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    • Becca08
      CommentAuthorBecca08
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    hi i am a newbie to ukbride! and it is all very new and exciting!
    i was wondering for those brides who are close to their big day or have even already had it, how much their wedding cost in total and if it is actually possible to have a budget wedding and if anyone had any issues with bookings etc and how you managed to overcome it?

    many thanks!
    Becca x
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    • Linzi-jo
      CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Hi Becca and welcome! I got married two months ago and our final cost was just shy of £14,000 (not including honeymoon). We had a church wedding and our reception in a marquee at an old farm house, but we did have 123 day guests and nearly 170 evening guests which really bumped the cost up as they all needed feeding and watering! We had no problems with booking anything but I did find that everything was much more expensive than I thought it would be. Cost really depends on what type of wedding you want and what you need, whether you are paying for the bridal parties outfits, hair, make-up (we paid for five bridesmaids and three groomsmen on top of our own outfits), what kind of photography coverage you want, what kind of transport you want if any, what type of wedding dress you want etc. There are ways of cutting costs, it's just whether or not you are happy to go without things or have cheaper things as to how much it will cost you :) xxx

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    • CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
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    My budget is about 2.5k and so far we r doing good keeping it as low as possible infact everything is booked its just the little things n now which may kick.it up but not by alot! :-)
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    • EmmaH444
      CommentAuthorEmmaH444
      Got married 4 years ago
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    Looks like we'll be getting married around the same time. We have just started seriously looking at venues etc (been engaged 15 months) and my brain is fried! Like Linzi-Jo said, things seem to cost more than I thought they would. You just have to decided what you can afford and what you really want and would be disappointed to go without. x

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    • barbie86
      CommentAuthorbarbie86
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Ours cost a lot more than we ever imagined, with the biggest costs being food and drink, photography, and attire. Our total came in at about £25k with the wedding rings and honeymoon another £6.8k. That was for 61 people for the day, and another 15 or so for the evening (had about 6 no-shows). Food and drink was our single biggest cost at about £9k; that included what turned out to be a pretty much open bar (with a few exclusions) from 7pm-2.30am.

    You can do it a lot cheaper; I've seen budgets on here ranging from £2-30k. It really depends on what you want. I'd say that the biggest way to save money is by having a smaller guest list.
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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
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    Ours is looking to be around 14k not including honeymoon at the moment for a Saturday in August.
    But there are ways of cutting costs, eg. having registry office wedding, having a buffet instead of evening meal, and choosing days/times of year that are classed as off-peak :)

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
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    We thought we would only spend about £5k, but spend about £12k (could be more, I stopped counting). We had no issues with booking anything as we got married on a Tuesday
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    • JEm1905
      CommentAuthorJEm1905
      Got married 21 months ago
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    Welcome to the gang!
    Our Civil Partnership cost us under 1k to do it... When we remarry I have set aside between 6-8k and intend to have change after including the american honeymoon!!

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
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    Our wedding 18 months ago cost £24k not including the honeymoon, but this is the place to come if you're looking for hints and tips on a budget wedding.

    The ladies on here can help with ideas for saving money on pretty much everything.

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    • JR2015
      CommentAuthorJR2015
      Posted: Nov 3rd 2014
     
    We are looking at spending around £10k. We managed to get a really good package deal with our venue which includes wedding breakast, drinks package, evening buffet, room hire, overnight accommodation for me and h2b and disco for the evening which came in at £3k.
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
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    We are getting married on a Saturday next August and it's going to come in at around £12,000 without honeymoon which is a wedding present from our best man! It all depends on how many people you have coming a lot of the time then it's down to what you prioritize as important to you and your fiance really. Some people prefer to spend more on the venue, others photography, others the dress etc. etc. so just make a list of what you want, then make a budget and go from there to see what you can get for your money! Also and congratulations xx

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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Ours is looking like it will be around £14K including the honeymoon. We have found that it's not what you know it's who you know. We have a friend doing our flowers for a reasonable price, our wedding car is free (it's a friends car and we're getting it for free with him driving it in exchange for an invite to the wedding), my Dad is paying for my Half Sisters bridesmaid dress and my Sister is paying for my Nieces flowergirl dress (I didn't ask they offered). We also got a discount on the DJ because we saw him at a friends birthday party a few years ago.

