Hey girlies, like the title says, my parents don't see eye to eye with my partner at all. My OH has tried in the past to talk to them and get along with them but it all just boils down to my mom being a complete over-bearing and wants control over everything. It all started when i was pregnant with my eldest she had a right old moan at OH and told him that she wanted me and our son to live with her where we apparently belong and all my oh said was no i want them with me where i can look after them and be with them everyday. then my mom took it upon herself to tell my dad that alex had something completely different and since then alex has decided to not have anything to do with them which i can't blame him i'd be the same in his shoes if that were to happen to me, he doesnt moan at all and i still see my parents from time to time but this wedding thats going to start to be planned soon and what will happen i dont want my parents to be horrible to alex or any of his family at the wedding i want my parents to be polite etc and not cause a fuss over something that happened years ago. I dont know if to tell them not to be all upperty and look down their noses like they always do or face not coming to the wedding.
its just such a hard decision to make and do :(
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I think you need to sit down with them, tell them this is your day and you want no mishaps during it, whatever issues they have, to please put them aside for the day for YOUR sake.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
Def a sit down discussion with your parents!
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Maybe it's time for you and your fiancé to sit down with your parents and talk openly. Of course you and your son needed to live with your OH, but your mum is being protective. Possibly she is also scared of losing you.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorVelcro
parents like this make no sense to me, my husbands are the same, its all about control. I'm sure they allowed their parents to control them and their relationship decisions when they were younger?! its mental. I don't talk to my inlaws and just stayed out of their way on the wedding day, nothing was said to them before hand and i didnt notice them being sour faced on the day, a few people told me they were sat being miserable on the day but i didnt notice, which i think annoyed them even more lol.
if they want to sit and have faces on them all day, leave them too it. it only makes THEM look foolish, as is what happened on my day :)
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It's very difficult when both parties feel they are in the right when one obviously isn't - it is completely understandable that you OH wants to keep a safe distance but am I right in guessing your parents probably feel that it is HIS fault that there is a distance between you guys and them?
I agree it sounds like you need a proper chat with your parents, maybe just the three of you first, where you can gently explain that you have made your own decisions in life and you hope they can come along with you in that. You could perhaps get them to compromise a little by explaining that your OH is willing to compromise too and meet in the middle so long as you can all be honest and civil. It is such a shame when parents act like this, I hope you are able to sort it for everyone's sake x
CommentAuthorEmmalouise_xx
i go down every other weekend with the kids to see them, i've spoken to them before about whats happened in the past my dads all for forgetting the past but my mom seems like she doesnt want to it let it go. shes always liked control over things. i've told her before i moved out cuz i wanted to and didnt get pressured in to moving out. I've tried everything to put it in the past but it sill creeps up now Alex has said when the wedding does take place he will be be nice and talk i just dont want my dad to make a speach and drop in that he doesn't really know Alex etc and also i'm the only one out of my two sisters who has moved out and had kids and are now engaged my eldest sister is 27 and she hasnt moved out yet she has a steady boyfriend of 8 years and my younger sister is 22 and has a steady boyfriend as well and hasnt moved out yet either. so i don't see why my parents are like the way they are with me and not with my sisters :/
totally confuses me
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Wow I didn't think someone else would be going through the same as myself.
If I've learnt anything over the past year it's to do what is right for yourself and don't please everyone else just to make them happy.
My mum and dad don't get on with my OH after a few things that has happened over the years. Tbey told me tbey couldn't see themselves coming to our wedding as dad said how can I give you away to someone I don't get on with?
Mum and OH are getting along ok now but dad isn't budging at the minute. I take my son to see my parents every weekend and OH hasn't been to see them in over 8 months
I think you do need to sit down with them and explain just how you feel
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorEmmalouise_xx
I'm going down with the kids on Sunday, so i might mention something then to them as to when we're planning the wedding to be etci don't really think they'll say much my dad has a tendency to keep himself to himself, i just hope that my mom doesnt kick off, theres been times when shes been really arrogant and horrible and i've not been down for a few months to see them. Alex said last night that he would get on with them just for the sake of me and the kids on the actual wedding day he said he is passed the whole trying to get along now because my mom and dad never made the effort before.
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
That's exactly what my OH has said. It's a horrible situation to be in
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I suspect the difference with your other sisters is that your mum is not feeling worried that she will law them, as they are showing no sign of moving out. She is probably finding it hard to see you moving on with your life. At least if your dad is willing to let it go there may be a way that he can help you to build the bridges.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
