The wedding budget it tight... and people are asking if they can bring plus ones/partners whom we dont know to the wedding... AND a new boyfriend of a bridesmaid said "im luckin forward to the meal" (ooooops sorry your not actually on the list :/) its about £35 per person... so what im wondering is... is it wrong to say they can come if they can pay for their meal?
I know it is abit well... not on i suppose, but i dont really know these people and Im struggling as it is... I dont mind people being at the wedding...more the merrier..sept I cant afford more! lol But then Im also thinkin its going to add more to the wedding package in terms of arrival drink and toasting drink... What do you guys reckon? :/
CommentAuthorMichelleB2b
This is a difficult one. People make assumptions and it puts you in a bit of an awkward situation. I personally would struggle to ask anyone to pay for their meal at the wedding, but if you don't know them and someone is asking if they can bring them along then that is easier. You could always say to some that their plus ones can come in the evening after the meal, that could be a good compromise. The best thing is to be honest with your friends and family about your budget.
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I say go for it ! If you don't mind them being there, I'd easily say:
'Although my view is the more the merrier, I'm afraid due to financial circumstance, any people that aren't included on the invitation I sent out but would like to attend the reception will have to pay for themselves or will not be able to attend. The cost is £35 per person. I hope you understand.'
Maybe in a text or email to those doing the asking !
People are so rude inviting people themselves !! I hope noone in my family does that else I'll be really annoyed ! xx
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4th July 2015
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Or as Michelle has said, say due to financial circumstance they will only be able to attend the evening.. Unless, like our package you have to pay for evening extras to expand the buffet ! x
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4th July 2015
CommentAuthormillz090
Its your choice really, personally i think its rude to ask them to pay to come however they are rude to assume they are being invited anyway. Why not offer them an evening invitation instead? xxx
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Its a hard call. We invited partners of close friends etc but had one guest who asked could she bring a friend along - not a partner or anythibng, just a friend so she wasnt travelling alone. I explained we didnt have the numbers to be able to do that and if she wanted her friend to come, she would have to pay for her meal etc as we didnt know this friend at all.
My friend instead came to the evening do. problem solved.
In my opinion, those who are asking for +1's will be happy to pay if they really want to be there, if they arent, then theyre not worth being part of your day anyway and probably only in it for a day out!
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CommentAuthorMrsA-J
were fine for the evening! Its a big gap! 63 for the breakfast then 150!!! for the evening. So night buffet is fine. A part of me feels bad cos I do feel that perhaps partners should be invited but the truth of the matter is I cant afford it. Wish I could! But theres no way, unless that money tree in back garden starts growing lol
It makes you feel so crappy when people assume there coming :/ I feel so bad!
I do like the email idea!!
CommentAuthorkimicharles
I agree, we have had to do similar and say to people they are more than welcome to bring xxx however we are already over budget as it is and cannot financially accomodate any more people so if you want them to come you're gonna have to pay for them or they can pay for themselves but I'm really sorry, we just cant do it.
Georgi's wording is better than mine :-)
CommentAuthorsarah
Hmmm... I'd wait until numbers are due. That way you don't have to deal with people wanting to pull out and get a refund. You may.find spaces will become available. but I dont think there's anything wrong with allowing people to pay for their plate closer to the big day.
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
I agree with Sarah, you could say to people, that if there are places available they are welcome to bring their partners but only IF. Otherwise they can pay for their partners themselves.
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Thanks kimicharles :-)
Just for any brides that haven't done their invitations yet ! I read on a site that if you put
__ of 4 attending
or however many there are being invited with that invitation in the bottom corner of your RSVP, then people know there's only that many invited and can put the number of attendees :-) Also makes counting up easier once they're all in !
My RSVP's are online so I'm specifically writing the invited peoples names on the envelope, invitation AND RSVP.. Just so they get the picture ;-) xx
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4th July 2015
CommentAuthorNicoleee_x
hmmm its a tough one but i agree with whats already been said by the other girls say you're really sorry but you're on a tight budget, they are more than welcome to attend the evening do and there may be a space available if somebody drops out but you will have to let them know nearer the time xx
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
I did the same writing the names on the front of the RSVP's
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary
CommentAuthornadia13
You should wait until the numbers come in, our package covered 60 people but wanted about 65 plus 4 children so we sent invites out to all and it turns out that with so many not coming that it 60 with the 4 children so now we don't have to pay the extra!! Win win :0) saved us about a grand x
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Feel for u hun, I'm not looking forward to that dreaded moment people ask for there extras to come. But for me it will be no sorry we have a set budget and I will put the, on the back up lost but only those on the invite will be able to have the meal the others are welcome to wedding and evening. My gran is going to be a NIGHTMARE!! At my mums my auntie couldn't go so instead of telling my mum my gran just filled her space with ppl my parents hated. Then at my cousins she asked if her husbands brother could go ( they didn't no him) and because their answer was no my gran n her husband didn't go!! She moaned at me about the time of year mine was and so up it drives me mad!! Hope u manage to sort it hun x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I'd just say, that since that couple hadn't been together long that they're not invited all day, just to the evening! .... Be blunt.... Be bold....! Lol.... We're only having GF/bf of guests if we have done things with them in the next 17months...if we haven't met them they're not invited x
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