    We found it also pays to book early. We got a discount on the suit hire because we booked early (OHs Sister hired the suits for her wedding from the same shop and we're paying over £25 less for the same number of suits).

    Our photographer also gave us a £100 discount because our wedding in April is just outside full on wedding season, apparently.

    We've done a spreadsheet of what we think it will cost and what each thing actually costs. It was quite scary when we first looked at it but helped us plan our budget.

    Good luck with your planning :o)
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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
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    I think you can have a budget wedding if you're happy to give up on a few things? Our wedding was around £19k total including our honeymoon to jamaica, our venue and catering cost just over £9k of it though with us having a country barn wedding, photographer a second cost of £995 , and everything else going from there. Honeymoon cost us £1700 for us both all inclusive. Just depends what u want x

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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
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    My budget is 8000, the wedding will be at Lincolnshire, and as far as I've seen, we won't spend all this money (not including honeymoon). We have loads of time to find ways to make it cheap and still make it special. I found the wedding dress I dream about for £250 and I can't wait to be able to purchase it lol
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
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    We are looking at around £12k, without the honeymoon. My parents are being amazing and have offered to pick up the venue bill, which will be around £6k, my dad is sorting out our photographer as he is in the field himself, my mum has offered to buy my dress and also our honeymoon(!), although we will be putting any money we are gifted on the day towards the honeymoon. We are looking to save about £6k ourselves to cover all bases but hopefully won't spend more than £5k ourselves. Gosh typing that all out makes me realise how lucky we are.

    Before we did ANYTHING, we sat down and worked out how much we could realistically save and how long it would take us to save enough to pay for what we wanted.. for us, we weren't really willing to compromise on much as both had our hearts set on our 'dream day', so we were prepared to wait a little bit longer to get married so that we had more time to save. Initially we worked everything out as if we would be paying for it ourselves with no help from family.

    Budget weddings can be done.. I'd say one of the best money savers is DIY-ing things.. your invites, your table plans, your place cards, your centre pieces, etc. Choosing artificial flowers rather than real can also knock down costs (depending on where you get them from, if you have silk/foam etc.). You also don't have to go mad on the honeymoon.. a UK 'minimoon' would be just as lovely, or you could find a relatively cheap deal abroad that's not necessarily branded as a 'honeymoon package'. There are ways to do it but I do think you have to be willing to compromise on certain things xx

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
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    Our wedding is at about £12k without a honeymoon. That depends on how much we are gifted as we won't be going anywhere until about 4 months after our wedding.

    We are the same flossie, were also paying about 6k and my dad and OHs parents paying about a quarter each.

    I think one of the biggest factors to keeping the cost down is the size of the guest list and also venue. do as much DIY as you can and use friends/family to help if they have something to offer (anyone with sn interest in photography or people who like baking could help, creative people with invites)

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    • MrsEmmaP
      CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
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    I am looking at around £2.5K as I am trying to keep costs down as much as possible. My parents are being wonderful and paying for half of the venue, cars and our honeymoon so that saves us a lot of money. Things are starting to add up for me and I've still got a while to go, but I am finding ways to do it cheaper by shopping around and getting people to help out (I have asked a school friend to make my cake and H2B's friend is a photographer). If you shop around you can find things for very cheap and still have your dream wedding, I am making invitations and favours myself and getting everything I want but at the cheapest price I can.
    The thing that has saved us the most money is cutting out the wedding breakfast, we are getting married late afternoon and going straight into the evening reception, this has saved us at least £1000.

