Wedding Forum - Smoking and h2bs mates rant!...

Don't think I've been this upset so far:
So h2bs friends who went on his stag do are all having a go at me great!
I'm not sorry for the status I put up though!
Found out from some pics that were uploaded that h2b had been smoking all weekend when he quit two years ago and promised me he wouldn't pick another up...and he didn't tell me he'd been doing it either, and made out it was no big deal. Well I've gone schizo mad fuming gutted upset been crying for a bit, told h2b this is the worst thing he's done to me since we got together...I'm absolutely outraged! Then for his friends to say it's no big deal, it's his stag do, he could do worse,ur making him out to be a kid....well I blew my top then as most of them smoke,have tried to quit before and failed so I very fairly stuck up for myself!
Yes he could have done worse but I feel very letdown by this and the fact he hadn't told me before shows he was trying to hide it! Maybe I'm hormonal cos of pregnancy, but I really think I'm right and I'm very upset by this especially with a baby coming last thing health wise we need is him sparking up again!
He even claimed it was no big deal...but had told me he would prefer on my hen do if I didn't go on stage at the Adonis in Newcastle which I didn't out of respect to his wishes ... Yet he didn't respect me enough with this.
He claims only cos of drinking but I've said he's never done it on nights out since he quit so was a lame arse excuse, his friends know he quit so I'm disappointed in them too.... Told h2b I don't wanna see him tonight ... Just got to think of what I can use as a punishment now!
I feel a little heartbroken tbh
:-(

( I know some will think I'm being stupid, as that's how his mates are trying to make me feel by berating me but I have a strong opinion on smoking and think it's foul and disgusting!)

I'm with you two, my partner never writ buy got down to two a week, when he was working to let of a bit of stress which I respected, then when he started his new job could sense a change in him, and would randomly go out for a walk and would come back and I could smell it and say you've had a SIG which he would deny which made me more mad than the fact he had smoked. I have trust issues and the lying upsets me more.

I completely understand where you are coming from, especially with you being pregnant and having 3 young girls at home which is definitely not on as that will affect you regardless if it was only when he was out! But at the same time, you are barely 2 weeks away from getting married and something you've been planning for a very long time, you are also obviously pregnant with a child very cherished and loved by you both I'm sure so planning a punishment is something that is only going to hurt you both especially with precious few days to go. You want to enjoy this time and have as little stress as possible. I know it's easy to say but sit down with him, talk it through and maybe just for this time, let it go as you have more important things to worry about - Your wedding, your baby and your girls :) xx

I'd be annoyed too if he'd successfully quit previously especially with you being pregnant. Maybe just try and have a calm conversation with him and explain how let down you feel xxx

I completely understand. My husband gave up smoking years ago, and after promising me he wouldn't touch another, I discovered he once did. I felt after making a promise, it was a personal betrayal.

sending you a massive hug, sounds like you need it xxx