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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 3rd 2014
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    Please bear with me as I may not make complete sense as I am furious.

    So we are getting married in a hotel with 28 rooms, Personally I don't want my FMIL and SIL and the kids staying over the night before, The only people with kids are myself my best friend and my SIl with our three nephews so I got my best friend to book the only other family room in the hotel for her and her youngest whilst her older two share a double well imagine my surprise when my SIL texts to say she has booked the family room and they have moved my friend into a double with a put up bed.

    Now I know I may be blowing this way out of proportion But the hotel don't know the reasons why my friends have boked the family room various reasons her husband is disabled and needs plenty of room which the family rooms allows and it also meant that the rooms big enough for the 5 of them getting ready together Plus the chances are My DS will be popping into their room too as she has offered to keep him if needed as her daughter is his best friend . The hotel haven't even had the decency to phone and tell my friend, (As it is she still doesn't know and I have no idea if they plan on phoning to tell them).

    I don't want my In laws any where near me as they stress me out and I was hoping that with my friend booking the family room WEEKS ago it would put my SIL off staying in our hotel and stay in the one across the road.

    H2b doesn't see a problem with it but I think its bad of the hotel as my friend booked the family room not a double room with a Z-bed.

    Sorry for the rant and if im over reacting someone please tell me.

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    • RebeccaH100
      CommentAuthorRebeccaH100
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    Not an overreaction at all in my opinion. It was insanely rude of your in laws to do that, but also, like SERIOUSLY criminal of the hotel. They can't just change someone's reservation like that! If I were you, I'd get on the phone and give the hotel a seriously angry, but terrifyingly calm, piece of my mind and insist that they rectify the situation by calling your inlaws and saying they mistakenly double booked the room.

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
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    If this were me I would be mad, if you friend had booked a specific room and then been moved. I would get her to call up and say she is just clarifying the room she booked and if they say they have had to move her I would kick up saying I specifically wanted that room thats why i booked it and say she wants it put back and will have to call the other person and tell them that there was a mix up and she cannot hsve that room.

    With my hotel theres only 12 rooms including bridal suite , snd Im giving them a list of the rooms and where to place people and if theres anyone in particular to offer appologies that there are not sny rooms.

    Thos we feel should stay in hotel are including booking details of hotel in invites others ate having a not sayinf there is limited avalibility ar the venue but there is another hotel 5 mins down road we recomend with a free shuttle service back in evening.

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    What?! The hotel are more at fault than your fsil tbh... They should not move your friend, that is their room, they have booked it! Who are the hotel to judge!? If I were you I'd be on the home to them first thing and be telling them to change it back to how it was and tell the sil to put up and shut up or don't stay!

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    Yeah it's the hotel I'm furious with not SIL, I'm going to speak to my friend tomorrow we all go for lunch in a Friday, h2b says I shouldn't mention it but I'm not dealing this the day before the wedding because I will go nuts. I've managed to calm myself down a bit x

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
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    You need to get on to the hotel and get them to rectify it as you booked that room because you WANTED it. They can't just do that! Tell them to sort it out and put back as was! That's absolutely ridiculous, I'd be furious too.

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    • MelanieH10
      CommentAuthorMelanieH10
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    The hotel shouldn't have moved them if they asked for that specific room, but hotels will class a double will a z-bed as a family room. Just have a word with the hotel and tell them that room was booked because it was accessible. They will have to swap it back then, don't get stressed about it tho, just have a word x

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
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    Absolutely the hotel shouldn't have changed it, but it was really cheeky of your FSIL to do that. I doubt you can prevent her staying in the hotel but you can explain why you specifically wanted certain people to have that room. By the way what is DS? I keep seeing it.

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    • VictoriaB
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    Elinor Claire DS is darling son. X
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    Elinor I know I can't prevent them from staying in the hotel I hoped tho that because my friend had the family room it would make the reconsider staying.

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    I just don't know if it's worth the hassle of my friend phoning up or me phoning up and telling them to change it back, I fell out with my in laws a few years ago and they made life pretty difficult for me and h2b and I almost had a nervous breakdown.

    I've hardly slept a wink

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    • CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
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    I would text or ring sil back & explain that the bigger room was required due to her OH's disability, surely she can't argue with that. Then ring the hotel & put in a complaint, they should never have changed the booking to begin with. Infact I would probably ring them 1st to check that this was the case & that your Sil isn't getting the rooms confused.
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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
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    I'd get your friend to call them straight away and complain! They shouldn't change anything on a booking without checking. Have you spoken to your SIL about this at all? Xxx

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    • CharlieBe-Cool
      CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
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    Is your SIL known for kicking up a fuss? If so, it may be that SHE pressured the hotel into swapping rooms, for whatever reason, although the hotel should have refused as your friend had already booked it. I would personally call the hotel, explain what happened and say the friend needs the room as a guest has diabilities and its the most adequate room. Tell them she had booked it, and regardless of SIL, she should keep booking and move SIL to other room.

