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    • VickiD69
      CommentAuthorVickiD69
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: May 6th 2015
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    It's my hen do a week on Saturday, I have arranged it all.

    One friend happened to be dumped by her long term boyfriend, her car die all the same week the final payment had to be done. I paid for her and said pay me back after you sort a car and get paid next month, she was fine with that.

    Now transport had to be paid by 1st May, I gave about 5 notifications to everyone throughout the month leading up to it to remind them as it was to pay to me. I am already being lenient as I know they have all paid £75 for the night and I asked everyone to pay £35 each for the transport there and back the next day (party bus so it's a bit pricey!) this will cover half of it and I pay the other half. I'm not rolling in money by any means, I'm always in minus money at the end of every month but thought it's my hen do why not! So I'm really strap for cash!

    3 times I have asked this friend for the money now, she owes me the full £110, She said she will do it tomorrow every time, still nothing. I wouldn't mind if she was lacking in money but she went on a shopping spree on the weekend and on a night out! Makes it harder as I also work with this girl everyday. How do I get my money, Iv hinted and Iv asked straight out, says yes but nothing happens? What do I do?
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 6th 2015
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    Tell her you need that money by such a date, if you don't have it she cannot attend and someone else will.

    Too late now, but I would have been tempted to get the money upfront from people before booking

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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: May 6th 2015
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    Just make an excuse - I know its not the way to do it but it seems as though she's always making them. Tell her something has popped up - wedding wise - and you need to pay for it so you need that £110 back like today! If she's already said yes she could either be really really forgetful or she's stringing it along? xx

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: May 6th 2015
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    If she doesn't come do you still have to pay for her regardless or can you tell her she can't come if she doesn't pay? Is there someone else who would be happy to go and can put up the money if necessary?

    Be honest with her and say you understand she has went through a difficult time but noticing she is going out again and going on shopping spree's she must be back on her feet. Say you would like her to be able to make it to your hen night you've worked hard to plan but if she doesn't want to come that's okay but if she does you really need the money now.

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    • Myranny
      CommentAuthorMyranny
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 6th 2015
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    I agree with Victoria, just be honest. It's a lot of money really, and she's said she'll pay and you can't help but notice she went shopping (which she is perfectly entitled to do, of course) but as she owes you £110 you would like in by x date, and if she can't pay or doesn't want to come any more you need to know now. Tell her you will be a little upset, but telling you asap is the best thing so you can try and get someone else to go in her place is she cannot afford it/doesn't want to go anymore. xx
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 6th 2015
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    I agree with the others. Just ask for the money and give her a deadline so that she knows you're serious.

    Tell her if she doesn't pay up then she will lose her place.

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