    Sit down and work out how much you can realistically afford, we have rent and bills to pay and don't have high paying jobs so we knew it would be a struggle to save and we knew definitely couldn't afford an expensive wedding, but when I looked into it I realised that wasn't really what I wanted anyway and there are ways of doing everything you want cheaper. If you get married out of season it will keep costs down a lot, we are May but even then we have found a few discounts.

    Instead of booking a honeymoon you could ask your guests for money towards one that you could take a month or so after the wedding, this means you wouldn't have the added stress of saving for that too, or you could have a short break in the UK then save for a honeymoon later.

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    • AmyN135
      CommentAuthorAmyN135
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Our wedding is costing us about £5500, honeymoon not included (that's an extra £4k!). That is with my sister paying for flowers, my parents paying for venue, a friend doing our photography for our present, another doing all our stationery, my Gran buying my bridesmaid dresses, a friend paying for our wedding car and £1000 in engagement gift money having went towards deposit. We would have had to wait another year at least for our wedding if we were paying for it all ourselves. The help we are having/had has been amazing.
    I think poeple spend so much on gimmicky things like LED dancefloors, candy carts etc which are all nice if you really want and like that stuff, but it all adds up to so much!!
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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Hey welcome, will bump the budget bride thread for you where everyone with a budget under £10,000 some substantially less have given a breakdown of there costs.

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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
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    Its not always easy to budget but you have to be strict with yourself...
    I am working with a 4k budget and ii have recently lost my job so i am sticking to it..

    i have made a lot of choices for things to be DIY, such as invites, cakes and favours which i hope cut costs..
    friends with a nice car, i have found photographer and possible videographer for free..

    and i plan to go to france to get alcohol for the day.

    the catering is what is taking up the majority of the expense so im thinking to cut the guest that eat and prepare an evening buffet for evening guests.


    it can be done.. you just have to be disciplined.
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Our cost is currently sitting at £15.5k without honeymoon, im trying to claw as much back as possible so we shall see what the final cost is hoping it will come in under 15k our photographer is only costing £150 as its my sisters ffil, my dress £1200 and the venue is about £6.5k

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    our wedding so far has reached around £37k and that's without the honeymoon which we've priced up at around £5-6k we never had an initial budget but i think looking back at it if we had sat down and decided what we want to spend on each thing we probably wouldn't of gone as overboard! lol
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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Wow 37k without a honeymoon!! And I thought ours was extreme lol!

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    • SydnieH
      CommentAuthorSydnieH
      Got married 5 years ago
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    We had a budget of £5000 and have gone past that. You can try and guess the cost of things but there is just no way you can be sure until you get out there and look. We found the venue has a lot of costs that are difficult early on to guess, such as the cost for food depends on your guest list, which at the time we only had a rough idea of. We wanted a small 40 day guests wedding and as much as we have stayed small that number has gone up to 60, which at about £20 a head per course is a lot of money. As for flowers etc we shopped around and we have gotten all our flower including button holes and our favors from the same person for about £150 Our entertainer is quite pricey but for the length of time we have him for it's not too bad and cheaper than the string quartet my H2B wanted. For my dress, I wasn't cutting corners, I knew what I wanted and it had to be perfect, I really hit lucky to find the most perfect dress on sale, reduced from about £1500 to £300 simply because they didn't have the space so the agreement was I could have it cheaper if I took it home with me there and then and stored it myself, go back in January for her to measure an adjust it if needs be.
    We're up to approx. £7000 all together, honeymoon is looking to cost approx. £3500 for 16 days within 2 different countries.
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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    tbh kelbel i didn't know how much we had initially spend until we sat down and priced everything up! im very fortunate that my parents offered to pay for the wedding when we announced our engagement and they've done very well for themselves in life so told me i could have what u wanted as I'm only going to get married once- but we've still not arranged everything in that £37k though :-/ so thats likely to rise! weddings are such expensive things aren't they!! and before you know it suddenly you are in double figures!!

