Wedding Forum - RSVP Stress - sorry a RANT...

There's been a discussion on this quite recently. A lot of us are finding the same thing. People think it's so obvious that they're coming that they don't think there is any need to reply. It really annoys me, as we need them to tell us if they have any diet issues. I don't mind if they tell us another way, we've had a few email, tell us in person, or message us on FBook, which is fine, but some don't bother at all. The worse ones are those we've invited out of courtesy who we expect to say no, as we can't risk assuming it.

Totally agree! Rsvps are really annoying. When I'm invited to a wedding I'm excited and want to send reply back asap - it does hurt slightly that my family don't see things same way! I know they've booked rooms so why not send back RSVP?
May 31 is our deadline, then we're gonna send evening invites to printers tonight, so when they're back give til end June. I think evening guests will be 100% harder to chase!
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We're all going through it. People are so bad mannered. I have always RSVP's in good time, and not waited until deadlines whenever I have been invited to anything. It's just good manners. People just don't think, and maybe they should

Arghh!! Just found out that my Grandad who means the world to me has gone and invited 10 people I don't know to the wedding!! My Mum had said he was really excited and called some of his friends whilst she was on holiday and that he'd verbally invited them - we had been talking about the blessing ceremony at the time so although I was annoyed I managed to stay mostly calm thinking it was OK because it wouldn't affect the actual wedding. Today I find out that he had actually invited them to both dates and to top it off my Mum had gone with him to hand the invites over and instead of taking out the insert that mentioned the wedding, she gave them all invites with both inserts in. Its too late to univite them so we've had to relegate some of our closest friends (who we haven't given invites to yet) to just the evening. I'm deserately hoping that my Grandad's guests say they can't come to the wedding so we can have our friends back but so far none of them have sent an RSVP and they may not RSVP at all as its culturally not done - the invite is given and its assumed that people (even those not named on the invite) will turn up as and when they please since Indian weddings take hours and they don't seem to understand that 1) we're not having an Indian wedding and 2) space is limited so we need to know exactly who is and isn't coming. This was the case with my Mum's wedding... they had specifically asked for an RSVP from one of her uncles as it was also a hotel wedding, she made him aware of times and chased several times, but still didn't hear from him so on the day it was assumed he wouldn't come but then he wandered in half way through the meal with his wife, kids and grandchildren.
I told OH what was happening and well, I said Arghh! but it sounded more like a roar so I then did another roar with a clawing motion... We're thinking of having a receiving line and OH is now making jokes that we can hug the people we actually wanted there and then we can roar at the others. It doesn't help the situation, but picturing it has definitely made me smile.
If I haven't heard from Grandad's friends by the end of the month then I am just going to tell him to call them and give them a further week to RSVP directly to me otherwise we are assuming they're not coming and will be giving the spaces back to the people we actually want there.

Oh showgirl you made me laugh. You know you def have to play Katy Perry Roar sometime in the evening now just for you and him to have a giggle at!! Bless your grandad but I bet you could strangle him at the moment!!! Hope it all works out xx

RachelE118 - I'm not familiar with Katie Perry's Roar, but I'll have a listen now.
AmyK - that would be a good idea except the only way that a rumour would reach these people is via my Grandad and I don't want him to start thinking he doesn't want to come either especially as he's the one giving me away. My Grandad is very liberal and easy going (although he strangely has some very conservative views on crime and punishment) and his friends are the same, so I literally can't think of anything that would make them stay away - even if I announced we were going to sacrifice a goat and then have a big orgy they would still watch the wedding ceremony, eat and then leave before the orgy got going.

Virgins tend to be in short supply these days, you might be better off with a goat too!

I feel your pain, our RSVP date was march 5th I just got an RSVP back yesterday! Doh