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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    Sorry in advance for the rant ladies but OH had an email today with a wedding guest and his gf saying they are no longer coming to the wedding. Now this guy was originally a best man and had been happy to be a part of the wedding for a year and a half. Then a few weeks back, he dropped out saying he had too much stress and didn't want to be a best man anymore. To add insult to injury, he then didn't even bother to go to H2Bs stag do.
    This is just the final straw to let us down days before the wedding with stupid excuses. It's far to late to replace 2 full day guests at such short notice :-(
    I'm absolutely gutted and feel like our friendship with him is completely broken now as he's caused a lot of tears and upset. I don't get how people can be so inconsiderate!!!

    Xxx

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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    Some people dont see past there own issues....
    Its really unfair for him to quit with only a few days to the wedding without a more detailed explanation, especially as he is the best man. he must have been close to your OH for him to be best man...
    Which makes it even more inconsiderate...

    Sorry to hear about the circumstances, but at least you both know what kind of person he is... obviously if he had a genuinly good reason then fair enough, but he doenst appear to be saying much..

    I hope that thinsg work out for you on the day, the important thing is that your marrying the love of your life and as long as you two are there.. then its all dandy...
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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    Maybe there's a lot more going on than you realise? ... Have u been round and sat down with them, he could be depressed,which sometimes nothing can bring you out of, if not and there's nothing wrong then I think it's outrageous that he's treat your friendship that way, and I wouldn't be friends either, but I just think don't fault it if there's something seriously wrong x

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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    The excuses he gave were about it being awkward with him and his ex girlfriend but they broke up about 2 years ago and are with other people. He's known from the start that she's coming as well. He also said his gf doesn't get on with his and OHs friends but they've all said that they've tried to make lots of effort. He seems really strange when he gets a new gf and he drops his friends. It's happened before but I can't believe he'll miss our wedding :-( xxx

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    You cant focus too much on him not being there on the day you probably wont notice. He however has to live with the fact he missed a good friends wedding for what ever reasons he has.

    With the 2 spaces you now have can you not speak to another couple and say I know its really short notice however someone has pulled out would they like to come for the full day now.

    Is sounds to me like his GF has said she doesn't want to go none of his friends get on with her and she cant handle his ex being there (Could well be wrong though) so they have decided its for the best if they don't go which is a shame for you

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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    Elizabeth, I think that's it as he's really changed since being with her. I just feel really let down! Unfortunately there's no one we could really invite now as the wedding is on Saturday and evening guests have arranged babysitters etc. Had a few tears tonight but I'm just going to try and forget about it. It's his loss and I do think he'll regret missing out as he and OH have been friends for years xxx

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
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    That absolutely sucks but unfortunately, whatever has happened has happened and although it's horrible and naturally upsetting, you are only 4 days away from your big day so try and focus on that :) it sounds like the new GF has got her claws in and he's not going to budge but please don't let this put a shadow over your day and try to enjoy the build up! Also, happy 2nd engagment-versary! xxx

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Nov 4th 2014
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    Is there two evening guests you can promote?

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 5th 2014
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    That is such a shame. However on the day you really won't notice who isn't there. We had a couple drop out the evening before due to health issues and managed to fill their seats. We even had someone pull out on the morning as she was very unwell, and my husband found someone from the congregation to take her place, so it's not too late to fill the gaps. We did have gaps where people didn't say they weren't coming to the reception which was annoying, but by that point I think we would have struggled anyway to find people to promote, as people had made arrangements for the afternoon. We were having to rule out any vegetarians and anyone with kids, as it was too late to change the food order. One that was missing was our fault, we'd promoted him and his wife months earlier but hadn't redone the invitation, and he got confused and came at the time on the invite, which was for the evening. One was the boyfriend of the girl who was unwell. He did the service and then dashed off to be with her, but didn't want to worry us by telling us. One said he had a chest infection and therefore left after the service, but he is so shy that I suspect he couldn't face it. One was really quite funny. He and his twin brother are 20, and their father is the highest ranking Methodist minister in Wales, while their mother is a senior vicar in Cardiff. The parents were doing the prayers, as the father used to be my minister and we both know the family. One of the sons was in the choir. The other son had been out the previous night, and was still drunk the next morning. I would be angry but I was more amused by thinking of the reaction that he would have got from his parents (his mother went ballistic). You can see him totally zoned out on the video, and clearly not enjoying the hymns. After the service his mum sent him home to shower and change, but instead he went to bed and that was the last we saw of him.

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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 5th 2014
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    Half our guests aren't local to where we're getting married so unlikely we can feel the gaps but have woken up with a much more positive outlook. Picked up the suits this morning which was exciting!!

    Elinor - I would not have wanted to be that boy when his parents saw him!!

    Oooh yes, 2 year engagement anniversary yesterday :-) xxx

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    • clair
      CommentAuthorclair
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 5th 2014
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    That's rubbish! Has you oh managed to promote any one else as best man? Just remember that it will still be the best day if you life I mean it won't make to much of a difference just 2 people not turning up lol. Xx

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Nov 5th 2014
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    hun i had three people pull out 3 days before .... i looked at my list of evening guests and just put in a call explaining what had happened and woulf they like to attend the whole day ... they were delighted

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Nov 6th 2014
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    Sorry to hear :( a 'friend' like that in my opinion is no friend at all. Like you say, he has known about the wedding, who will be there etc. from the start and it's very selfish and unfair to drop out now. Even if his girlfriend has got her claws into him he should still be coming to your wedding, particularly as a so called close friend of your OH. I wouldn't dream of missing any of my close friends getting married.

    Glad you are feeling more positive about it now. You won't even notice on the day, you'll be too busy having a fab time and mingling with the rest of your guests who will make it special for you!! Xx

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 6th 2014
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    we've all got those so called 'mates' that ditch you as soon as they get a new love interest. they are a joke. he will be the one to regret it though!

    if you cant bump anyone up, just dont worry about it, id be tempted to 'jokily' bill the cheeky sod though as he sounds as though he has pulled off a rubbish excuse

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    • CommentAuthorJessica29792
      Posted: Nov 6th 2014
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    Has he given you an explanation as to why he is no longer coming when originally he was going to be such a big part of your day? I think you and your h2b at least deserve that! If this were me I would explain to them calmly that it upset you first of all because of the fact he dropped out as best man and then didnt go to your h2b's stag do or contact you with explanations when you have spent money for them to be there and really feel your friendship has been seriously affected by his lack of interest and happiness for you both. I think what he has done is really unfair xx
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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 6th 2014
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    Thanks ladies! We sent a message back but we've not had a reply yet. I'm back to being positive and excited again. Had a day with my mum today getting our nails done and almost ready to travel to the venue tomorrow!!!! Xxx

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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      Posted: Nov 7th 2014
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    Eeeek, exciting!! :D x

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
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      Posted: Nov 7th 2014
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    Hope you have an amazing day! Come back and show us pictures! :D x

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    • sbride
      CommentAuthorsbride
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Nov 7th 2014
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    don't let it ruin your day. The people that are important are the ones that will be there x

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