    and we will be paying for our own honeymoon and then any money we get from guests as a gift we will put away in savings to put towards buying our new house
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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
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    My parents are paying for my wedding too, but since £1=R$4 (brazilian money), it's not that easy lol I've set £8k as the maximum that I can think about spending, BUT I don't want to spend this much, I want to spend up to £6k.
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Our biggest cost was the reception, at about £6500. However that included the room hire, wedding breakfast, buffet, wine with the meal, sparkling wine for toasts, all the setting up of the room, and our room for the night, plus a discounted rate for any of our guests staying in the hotel. The church was my husband's church so cost us nothing, and both the vicar and organist waived their fees with it being a congregation member. The music was done by friends, and my mum and aunt decorated the church. My dress was £450 as it was a sample, and my bridesmaids dresses came to about £600 for five dresses. The photographer was £800, and the videographer £500, but the £500 might have been a bit of a mate's rate. Suit hire was about £150 I think. Artificial bouquets were about £150, and the church flowers were done by a florist across the road from the church for about £200. She also did button holes and corsages. The car was £200. We did our own favours which were CDs of music from the day, which we did ourselves, so we just paid for the blank CDs and labels to personalise them. We also did our own centrepieces. The other big expense was the honeymoon which cost about £2500. We saved money on the cake by getting friends to each bake a layer and ice it in either blue or white icing, and then decorating them simply with ribbon and flowers. It was very stressful though. All in all I'd say the wedding cost about £14000, allowing for small expenses that don't necessarily get noticed but add up.

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    • KimberleyR78
      CommentAuthorKimberleyR78
      Got married 5 years ago
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    We don't really have a budget but are trying to do as cheaply as possible. Both of us have quite a good sense of what we are willing to pay for something. I expect we will pay around £7000 in total excluding honeymoon. We are going to ask for money towards honeymoon as our gift list. We will be going home to New Zealand though so hopefully we can keep costs down there by sometimes staying with friends and family.


    Our biggest cost will be the reception at £70 per head with a minimum of 60 guests, but this includes meal, drinks reception,drinks for the toasts, setting up of room, evening buffet, chair covers and sachets, a room of us on the wedding night and discounted rates for guests. Oh and the seating plan.

    We are making invitations and save the dates ourselves. I haven't decided whether I will do the centrepieces as well or not.
    My dress is £825 brand new, for once it wasn't the most expensive one going that I fell in love with.
    The rings we will probably get from one of the bespoke companies that come to your house as they seem to be cheaper than the high street.

    It depends what you want for your day. If you just want a small intimate wedding with close family it will be a lot cheaper than a big extravagant affair with everyone you have ever met. You may just need to compromise on a few things if you can't afford them.
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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
      Got married 7 years ago
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    Our budget was 7k we spent 5.5k (no honeymoon)
    We paid for two ceremonies as we did a civil ceremony in the morning and then a church blessing in the afternoon, but because of this we literally had a wedding breakfast (bacon rolls or full english) while setting up the venue with our very closest family, then just a buffet bbq for the evening.
    I did all the invites, decoration, centre pieces, OoS, we brought bridesmaids dresses from ebay, suits we brought from Burt0ns in the winter sale, cravats and bits from ebay.
    My dress was £900!! Hubby chose it.
    Rings were from H.Sammies, £200 for both, Hubby doesnt were his (too dangerous for work) so his was a titanium band. Flowers were silk and foam, which came in much cheaper.
    We saved on cars (not an important point for us) and used our own VW caravelle (heck I even drove home at the end of our day anyway)
    We had a great day with a marquee and a bouncy castle. Served our wedding cake as desert too.

    Budgets are as individual as you are.

