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    • LouiseS206
      Got married 26 months ago
      Posted: Nov 8th 2018
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    So i'm getting really stressed out with having to have awkward conversations with people about their invitations.
    We have a small venue with limited seating and have already paid deposits on catering, corkage and the like meaning that i can't easily tack on another table or few guests even if i wanted to.
    So our invitations have been very specifically inviting each person by name.

    First thing that happened was my godfather told me my invitation was "wrong" as i had only invited him and his wife not his children.
    Having never met his adult children and the fact i hadn't seen my godfather since i was a child i was shocked that he would assume they'd be invited.
    It's my own fault for allowing my dad to pressure me into inviting them anyway as i didn't want to in the first place then the indignation that he would be allowed 3 more places for people i hadn't met before.

    Secondly was my future sister in law. She's started dating a new guy, on my second time ever meeting him he proceeds to spend best part of an hour begging for an invitation. They've been dating a matter of weeks and i don't know him yet, who can say if they'll even be together then. He tells me that he bought me a drink that day so he should therefore get an invite so i ended up just leaving to save more argument and now i'm worrying about that.

    Today my SO's aunt RSVPs via text with more people than we had invited. I had to tell her that we had only invited the 5 of them and can't afford additional guests and now she's giving me short answers. I think she's offended but i don't even know the extra people who she has RSVP'd with.

    No matter what i do i can't seem to please anyone and i'm really worried about how people are going to treat me on the day.
    When i talk to my fiance about it he says i just need to stop getting upset about it but i can't help it.
    I don't want to start war with family but is anyone else getting this? I just don't know if i can handle any more.
    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Nov 9th 2018
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    You need to have the people around you that YOU TWO want, hangers on, possible bfs etc can be welcomed to the evening... they don't want to do that they don't need to come at all

    • SammieW19
      Got married 27 months ago
      Posted: Dec 4th 2018
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    I really feel for you, people can be so presumptuous when it comes to receiving invites. In your position I would just kindly tell them that your venue only holds a limited number of guests and that you are already at maximum capacity - We actually included a note with our RSVPs stating that only those named on the invites would be able to attend due to venue restrictions, granted we only sent our invites this week so hoping there won't be any negative repercussions for us *fingers crossed*.
    I know it seems like you need to please everyone but that will be physically impossible unfortunately. It is YOUR day not theirs and I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot they wouldn't think twice about saying no.
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