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    I always wondered what DS was too...

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
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    I would contact the hotel and explain why that room was booked and that it needs to be changed back. They should never have changed the original booking without contacting your friend. It's totally out of order.
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    My friends husband booked the rooms so he has phoned the hotel, the manager is going to phone him back tomorrow as she is off today. It was the manger who changed the booking.

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
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    Let us know how he gets on an what excuse the manager comes up with, would definatly not let them get away with it.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    When booking a specific room the hotel entered into a contact with your friend .. The hotel have now broken that by moving them to room that is not suitable for their needs ....

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    I will keep you all informed, tbh this is a stress I just don't need and it shouldn't have happened. Basically my friends husband has said if it's not resolved to his satisfaction they won't be staying. The hotel had them as a family of three when they booked for a family of four. It looks as thought the hotel weren't going to tell my friends and just expect them to turn up for the wedding and be fine with it all.

    I've accepted that the in laws will be staying no matter what happens but if my best friend doesn't stay over I will flip big time. I'm toying with the idea of having her little girl as flower girl but I've decided to wait and see how I feel next year so I haven't said anything to them and I'm not saying anything just now as I don't want to influence their decision about staying at the hotel for the wedding.

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
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    If I were you I would also kick up a fuss with the venue if they don't change the booking back, explain what a big impact this has had on you and also how it worries you how unprofessional they have been... in fact I'd be tempted to say something even if it is changed back




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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
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    Let us know the outcome, they had no right at all! Cheeky fecks! And as Lala said, they've broken their end of the contract, cheeky gets and to then expect them to turn up on the day and say oh by the way, we've given your room to someone else, can you IMAGINE the kick off......idiots.

    Completely agrees with your friends husband, I'd be on to them as well as they have added unnecessary stress upon you. Total unprofessional ar$eholes

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    • *KelBel*
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    That's against data protection to change a booking already made as that's a legally binding contract for that room between ur friend and the hotel! That could cause compensation and all sorts...they are NOT allowed to just put ppl where they want, it's illegal, and for your sil to have arranged it is also fraud I'm sure!x

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    • AH86
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    its not against date protection as they haven't disclosed any information regarding guest.

    also it cant be classed as fraud either, they hotel can put people in any room they deem fits the requirements , the case you have is because they requested a specific room for very valid reasons and were told that this was the room that had been reserved for them.

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    They disclosed to my SIL that I have one family room and that the other family only has three (when in actual fact they booked for 4)

    Lala I agree with you, my friend asked for the family room for valid reasons and the hotel didn't bother to check what those reason were before moving them to somewhere else's as of an hour ago they still hadn't phoned my friends x

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    Im going to send this email does it sound ok?

    Good Evening,


    I have my wedding booked for Sat 15th August 2015 and I was informed on Thursday Evening that my friends Mr & Mrs J have been moved from the family room that they booked in Feb so that Mr & Mrs K could have the room for them and their 3 boys.


    Mr J had the family room booked for him, his wife and 2 children (As well as a further double room), and as far as I am aware had been moved to a double room as the family room had only been booked for one child so they could be accommodated else where (I understand that a put up bed can be put up in the rooms for one extra child)


    Mr J called yesterday morning to sort the situation out as he isn't happy at being moved from a room they had booked to something that is now not suitable for his needs, He has explained to the lady on the phone his reasons for needing this room and she explained that it was her manager who changed the rooms and that she wasn't back in until today and that she would phone at some point today.


    As of now Mr J has not received a call to explain the room change and he did say to whoever the lady was he spoke to that if its not rectified to his satisfaction he will not be staying for our wedding.


    For me this is not an option as they make up part of my bridal party and the reason they booked the family room far in advance was so that they knew they had their accommodation sorted.


    This is causing me a massive stress and to be honest it is not something I should have to worry about and really don't want to be involved in. If you could please call Mr J to rectify the issue his number is 07.


    I appreciate that you are busy today with having a wedding on but I would be grateful if this situation can be sorted asap.

