I had the discussion with H2B a couple of days ago about what his thoughts on my name after the wedding is. He told me straight out that he would not be changing his name, which i don't expect him to do, and that i should drop my name to take his as that's tradition. Which is all fine and whatever but he sure as hell hasn't stuck to tradition anywhere else. I really don't want to drop my name. I was thinking of having his as well only my name is Wilson and his is Morgan, two quite long names and I'm not certain Nicole Louise Wilson Morgan really has a ring to it. I prefer Nicole Louise Morgan Wilson but is this allowed? Does it just turn it into my middle name? and is double barreling these long names too much?
What is everyone else doing?
Thanks
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorEmily17
I would do whatever you feel comfortable with. I wouldn't say that they are too long to double barrel and double barreling your surname does not make it your middle name. It can go either way round so entirely up to you. You will have to live with your name for the rest of your life so it isn't something you need to take lightly. x
I am going to take my OHs name but he hasn't forced me into this decision it was something that I wanted to do.
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CommentAuthorNicoleW665
thanks :) I'm blaming my dad for this, he had three daughters and always told us he would be upset if we all dropped the family name ahaha. I think I like Morgan Wilson as two separate names but then comes the issue of naming children in the future. Good thing I have a while to wait until the wedding, wouldn't like to be making the decision under pressure x
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When we announced engagement: December 2015
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CommentAuthorEmily17
It is something that you need to talk to him about. But she should entirely respect your decision to want to keep your name. By double barrelling you are accepting his name and showing the world that you have both welcomed the others family. I hope you find something that you both agree on x
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CommentAuthorEmily17
Woops. Should have put he should respect your decision!
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I think Morgan-Wilson sounds lovely as a double barreled name. I wouldn't worry too much about your middle name - you will rarely give all names or say them all out loud, most of the time you would probably say Nicole Morgan-Wilson. As Emily said, he should respect your decision either way as it's what you are going to be called for the rest of your life... by double barreling you are still taking on his name, you are just keeping your own "identity" in the process and is becoming increasingly more common nowadays.
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CommentAuthorNicoleW665
Thank you everyone :) your opinions have helped, i was just worried Morgan-Wilson would be too long, I think it's likely what I will go with.
Thanks again x
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorStephanieM158
i like the double barrell morgan-wilson. its lovely. I cant wait to become Mrs Carr even though I love my surname, Murray, it wont change who I am.... if it makes you happy to keep your name he should respect your decision. :-)
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CommentAuthorLeanneF96
Morgan-Wilson sounds great. I have the same problem as i love my second name! It doesnt go with OHs second name though! He has a unusual name so it sounds a bit strange if i doubled it up with mine!
CommentAuthorLoz K
I think Morgan-Wilson sounds lovely, you should definitely go for it!
I'm lucky in that I will get the best of both worlds - I'll probably keep my surname for my job as that's how I'm known in my industry, but I'll take OH surname for my private life. It will be like leading two lives! :-)
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
I feel much better about double barreling now thank you everyone :)
Leanne it is difficult isn't it, if you don't mind me asking, what is his unusual name?
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When we announced engagement: December 2015
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CommentAuthorKayleighS46
we were both thinking of having double barrel surname but I quite like the fact that I'm taking his on and my surname is longer than his so would be silly to double barrel it. I'd rather just change mine as I also don't want our children to have double barrel and I want the same name as them - when we have them lol
I think Morgan-Wilson is lovely xx
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CommentAuthorNicoleW665
Yes, the children aspect has had me worrying as well but thats a problem for another day now :') ahah x
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CommentAuthorLeanneF96
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His surname is Oses ( pronounced o-sis) and ive not heard of that before i met him. His mum and dad are from spain. Ill be forver spelling my name over the phone haha! Mine is Fox :-)
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
ooh yeh i haven't heard that one before either, Osis-Fox sounds nice though :)
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CommentAuthorStephH96
I am in the Morgan-Wilson camp too. Sounds very posh! In a good way :)
CommentAuthorSusanM34
I think Morgan-Wilson sounds fine. As for children, if you don't want to double barrel their names you could always go with just Morgan.
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CommentAuthorSusanM34
Leanne, I also think Oses-Fox sounds lovely!
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I took hubby's name, but you could always double barrel yours if you still want to keep it.
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CommentAuthorMrs D2B
If your worried about passing your family name on to you children don't. My mum changed her name when she married my dad however when I was born she gave me her maiden name as a middle name, when my brother was born she gave him a double barreled name using her maiden name and her married name, the idea being that our family name would not be lost. I have carried on this idea and my lo has my mums maiden name as a middle name and her daddy's (my h2b) name as a surname. When my brother marries (should she want to) his wife will take the hyphened name as her own.
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
LeanneF, OHs surname is one that we forever have to spell lol....
We say it and without prompting immediately spell it after lol
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I always have to spell my surname, it drives me nuts. It's Woolhouse but people just never seem to get it... I always say "W double O L, HOUSE". Can't wait to change my surname!!! Although sometimes people don't get Pringle either - so I say "as in the crisp", lol.