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    • KathleenS78
      CommentAuthorKathleenS78
      Posted: Nov 6th 2014
     
    Congratulations! We are getting married in around the same time as yours though nothing is booked yet as need to meet with the priest first then look at venues. Our budget is around £25K excluding the honeymoon. My aunt said we should have a 20% of the budget for back up because of inflation and prices could change without prior notice (small prints). Our priority is FOOD - both families are foodies and good cooks and we would like our guests to enjoy the food. Then photography as you would always look at photos; then make up/attire.
    We are both paying for the wedding (none of the parents or family members) as we are old enough and had been in the work force for a long time AND it is our wedding, our money and decisions are up to us. We don't want someone paying for cake and then tells us what we can't or can have.
    One of my friends got married in the summer on a budget under $5,000 - food and drinks were provided by family. They actually had a potluck of different salads, cheese, fruits, 2 types of meat. No wedding cake, just two different cakes - one was gluten free, and two different pies.
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    • MrsThomson2B
      CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
      Got married 4 years ago
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    we are spending around the £12k mark with my in laws paying for our honeymoon. the budget has been set in place and i look like i might just manage to stay in it or if i go over not by too much :)
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    • NikkiE58
      CommentAuthorNikkiE58
      Got married 3 years ago
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    Cor, Bride2B28 you are so lucky! Your parents are very generous! Our budget started at £17K but has slowly crept up to £25K after looking around at places! I have even gone over that to £27K, but nothing has been booked yet, so I'm trying to skim money off of everything before I commit to anything, and that isn't including the Honeymoon or rings!
    My main priority is photos and videographer, which is coming in at £4K between them, then the venue with food and alcohol, then after that the Dress and Suit, then the rings..and from there onwards, it's skim, skim, skim! Haha! X
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    • CommentAuthorPunkpixi3
      Posted: Nov 12th 2014
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    We originally set a budget of £7k that has since doubled and is hitting £13k and might be slightly more as we haven't quite finished yet :/ It doesn't feel like we have sent that much tho because we have been saving and buying things as we go so it didn't feel so drastic :) xxx
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    • NikkiE58
      CommentAuthorNikkiE58
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Nov 13th 2014
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    Oh and Barbie86, could I ask where you went on Honeymoon? As £6.8K sounds like you got an amazing Honeymoon! I could only dream! X
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    • EmmaG
      CommentAuthorEmmaG
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 13th 2014
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    My parents are giving me £7000 and grandma £1000, we were going to try do it for 6k and keep the rest for a honeymoon. After working out and finding out how much things cost needed another grand really so I could get the dress i want :) so We going to put in £1000-15000 to pay towards some bits too. Fingers crossed will be 7-7.5k without honeymoon., Im sure though it will rise as I want a lot of decorations and I don't think these will be that cheap !.. We having a 3 day wedding weekender very DIY with 50 guests sleeping at the country house we have hired for 4 days, the rest local b n b's. so 7k for 3 days with everyone with us is pretty good I think and exactly what I wanted as all my family and friends live London and I moved to South Devon so don't see them as much, the most important thing for me was getting a great place that was somewhere I could hire and use as I wish for 4 days with not one hotel manager or package deal in sight :)

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Nov 15th 2014
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    This was an article in the 3v3n1ng [email protected]@rd yesterday:


    The best man rises to give his wedding speech, and asks the guests to charge their glasses. Then he thanks those to whom the contents of the glasses are being charged — and well he might, given the average knot-tying extravaganza now leaves brides and grooms (or their generous relatives) with little change from £30,000.

