Hi Ladies, I'm looking for a bit of help on a slightly tricky situation.
My Mum, H2b and myself were discussing venues decorations and the conversation eventually came round to the gift table/card box, I said to my Mum I was more than happy to have a simple box, she then replied well what about Lucy* (name changed just in case). I then remembered unfortunately that Lucy has a history of stealing (items and money) at family gatherings and I am not just talking about taking money that is just out in the open. She has taken out of bags, purses, cupboards, money boxes and other places. Now I am either over-thinking the whole situation or being really harsh thinking she would steal from our wedding.
So knowing her history and the fact the table isn't being watched do I stick to a normal box or do I find one I can lock just in case?
CommentAuthorEmily17
You can hire wooden boxes with a padlock on them. Maybe this is an idea? They can be in the shape of a post box etc to make it more pretty and fitting
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CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
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I was thinking the same as Emily, I know that the lady who did our venue dressing hired out post boxes and she also had a wishing well too xx
CommentAuthorSusanM34
I would say get a lockable one. But if she is that untrustworthy, why would you be inviting her to your wedding?
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I would go for something you can lock. If she has a reputation of stealing at family gatherings then I doubt your wedding would be an exception... I expect there will be a lot of money in your cards so I would err on the side of caution.
We had a post box that locked. It was hired and the lady left the key with our master of ceremonies so after the ceremony he gave the key to us, everyone put their cards (mainly all including money) in there and at the end of the night we unlocked it and took the cards with us. It was perfect, I would recommend something like that if you're worried. Sounds like you have a right to be worried. I'd like to think that nobody would ever steal from a wedding though (or anytime for that matter) but a wedding just seems even worse.
CommentAuthorStaceyH989
As bad as it is to say she isn't the most untrustworthy person I know that would be my sister who I am not inviting, I would like to think she has grown up and wouldn't do such a thing anymore (she started stealing when she was young and will be 16 when we get married). I am the peacekeeper in my family and I don't like arguments so I have invited them to 'keep the peace'. But I want to take precaution just in case without anyone thinking I've locked the box because of her, if that makes sense :/
CommentAuthorFlossie
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I don't think anyone would automatically think you'd locked it because of her... a lot of bride and grooms would choose to have a lockable box on their wedding day for peace of mind. It's not always down to the guests either, a lot of the time people would also worry about the venue staff.
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CommentAuthorNicoleW665
better safe than sorry in this case i think, a lot of people and places lock them just for peace of mind anyway so she shouldn't automatically think it's in relation to her.
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CommentAuthorEmily17
They are a fairly standard part of the wedding décor so no one would think twice about why you did it. If it was a plain box then I would understand it. Heres an example of one I just found online. No one would think twice about it I'm sure xx
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CommentAuthorEmily17
obviously you wouldn't leave the key in it !!
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CommentAuthorCamilaL
I agree with the ladies, go for something you can lock. And people won't wonder why it's locked, don't worry :)
CommentAuthorDanielleG93
I like the idea of the postbox pictured above, no one would think its about anyone just a lovely wedding decoration they probably won't even notice it's locked
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CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
You shouldn't feel the need to explain yourself to anyone about what you want to do for your wedding day. I think you should get a post box like the one pictured and leave it at that. Although rare, it's not unheard of for staff at wedding venues to be light fingered as well. TBH, I don't think anyone would think anything of it anyway.
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CommentAuthorMaxineP89
I don't think you have any other option than to go with a lockable box.
There are some really pretty ones available.
You could maybe put a poem in front of it
Our memories of today are as precious as can be, And so we are keeping them under lock and key. From this day forward, for better and for worse So we can cherish every wish and every verse.
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CommentAuthorStephH96
Agree with the above. As another idea in case you don't want the postbox you could have a 'trunk', they have locks normally so that wouldn't look out of place.
CommentAuthorStaceyH989
Thanks for the help Ladies it has been really reassuring, we are going to look into hiring one we can lock, Thanks again :)
CommentAuthorDanielleG93
thats fab good luck in finding one
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Sorry but is this person a close relative? As if not and she has a habit of stealing even out of people's handbags I wouldn't even have her there!
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorAnikaM60
I would be very worried to have this person at my wedding because its not just your potential wedding gifts but also stealing from wedding guests! A lockable box would protect your wedding gifts, but what about the guests
CommentAuthorStaceyH989
She is a close cousin but my Nan has offered to keep an eye on her an my uncle has also offered to bring his tablet so she will be occupied.
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
If it were me personally I wouldn't have her there
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Our venue provided a post box, it might be worth finding out if your venue has one. It's good that your Nan will watch her. Perhaps you can quietly warn some of your guests without saying who, just that someone has a history. Perhaps your family will know anyway.
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Id purchase a lockable chest, g00gl3 the words "lockable card box" and there are plenty of options for you to look through. :-) xx