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CommentAuthorNicoleW665
aha aw all this worry over our names :') at least the marriage will be worth our stresses x
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Ha ha ha Flossie.....
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CommentAuthorStephH96
My name will be Nolan. I know its going to be a pain because OH automatically spells it out for people. I tell to just say 'like the sisters' but apparently that reference is too out of date nowadays :/
CommentAuthorFayeH
My name is currently Faye-Marie Hutchinson. After the wedding I'll be Faye Marie Hutchinson-Phillips and H2B will be William Hutchinson-Phillips. It is long and I love it! People will have to deal. Never in my life have i heard someone go "that b*tch who wanted the really long name".. people just don't bother.
Also I think It doesn't matter what order your names go in! As long as you like it. Personally i don't think your OH has much right to dictate what your name will be, and it's 2016 for Christ's sake, balls to tradition. There's a certain amount of heritage and identity in a name that I just wasn't willing to let go, luckily H2B has been really good about it and wants to be a Hutchinson-Phillips too.
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
2 double barrel names! it rolls so well :)
we had another chat last night and we've decided he will stay Morgan and I will be Morgan-Wilson, hoping my signature will fit on signature lines x
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorFlossie
Glad you've sorted it out and have agreed :)
I do a really lazy signature.. I just use my first initial and the first letter of my surname, then do some squiggles to make it look fancier... Lol. Think I'll do the same with my new married signature too!
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CommentAuthorMrs Jones
I usually have to spell my surname - Holledge - but will be Mrs Jones so. I wanted double-barrelled too because my surname is unusual, but have decided to just go with Jones - still think Holledge-Jones has an okay ring about it!
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
My signature at the moment is basically a child's signature, I just write my first initial and my surname out, no fancy writing just normal! Hoping I can come up with something a bit more fancy for my new name.
I very rarely have to spell out my surname to people but OH does all of the time, his name is Pimblett, everybody has the same look of confusion when they try to spell it!
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CommentAuthorEmily17
My signature is just a squiggle. When I first used it, it did resemble my initial and surname but now its just ups and downs. Its really hard to copy and for the house I have had to be so careful with which signatures I do so that they all match.. Will be doing a better one for when I'm married!
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CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
My current surname is polish (thanks to my granddad) and I have to spell it every single time as it doesn't sound like it's spelt. It's spelt Majchrzak and pronounced Marshak so nobody ever gets it lol. I will be Nicola Banks when I get married :)
CommentAuthorFayeH
Haha my current signature is nothing like my name! I just do a squiggle. Hoping to come up with a prettier signature for after the wedding!
Haha Nicole I'll be dropping the double barrel in my first name when I get married, i can't have a double double barrel!
CommentAuthorFayeJ67
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My current name is Faye Jaumotte I always have to spell it! I'm not sure yet if my married name will be Faye Best, faye Jaumotte-Best or faye Best-Jaumotte Belgian tradition (family is Belgian) dictates the latter but I don't think it sounds right
CommentAuthorVikkiH53
I'm in the same dialema and I wanted to hyphenate it but then heard you have to do this by deed poll.
So now I'm having my surname as my midle name and the same if we have kids. All my cousins are girls so the family name will be lost after this generation
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
I'm glad you decided on double barrel name :) My name now is Toni Karen Ward and I have to sometimes spell it out as people think I say wood lol!! My married name will be Toni Karen Brownrigg, it's another unusual last name I do have to spell it out a lot for my children, I could have double barrelled it but my children all have just my H2B last name and I want to be the same! Even though Brownrigg- Ward does have a ring to it :) My dad died when I was 9 but my brother will carry on the ward name as he got married last year and hopefully will be having children in the not so distant future :) xx
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CommentAuthorKirstyR386
I'm 3 weeks in to married life and already having to spell Ayres to everyone! X
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
I too am having a double barrelled name- I'm Clayton and OH is Hughes so will be Michelle Clayton-Hughes :-)
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
all your names sound lovely :) i keep asking myself why i am getting so stressed out about it and then realise it is going to be my name for the rest of myself so can you blame me :') ahaha
I have been practicing my signature and I'll be honest it isn't going well! x
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorErinP42
double-barrel if you want to my MIL to be has a double-barrel and its normal to us (her names are about same length as yours) At the end of the day do what makes you happy.
CommentAuthorleasa
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Yes, definitely practice your new signature! Wish I had, didn't occur to me until I changed my name at the bank, had to do new signature so I scribbled one, stuck with it now and I don't like it!
My maiden name was Day, my married name is Kafizas (Greek, said as kafeeza) no combination of the two sounded good so I decided not to double barrel. I like your combination though.
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CommentAuthorLoz K
I haven't even thought about changing my signature! I only do a squiggle anyway so hoping I can keep it the same!
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
yes, Leasa thats what happened with my current signature when i was around 14 and needed it for my passport, i'm glad I can try again now x
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
