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    • MrsEmmaP
      CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    Hello ladies, not sure if I have posted this in the right place but... H2B has just started his own business which is doing quite well at the moment, which means that we will finally be able to book our wedding!
    We have been talking and although we first thought we would marry in 2016 due to a none existent budget, he wants to bring it forward and get married before the end of 2015!! Now I would love to but I am worrying about money, if there's enough time to plan, etc. We would be able to book to registry office and venue in the next few weeks, (we are hiring a function room as we are having an evening only) and after doing some sums we have worked out we could do everything for just under £3000, which seems do-able in that amount of time. I am just worried that it's not enough time to plan, get photographers, food etc! Has anybody else planned a wedding this quickly?
    Also, I am thinking of asking my parents whether if we book it for next year and realise we are short of money could they help us out? We haven't spoke at all about the wedding, money etc, so I don't know how this would go down, but has anybody else been in a similar situation?
    We are just desperate to get married so the sooner the better!

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    It is totally achievable in the time frame but if you are going to worry about money I would push it back so you can allow yourselves a little bit longer to save everything you need to. We gave ourselves 2 years to spread the costs so that we knew we wouldn't have to worry and stress about being able to afford it so much. We also knew that by waiting a bit longer we wouldn't have to compromise on anything that we want and we will be able to have everything exactly how we want it.

    I personally wouldn't approach my parents and ask about money as I think it seems a bit cheeky.. if they offered then that's a different matter (our parents are being amazing and have offered a lot), but I wouldn't bring it up myself.

    In my opinion, there should be no rush to get married.. you're already living as if you are married, it's just a different name and a piece of paper you don't have (without making it sound like that's all marriage is, cos it's not). You've got the rest of your lives ahead of you, so there's no rush if you want a little extra time! That said, if you truly want to get married asap and know that you will be ok money-wise, then go for it! It is definitely do-able :) a lot of people say having less time to plan actually makes it easier x

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    If the business has just started I think it may be a good idea to wait a little but and see if it's consistent. I know that doesn't help as it would reduce planning time! I personally think you can plan it in a short amountof time. A girl I went to college with got engaged at Christmas last year and got married in June!

    We booked our wedding on 28th February (13 months before our wedding) and everything was booked or 80% of things bought (rings, BMs dresses etc) by about May. So our wedding was pretty much sorted in 3 months. (I work part time and get bored easily lol!) We just have to book a car for h2b as he changed his mind about a month ago lol.

    In regards to your parents - I wouldn't ask them directly, I would just say the same as above really. You want to get married sooner as the business is doing better than expected, then just say I don't know what we would do if we were short of money in the run up to the wedding. The intention is to pay with your business so it's not like you're asking them for money straight out if you know what I mean, it's more of a worst case scenario.

    Also congrats with the business!
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    • MrsEmmaP
      CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    Yeah we will be waiting a month or so to see what's happening and if things are still as they are. I would like at least 6 months to plan and so I have more of an option with photographers etc as I know they will get booked up.
    I already have a pretty good idea of absolutely everything (been looking since we got engaged in December), so I think I could just buy everything in a short space of time. It's just the money that is worrying me a little so I may push it forward to early 2016 if we need to rather that 2015, but I will have to wait and see.

    I didn't mean I was going to come right out and ask my parents, I am going to explain the situation to them and see what they say! I could never be so cheeky as to ask them haha! But if they can't or won't help then we know that we may need to wait a little before booking the wedding for next year. I am thinking maybe August/Sept/Oct 2015 so I have at least 11 months yet.

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    I think early 2016 would be a good compromise.. earlier than planned but still giving yourself a good amount of time to save and get everything planned :) the money is worrying but then I guess you're still going to have the worry regardless as it is a lot of money to save! If you think it's do-able then go for it, but just make sure you're not going to be worrying and stressing excessively as it's not worth it when you would only have to wait a couple of more months.. What's a few months when you are going to spending the rest of your lives together :)

    I guess there is no harm in bringing it up with your parents.. like April said above, you're not actually asking them for money anyway, it's more of a 'back-up' so you have a bit of reassurance.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    easy to do it all for a late 2015 wedding

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    • Little Kettle
      CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2014
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    Totally do-able. We had about 11 months to organise a wedding in Vegas AND a blessing and reception back home :)

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