Also, feel for my friend! She text me the other day saying that her boyfriend's mum was discussing the idea of future Marriage plans for them, and she said that she wanted my friend to drop her own surname compeltely, and take both of her boyfriend's double barrelled surnames! Considering that he originally had one surname when she met him, and his mum convinced him to take on her surname too now that she's split with his dad, and said that my friend should too! Haha! We told her that his mum didn't have a leg to stand on and actually has zero right to even make a comment on what she chooses to do with their names! Mothers, Ay?! X
CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
I'm looking forward to taking on OH's name, it was one of the things I always wondered and dreamt about when I was little. I feel proud about it personally, but it's very much a personal choice.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Nikki it's none of her FMILs business what she chooses to call herself. She has absolutely no right to even have an opinion so she can just learn to keep her nose out. Grrrr, people like that really wind me up!
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CommentAuthorBecca
It's your name at the end of the day, it's your choice, at first i didn't want to change my name, my partner and i decided to try a double barrel but it would of been awkward for my partner because my surname is his middle name, so technically he would of been Steven Richard Richards-Smith ... I decided that i may not bother and my OH mother went mental... i got the "if his father was alive he would of been furious, a woman is born to get married and take someone else's name" i was like "oh jeez. its the 21st century" i do want to change my surname to his now, but she doesn't know yet, she still thinks I'm keeping richards in there. Its whatever you want at the end of the day xxx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Becca I'd have told her where to go.
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That's some self control you've got Becca. I would of struggled not to tell her to poke it.
CommentAuthorNikkiE58
I know!! I think it's insane how many Monster in Laws think they can have a say in stuff like this! Fair enough there's guiding people when they are unsure, or offering your opinion when asked what you would like them to do, but just putting your views out there like they should be Gospel is the height of rudeness! Oh god, Becca, I would have had a right old go back! Your tongue must have loads of teeth marks! You can always double barrel your name and he can keep his if you still like having Richards? X
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I think whilst hubby says he's now ok with me changing to double barrelled at some point I don't think he's really overly keen still. He'd prefer it if his name went first. I am not going to let FOL know that is what I plan though as he is very traditional.
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
With double-barrelling I think you just have to see which way round sounds better. Sometimes one way just won't sound right. The latest thing of course is to come up with a totally new name that combines part of each surname, so both of the couple are on an equal footing but both have the same name. I think you would need to do deed poll in that case.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I'm happy to just double barrel and him keep his name.
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Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorVelcro
ive still not changed my name everywhere i cant be bothered, lol.
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CommentAuthorMichelleC961
How did you not say anything becci?
CommentAuthorJoanneH4
I want to keep my last name but my H2B wants me to have his name. He wants my name to be Mrs Joanne Marie Griffiths but I want it to be Mrs Joanne Marie Hopkins Griffiths. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I really want to have my name double barrel. Help me. What should I do?
CommentAuthorJulieB11
It's a tough one Joanne if he wants you to take his name but you want to double barrel it there isn't really a compromise. It's either stick to your guns, or change it. I guess as someone earlier said, it comes down to how strongly you feel about it. OH knows how I feel so he's, if not happy, willing to accept double barrel as a compromise. I'm not sure what I would of done if he'd really wanted me to change my name.
CommentAuthorJulieB11
I am aware I gave you absolutely nothing in the way of useful advice there. Sorry x
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
To me you are still taking his surname as it is last, why should it matter if it is double barrelled? Have yiu asked him what his reasons are? To me it is up to you :-)
