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    • YvetteB91
      CommentAuthorYvetteB91
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 14th 2013
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    hello ladies,

    i have always loved the idea of having a hand fastening done at my wedding but im not sure how it will work? we are having our wedding at a hotel and a register is performing the ceremony, he says he can do it but gave no other details about it. im left wondering where it will fit in. plus im not sure what is really involved in a normally ceremony, people keep saying readings and all that but im lost.

    can anyone help on??

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    • sarah
      CommentAuthorsarah
      Got married 6 weeks ago
      Posted: Sep 14th 2013
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    Civil ceremonies are simple and short.

    The superintendent registrar will explain the legal basis of marriage in this country. You will declare that you are legally free to marry, and then exchange vows. This can be accompanied with the exchange of rings if you wish.

    That's it. Presumably the hand-fasting can occur with/or instead of a ring exchange. I think this depends on your registrar though.

    I found an excellent link on civil ceremonies & will put it on your wall.




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    • *The NewMrsMalin*
      CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 14th 2013
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    I think it is after the ring exchange but don't quote me :P

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 15th 2013
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    I did not think registraas can do this as handfasting is part of wican religion and they cannot do anything religious! Am i wrong? I liked the idea as thats how the Doctor marrys River Song!

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    • MrsGothBride
      CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
      Got married 6 years ago
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    wicca is not recognised as a religion so maybe this is why your registrar agreed? I am surprised though, it is unusual and I've heard most are really strict.

    a Handfasting is lovely, people said ours was the most romantic ceremony they had ever been too! the hands are usually together at the start of the ceremony and stay like that whilst you do your vows, readings, ring exchange etc. The knot is then tied as the ceremony is coming to its end.

    we had a beautiful reading about hands just before she tied us.

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    • Susie
      CommentAuthorSusie
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    In our island history in Scotland (and around Britain, but since I'm from the islands, I know our own history a little bit better), you entered a hand fasting for a year and a day, it was almost as binding as a marriage, but if the two people did not suit, they could go their separate ways at the end of it. Later it was a strip of fabric was bound to the wrists of the couple for the whole event, which resulted in the couple having to feed each other the wedding feast and give a more intimate feeling of bonding/closeness, having to rely on each other for sustenance. I think it is a beautiful addition to any wedding. David specifically proposed one year and a day after I moved in, because he knew I would immediately recognize the significance. I thought it was sweet! Once we get a meeting with the registrar for the area, we are going to see if she will allow our left hands to be bound during the service, but we will have to see if she is up for it.
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    • MrsGothBride
      CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
      Got married 6 years ago
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    are you getting married in Scotland Susie? we have just been married there, we had what is legally a religious marriage ceremony but we used the services of an Interfaith minister who is not connected to any one specific religion and we had a handfasting and a couple of other rituals The best thing is, in Scotland when getting married under the religious banner, you are free to get married almost anywhere, a beach, a boat, a mountain, a garden, a park, a house....literally anywhere!

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    • Susie
      CommentAuthorSusie
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    I am, we live on the mainland now in a little place just south of Skye, we are getting married locally, but we aren't getting married with a religious minister - other than the churches, one isn't available without considerable expense. But we are getting married in a ceilidh hall next to the sea a further 9 miles away, then having the reception in our village hall around the corner from our house. Weather in this bit can be inclement in June so not risking outdoors for anything but the photos! lol If we cannot get our registrar (or she is unwilling) to do the handfasting part, we will possibly add it in somewhere else in the ceremony by our other registrar friend who is coming to the wedding. We shall see!

    I hope you had great weather for your wedding MrsGothBride!!!
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    • MrsGothBride
      CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
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    that sounds perfect Susie! We were really lucky with the weather, it was lovely. its been lovely the whole time we have been here but today is very windy and grey. We are staying at Muckrach castle near Grantown on Spey. we love it here, such a beautiful part of the world. we do keep meaning to take a day out and head further up!

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    • Susie
      CommentAuthorSusie
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    How lovely!!! Yes, was just telling a friend across the pond that it had been a bit blowy and wet thismorning!! Seems to be lessening now though! Grantown on Spey is a lovely area! Glad you had the good weather for the day, you caught some good luck there as its been a bit hit and miss this summer!

    Going to look out my H2B kilt and see if I can find decent material to match so we can have it for the wedding. Will just have to keep my fingers crossed til then.

    PS sorry Yvette...not kidnapping your thread I promise!
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    • YvetteB91
      CommentAuthorYvetteB91
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    as far as i know the registrar will read anything we want as long as its not religious (well thats what he said), i've seen a lot of mixed reviews on having a registrar perform your ceremony from what i've seen its changed alot and depends on where you get it done. hand fastening isn't based on religion its an old tradition in scotland.

    Grantown on Spey is just an hour away from me :) susie we had the same problem, was going down the line of a humanist for a while but was really shocked about the price on it all. im really confused about the registrar now though as i thought you could really change things up with one now a days. oh i dont mind at all, we are sharing our stories :)

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    • ValentinaK
      CommentAuthorValentinaK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2013
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    I love grantown on spey! used to go do Adventurous training there, but h2b used to work at RAF Kinloss (Ice Station Kilo was the joke!) which was close... fantastic micro climate place in the UK! Absolutely gorgeous!

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2013
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    Was originy performed in britan by Pagan Celts( so were both right) brought over from scandinavia etc

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    • AndreaE20
      CommentAuthorAndreaE20
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Aug 14th 2014
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    did you manage to figure it out hunni as we are now looking int have jsut a handfastening but have to have a registrar to preform the legal parts as I live in wales and it is nt recognized as Iam pagan so this is the religious ceremony of my choice

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