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    • AngelaJ33
      CommentAuthorAngelaJ33
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
     
    Parents not attending wedding due to family argument and disowning me.
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    • AngelaJ33
      CommentAuthorAngelaJ33
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
     
    (LONG STORY CUT SHORT) i told my mum that i wanted to live my own life my way.both her and my dad were not happy about this and they said that fine i can and have kinda disowned me. they wont be coming to the wedding and now im in two minds about what to do. any advice please. everyone has said well its my day and thats all that matters. i should do what i want. my mum said that i was selfish.
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    • The-Future-Mrs-B
      CommentAuthorThe-Future-Mrs-B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
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    Your not being selfish, your wedding should be what you and your h2b want and everyone including parents should respect that, and they should feel proud to be celebrating your day with you and happy that you are having the day you want.
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    • CharlieBe-Cool
      CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
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    I'm sorry you're in this positon, but your parents sound childish and selfish. Disowning you because you want to do it your way on YOUR wedding day? I am sure there is more to this, but frankly, anyone who treated me the way they seem to be treating you wouldnt be welcome. I would carry on with planning my wedding regardless, they cant treat you like a child for the rest of your life.

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
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    Can I ask how old you are Angela? I have been back and forth between my mam and dad since I was very young and was finally living on my own at 18 I think. Having the childhood that I did made me very mature for my age (especially getting engaged last year at 20) For example I had a key to the house before I left primary school (I did only live literally at the top of the street) as my mam worked shifts, done my own washing since I was 12 etc. Anyway, to the point, my mam, stepdad and sister (most importantly to me my nieces) aren't coming to my wedding next year. They and my dad wontbe in the same room together so obviously it came to mam/sister or my dad. After lots of childish behaviour on my arms part, she's not only not invited but not welcome unless she does some serious making up. Plan your wedding the way you want and don't let them interfere unless they apologise and deserve to be there. Is it a case of they don't realise how immature and selfish they've been and need speaking to beforehand?

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    • AngelaJ33
      CommentAuthorAngelaJ33
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
     
    hiya aprilS6, i agree with what you say and i have not had contact with my parents for about 2 months now as they could not see what they were doing. i am continuing to plan my wedding and having so much fun in doing so. im so excited. i am not getting married till october 2016 and have decided that i will sent them an invite as i cannot deny them the chance to miss the one and only time im getting married but it is on the terms they behave. Im 25, 26 in a month.
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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    I absolutely think that is the right thing to do. I really hope they make contact sooner rather than later and I am so glad you are still able to enjoy the experience.
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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    I don't think you're selfish at all, you should live your life the way you want. To be honest they sound like the selfish ones, like they want to control you x

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    Hopefully they will someday come to their senses and want to spend this day with you... You only get one chance at this life after all x

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    sorry to hear you are going through this but like the other ladies have said its your day and you need to do what you want hun xx

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    I can understand where you're coming from. My Dad and I didn't have an argument so much he came right out of the blue calling me all the names under the sun. It later turned out he was manipulated by his ex wife my former step mother. Now everyone (apart from a few people who understand the situation) tell me I should just forgive and forget and that's it. My only problem is is that I have done this A LOT for my Dad since I was 7. Forgiven and forgotten every single time he was in the wrong and never once did he ever ask for it or apologise for what he did let alone show any remorse. 6 years ago was the last straw (I still have both the nasty letter and email he sent me and it's disgusting) and unless his first step is to apologise for what he did he will have no involvement in my life let alone invite to my wedding where I want only those who love and support me.

    Stick to your guns and remember your wedding day is about not only the love between you and your h2b but the love from those around you witnessing your steps into married life

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    Hi Angela, please can I ask what they feel is upsetting them so much that they have disowned you? Whilst I always believe your life is your own, I can only really gain an understanding if I can understand their reasoning.

    Regardless, it is a sad situation, as everyone is missing out x
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    It's sad when it comes to this. It could be a case of them being controlling and not wanting you to grow up. It might be a case of them feeling that if you grow up and go your own way, it means they are getting older, maybe something they don't want to happen, even though it will and does for everyone. If they won't sit and listen to you face to face, have you thought about writing it down in a letter to them with your feelings and that you want them at your wedding to witness your special day. Sometimes it takes it to be in writing to understand things, I find with hubby if I talk to him he switches off, whereas if I write anything down he listens.

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    Similar boat to you Victoria with my mam!

    Clairenina has a good point though - is there something in particular that's upset them or are they just being unreasonable altogether?

    The reason I asked how old you are - it's not like youre 17 planning a wedding and running away from home kind of thing, youre 26 trying to start your life, and make your own family! I think you should just carry one what you're doing and enjoy it.

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