    You could buy the boxroom of a house (on the outskirts of London, if it required total refurbishment) for that. Yet instead we hear tales of couples remortgaging, or going into heavy debt, to put on pricey wedding bashes with celebrity bands, 12-tiered cakes and £5,000 dresses. So perhaps we shouldn’t be shocked that official Government statistics now reveal that weddings are becoming the preserve of the wealthy.Still, marriage being for (the) richer but not the poorer is a sad state of affairs. Since 2001, those in the top tax bracket have become twice as likely to be hitched, Office for National Statistics figures show, and by the time they have children, nine in 10 of the richest Britons are married. Yet for those earning the minimum wage or less, the figure is half that.The figures saw perfectly-named Christian Guy, director of the Centre for Social Justice (CSJ), draw a sad conclusion: “The cost of getting married is putting people off having a wedding.”Britain’s £10 billion nuptials industry has all become a bit inflated. I loved getting married so much I wrote a book on it: inspired by rude encounters with the big-headed wedding industry, I asked suppliers what brides and grooms could do to cut the cost. For the simple fact is  splashing the cash won’t make your diamond last for ever. In fact, US academic research found that couples who spent more than average on their wedding had a 46 per cent likeliness of getting divorced — while that risk fell to 29 per cent for those who spent less than £10,000.Or, as Sex in the City’s wise Samantha Jones put it: “Big ring? Big wedding? Bad relationship, honey.”Yet there’s no need for Britain’s developing “marriage gap”, as it’s been dubbed by The Spectator magazine, which obtained the ONS figures. Those extravagant stag and hen weekends, where bride- and groom-to-be and friends congregate on easyJet flights (with half their friends moaning to each other that they could have spent the £500 budget on a holiday of their own choice); those expensive (and ridiculous) doves released after the wedding ceremony; that choreographed dance the newly-weds bought three months’ worth of lessons to learn? They’re not the elixir for long-term relationship success.Marriage, however, really can be. Politically correct, scared-for-their-seats Parliamentarians might be too terrified to say so, but saying “til death us do part” statistically does make you more likely to stay with your partner. Fewer than one in 10 married parents have split by the time a child is five, compared with more than one in three who were not married, according to the CSJ. Of parents not married or living together when a child is born, the break-up rate after five years is a massive 60 per cent.Marriage fell out of favour during the recession but it needn’t be so closely bound to the affordability of a show-off wedding. The Beatles had it right — all you need is love.

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    I really don't like articles like that, they shame people who have had/are having 'Big' Weddings.. And what is a 'Big' Wedding nowadays anyways? Over 100 guests? Over 200 guests? Having a sit down dinner instead of a buffet? A large cake?
    I just don't get it?! For years and years, we as little girls, have been conditioned to want the glamorous wedding, with the big white dress, horse and carriage, castle venue, with a beautiful diamond on our fingers.. Then when we're old enough to make that dream a reality, we get slated for wanting the Wedding we've always dreamed of?!
    I get that some people thrive off doing things on a budget, and I totally understand that Big or Small, expensive or cheap, the main thing is the life commitment to the Love of your life, but why can't we have all that and the big expensive Vodka luge with our Grinning faces carved onto it, without it seeming like we're over compensating, and have a rubbish, materialistic relationship? Perhaps we have scrimped and saved for 3 years, and already have a house and baby, and wanted this ONE special day to be absolutely perfect to us in our own way? Maybe we've just watched one too many Disney films, and read too many Wedding magazines, and feel like that is what we want?
    I don't know about you, but I've been to kids parties that have cost upwards of £1000, because we want to give them what we think they want, and want to throw the most elaborate parties that we can! Does that mean that the mum who took their children to [email protected] Hut for their birthday loves them any more or any less than the mum who had a petting zoo?! NO. It does not.
    The same with Weddings, just because one couple wants to get married in a high end venue, and another wants a registry office wedding, does that make their Love for each other any more or any less than the other couple?
    I'm not having a go at anyone in particular, apart from the Authors of this article, so don't worry InDreamland, it's not a dig at you! I just find it really offensive to those who want to have their childhood dreams come true, compared to those who are realistic enough, or can't afford/don't want to have those kinds of things.
    Wow, didn't realise it was such an essay, sorry Brides! X
    P.S Not slating [email protected] Hut birthdays, I just used to work there, so thought I would use it as an example, as I threw many Make Your Own Pizza parties.

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