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    • Mrs M Wade
      CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Hi all but I'm in need of a rant :( I have a twin sister who is chief bridesmaid who I can't thank enough for the things she has done. I have 2 more twin sisters 14 years old who are the complete opposite! I asked them to be bridesmaids as wanted all 3 sisters close to me on the day but I'm having second thoughts about them and don't know what to do. They walk past me if I go to my mum and dad and can't even say hello, never mind a smile. They don't talk to my OH and it's getting to him too as we have been together 5 and a half years. My dad has been off work at the minute with a bad back so my OH and I went down yesterday to give him a hand in the garden etc. I asked both sisters to go and ask my mum and dad if they were needed to help and they both stormed off in a huff and never helped. What about when they are asked to do something on the wedding, is this the attitude I'm going to get? If it is I'd rather them not be bridesmaids. I'm seeing my mum on Wednesday and was going to talk to her about it as I've had enough of being ignored :( sorry for the long essay x

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Have they had that same kind of attitude in other scenarios? It sounds like it might just be typical teenage bolchiness. Your wedding is over two years away, by which point they'll be 16 and might well have grown up. I wouldn't make a final decision yet, see how their attitude develops as they get older.

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Tbh, they are 14 years old and are going to be stroppy, hormonal and ignoring people in general at that age! See what it's like in a couple of years and then decide if you still want them depending on their attitude as to whether they stay as bridesmaids but personally I'd get rid if they haven't improved by then as you don't need to be dealing with that on your wedding day. In regards to their attitude, get your mum to have words and tell them to learn some manners. They are just being plain rude! xx

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Again, I would say see how they grow nearer to the time when you're considering your bridesmaids dresses. Could it also be though, apart from being stroppy teens (like majority of us were) maybe and hopefully they will be more excited about the wedding? By 16 I'm sure they will excited about wearing a gorgeous dress and getting all done up. It's a while a way yet to worry too much I think :) I'm sure when they are more mature they'll be more excited xx

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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    I agree that you should maybe see how it goes before making any decisions. They could change a lot over the next couple of years xxx

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    • RachelE118
      CommentAuthorRachelE118
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    I'm sorry it's the joy that is the teenage girl! And the fact that you've got quite a while to go for the wedding. I wouldn't worry too much, ignore their poor behaviour and hopefully they will improve. Hang in there xx
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Sorry but they are 14 .....I'm not sure what you expect of them, I work with 14yr olds everyday and you can't second guess girls moods from one minute to another. Why on earth would they get excited about something that isn't focused on the and is 2 years away ..... Unless you change your name to one direction you aren't going to have their interest at the moment .
    Leave off any wedding talk with them and just be their sister ...... They will be there more when the wedding gets closer and they mature

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    • CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Yeah they sound like normal teenage girls, annoying but they'll grow out of it dont worry! xxx
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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    Pretty much as everyone says above, right now they're wrapped up in their own worlds and they're wanting to be the centre of attention. With the wedding being two years away they will likely be excited nearer the time like a few months beforehand. Don't take it personally.

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2014
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    This is why my number 1 tip to b2b is now do not ask bms till atleast a year before

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    • Joanna
      CommentAuthorJoanna
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 3rd 2014
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    I agree with the other ladies, they're only 14. This is what 14 year old girls are like. They'll be 16 by the time of the wedding and they'll be different again by then so I definitely wouldn't 'sack' them as bridesmaids x

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 3rd 2014
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    I have to agree with everyone else, they are 14 and typical stroppy teenage girls... I also work with teenagers and we were all their ourselves at one point, yes we don't remember being as bad as the one's we see today, but that's because in our heads we weren't being rude or unreasonable, it was everyone else.

    Lots of people have problems with adults not getting excited about the wedding when it's a year or so in advance and def when it's 2 years away... it's just how people are when it isn't a major thing for us (we seem to forget that our weddings are only OUR most important day and not everyone around us' most important day)

    I would speak to your mum though and say how annoyed you are getting with them in general (I wouldn't mention the wedding) as they are being rude and do need a talking to otherwise they might not have grown up by 16




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    • Mrs M Wade
      CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 3rd 2014
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    Thanks for all your comments everyone. Spoken to my mum today and she sees where I'm coming from. Will leave them be until next year then see how things are then x

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 3rd 2014
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    I was a horrible teenager, it makes me cringe thinking about how much id get the hump over having to put my washed and ironed clothes on the hangers and in the wardrobe or do the pots lol

    glad you've spoken to your mum and at least she can sympathise! I agree with leaving them too it for a while, they should hopefully be a bit more mature by the time they are 16/dress trying comes around, so I wouldn't write them off just yet x

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