, but than we changed our mind and again thinking about everyone else thught it was not fair people hacving to travel to scotland even tho we wud of hired mini bus and paid for hotel, really dont know what to do, dont want people being funny like aunties and uncles etc as we would not be able to pay for them, I just cant be arsed with people coming our wedding that dont give u the time of day, but were I live its open invitation to every party its a small community were everyone knows everyone and every one is related, U cant fart without someone knowing thats hiw bad it is

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    • clarebear1
      CommentAuthorclarebear1
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    I can spend £7000 on wedding in UK have church wedding recepption and 100 people for the night, or go comlongon castle in scotland get mini bus up with about 16 very close people to us, get married in amazing setting have a lovely meal get drunk and and that will still cost £7000 dont know what to do what so ever lol

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    • A.Bird2b
      CommentAuthorA.Bird2b
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    If its what you want then to he11 with everyone else and what they think! This is your wedding and it should be your choice, if you think that you will have a happier day, surrounded by just the people you love the most then go for it. Its not worth spending all that money on something you won't love when you can have your perfect day without worrying about all the people you don't like.
    Keep your chin up chick, think about what your wedding means to you and try not to worry too much about other people.
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    • clarebear1
      CommentAuthorclarebear1
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    I know I just dont want to offend HTB aunties and uncles as we cud not pay for them to come scotland, we will be payin for parents, grandparents, best friends x 6 to come in mini bus, also hotel paid for there will be 20 of us these r the only people that matter to me, aunties, uncles cousins are all HTB side as mine live in Australia they dont really make the effort with me didnt even congratulate me on engagement the place is amazing *************** had me heart on it since we got engaged last xmas

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    • Kerrylou
      CommentAuthorKerrylou
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2011
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    Hi cfox hun
    I'm going to give you the benefit of my experience - Ross and I were supposed to get married in July this year but for so many reasons we postponed, one of the big reasons was because suddenly our big day wasn't about us anymore and the frustration got the better of us. You can spend the entire of the run up to the wedding wondering if it's going to be 'perfect' when the sad truth is you will NEVER please everybody and eventually the day will no longer be about you getting married but running around like an idiot trying to keep everyone sweet.
    For the benefit of everyone else we were going to have a church wedding, invite everyone, have a big reception yada yada yada and do you know what? It was (in part) the most miserable 18 months of my life. Now we've sat and reassessed what we want we've gone for a registry office and we're all going out for a few drinks around York, that suits us perfectly!

    If you have your heart set on Scotland then go and do it, do not feel guilty about having the wedding day you and your h2b want - you've got 12 months, if aunts, uncles, neighbours, whoever want to be there then they have plenty of time to save up. I can't stress to you enough how important it is that you make your day about you and if a few family members get offended then really, that is very much their problem and not yours!
    Good luck petal, I truly hope it all works out for you both
    xxx

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    • mym72
      CommentAuthormym72
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Sep 20th 2011
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    We were originally going to get married in Leeds - but costs were escalating and guest list was getting longer - so we decided on Gretna Green and couldn't have been happier!!!

    We had just 19 of us (my aunty was ill so couldn't travel) and had an amazing day.

    There's another thread about Gretna Green and tips hanging around here if you want to know any more...

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    • Mrs Stocks 2B
      CommentAuthorMrs Stocks 2B
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 20th 2011
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    What we are thinking of doing is close family coming to gretna green about 20 getting married then going for a meal then afew days later having a reception back home with everyone else.

    There is a fab looking castle down there and it is all rather reasonably priced and with only 20 of us we can spend more on us as a family rather that other guests who need invited.

    Go for it if you want married in scotland do. Its your day and you should have it your way

    good luck xxx




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    • clarebear1
      CommentAuthorclarebear1
      Posted: Sep 20th 2011
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    Ive decided its Gretna Green with 12 of us, parents, grandparents and siblings there the ones that matter plus its gonna be a winter wedding in scotland Im so excited now, sending our deposits next week, have lost £300 gutted but learnt my lesson and this time its about me and htb and not everyone else, thanks for your advice ladies much appreciated xxxxxx

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    • becky -mrs firth
      CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 20th 2011
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    i wudnt pay for hotel rooms for people! ure parents etc can pay for their own! i wudnt dream of lettin the bride n groom pay!

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    • kimmy
      CommentAuthorkimmy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 20th 2011
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    Good for you hun, let people pay for there own rooms though, stick to your guns and enjoy planning your wedding!! :D
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    • Kerrylou
      CommentAuthorKerrylou
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Sep 20th 2011
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    Good for you! And the ladies are right, let people pay for their own rooms, as I said, they have 12 months to save up for it!
    xxx

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    • KerryBolderson2be
      CommentAuthorKerryBolderson2be
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Oct 13th 2015
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    so, here it goes. we are now thinking about gretna green instead of a registry office. i have looked on the website and they offer packages just for the bride and groom and provide the witnessess which i think is perfect for me.(i suffer bad from anxiety and i think having my family around me is too much, i much prefer a private ceromany just me and my oh). anyway has anyone done this before. how did u get on. the package i have found is the romance package at the mill forge which is £445 obviously price dependant to 2017 it includes ceromany venue, 2 nights in the bridal suite intimate 4 course meal for bride and groom, bucks fizz on arrival, sparkling wine to celebrate, witnesses if required (something we need) and a wedding planner assistance.. now how did this work for you guys like on the day of the wedding not letting the groom see the dress & obviously help getting into the dress. transport is it something thats needed tp get to the ceromany, is the 2 nights stay near?. and obviously we want photography how did you choose your photographer.. and most importantly what did you do after in terms of the meal and everything else ? arghh im pulling my hair out

    Sorry for the long post im trying to find something thats perfect for us and gretna green sounds just that, but not making any decisions without hearing other peoples opinions and storys oof how theirs went. p.s i have never been to a wedding only seen it on the tv so i have no idea thankyou xxx

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