Wedding Forum - So upset :-(...

Sorry in advance for the rant ladies but OH had an email today with a wedding guest and his gf saying they are no longer coming to the wedding. Now this guy was originally a best man and had been happy to be a part of the wedding for a year and a half. Then a few weeks back, he dropped out saying he had too much stress and didn't want to be a best man anymore. To add insult to injury, he then didn't even bother to go to H2Bs stag do.
This is just the final straw to let us down days before the wedding with stupid excuses. It's far to late to replace 2 full day guests at such short notice :-(
I'm absolutely gutted and feel like our friendship with him is completely broken now as he's caused a lot of tears and upset. I don't get how people can be so inconsiderate!!!

Xxx

Maybe there's a lot more going on than you realise? ... Have u been round and sat down with them, he could be depressed,which sometimes nothing can bring you out of, if not and there's nothing wrong then I think it's outrageous that he's treat your friendship that way, and I wouldn't be friends either, but I just think don't fault it if there's something seriously wrong x

You cant focus too much on him not being there on the day you probably wont notice. He however has to live with the fact he missed a good friends wedding for what ever reasons he has.

With the 2 spaces you now have can you not speak to another couple and say I know its really short notice however someone has pulled out would they like to come for the full day now.

Is sounds to me like his GF has said she doesn't want to go none of his friends get on with her and she cant handle his ex being there (Could well be wrong though) so they have decided its for the best if they don't go which is a shame for you

That absolutely sucks but unfortunately, whatever has happened has happened and although it's horrible and naturally upsetting, you are only 4 days away from your big day so try and focus on that :) it sounds like the new GF has got her claws in and he's not going to budge but please don't let this put a shadow over your day and try to enjoy the build up! Also, happy 2nd engagment-versary! xxx

That is such a shame. However on the day you really won't notice who isn't there. We had a couple drop out the evening before due to health issues and managed to fill their seats. We even had someone pull out on the morning as she was very unwell, and my husband found someone from the congregation to take her place, so it's not too late to fill the gaps. We did have gaps where people didn't say they weren't coming to the reception which was annoying, but by that point I think we would have struggled anyway to find people to promote, as people had made arrangements for the afternoon. We were having to rule out any vegetarians and anyone with kids, as it was too late to change the food order. One that was missing was our fault, we'd promoted him and his wife months earlier but hadn't redone the invitation, and he got confused and came at the time on the invite, which was for the evening. One was the boyfriend of the girl who was unwell. He did the service and then dashed off to be with her, but didn't want to worry us by telling us. One said he had a chest infection and therefore left after the service, but he is so shy that I suspect he couldn't face it. One was really quite funny. He and his twin brother are 20, and their father is the highest ranking Methodist minister in Wales, while their mother is a senior vicar in Cardiff. The parents were doing the prayers, as the father used to be my minister and we both know the family. One of the sons was in the choir. The other son had been out the previous night, and was still drunk the next morning. I would be angry but I was more amused by thinking of the reaction that he would have got from his parents (his mother went ballistic). You can see him totally zoned out on the video, and clearly not enjoying the hymns. After the service his mum sent him home to shower and change, but instead he went to bed and that was the last we saw of him.

That's rubbish! Has you oh managed to promote any one else as best man? Just remember that it will still be the best day if you life I mean it won't make to much of a difference just 2 people not turning up lol. Xx

Sorry to hear :( a 'friend' like that in my opinion is no friend at all. Like you say, he has known about the wedding, who will be there etc. from the start and it's very selfish and unfair to drop out now. Even if his girlfriend has got her claws into him he should still be coming to your wedding, particularly as a so called close friend of your OH. I wouldn't dream of missing any of my close friends getting married.

Glad you are feeling more positive about it now. You won't even notice on the day, you'll be too busy having a fab time and mingling with the rest of your guests who will make it special for you!! Xx

Has he given you an explanation as to why he is no longer coming when originally he was going to be such a big part of your day? I think you and your h2b at least deserve that! If this were me I would explain to them calmly that it upset you first of all because of the fact he dropped out as best man and then didnt go to your h2b's stag do or contact you with explanations when you have spent money for them to be there and really feel your friendship has been seriously affected by his lack of interest and happiness for you both. I think what he has done is really unfair xx

Eeeek, exciting!! :D x

don't let it ruin your day. The people that are important are the ones that will be there x