    Kindest of regards
    Elizabeth F

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    • Officially Mrs M
      CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
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    Sounds fine to me Hun. Firm and to the point

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    My friends have the family room back, I have a seriously p'd off SIL though, she had cancelled the rooms they had booked but it's being passed to the general manager , the hotel said they could squeeze the 5 of them into one room but SIL wasn't having it.

    I've forgot about h2bs gran having dementia so they need to stay so that gran can sleep during the day if needed and get away from everyone if it gets too much for her, MIL is sole career for gran and she really doesn't need the stress on her sons big day. I'm not sure what's going to happen with them staying or not, I'm not stressing out about it they can sort it out themselves.

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    • BethanyS
      CommentAuthorBethanyS
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    I'm glad they have the room back, its such a shame she is making so much stress for you though! X
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    • MrsThomson2B
      CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
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    I would be sure to point out that he requires the family room due to disability also that way there is no wiggle room for the hotel of your cow of sil xx
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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
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    Glad its sorted, these kind of thing should not be put a the b&gs door as they have enough to stress about it, and you sil can get pissed off as much as she wants it was your friends room, they booked it in advance fir valid reasons aswell as first come first served.
    They will sort themselves out.

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    • MrsThomson2B
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    Lana x
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    • JoD96
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    So pleased you have managed to get this sorted, hopefully you will no more worries like this :)




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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
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    glad its sorted! who cares if shes pi$$ed off, its not your problem.

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    H2b has said if she stresses me out he is going to deal with her, basically what everyone has said he's said. She should have booked the rooms when first told about it and she wouldn't be in this position. H2b has also said he has no problem telling them all to P off if needed (hopefully it doesn't come to that)

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    UPDATE

    I was out with my SIL this morning (Funny how when they want something they are super nice) and she told me that because they cant all stay the boys wont be at the wedding her oldest is one of the usher. I am so angry its not an option for the boys not to be there, SO I have now asked my friend after everything if they would consider moving to a smaller room so the boys can go and my SIL gets the family room, I feel like I have been blackmailed but there is nothing much else I can do. She also told me that granny (Dementia sufferer) will dictate what happens with her mum on the day so she might only be there five minutes (WTF its her sons wedding) MIL is her sole carer and I understand that gran comes first. Imnot waiting to hear from my friend to see if they will move she needs to speak to her husband but after all that I went through I feel like 'for what' I am not letting it stress me out but my OH is fuming.

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    • StephanieK77
      CommentAuthorStephanieK77
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    This is so unfair. How old is her oldest son? Could he share a room with another family member so that you dont have to swich rooms again?
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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
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    Its your wedding hun, I know everyone says it, but honestly, do what YOU want to do, and if that means moving rooms again, or having less people within the bridal party then so be it. No one should be dictating or vlackmailing you regarding your own wedding, thats just the lowest of the low xx

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    Her oldest will be almost 12. There would be 3 adults in one room (Mil, Gran and the other SIL) and SIL her husband and three kids in the family room. She said she isn't paying for 3 rooms and I see her point Its £100 per room per night and they are staying both nights. I also dropped the bombshell that Alan isn't staying the night before the wedding he will be at home with Connor.

    She has also said that they would be looking after Connor on the wedding day so had to put her right on that too I know she means well, but she cant dictate what is happening with my son.

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    Its not an option for the boys not to be there from my POV and OH agrees. I will see what comes of my friend. If she decided the boys aren't going then We would only have the one usher as we had originally planned but thought it was nice to include nephew as her and the other SIL aren't Bms

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    • GemmaR81
      CommentAuthorGemmaR81
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    Families and future families are pain in the backsides. That is bang out of order saying that the boys cant come, is it based on her not getting a room she wanted. My FSIL is very similar, her and her eldest son have had a massive falling out and are not talking and are not likely to be. She text me a few weeks ago and said that if her eldest son is going to our wedding then her, her husband and younger son will not be there. We were not invited to her wedding as she decided that she wanted her ex SIL (OH ex wife and mum of his kids) there instead on her brother!!!! At least your OH is singing from the same hymn sheet xxx




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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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    They were told months before anyone else that there was only one family room left. but they didn't book it early enough and my friend booked it. The hotel were trying to be accommodating and moved my friends to a smaller room but they failed to inform my friends so her hubby dug his heels in and wanted moved back to the family room. Sil cancelled her reservation and now tells me the boys wont be there. She is just drama all the time. They hate me but when this is all over I will have the last laugh as im marrying the man of my dreams and there is nothing they can do about it :)

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    • GemmaR81
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    Exactly Elizabeth, we marry the men that we love xxx




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    • Showgirl
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    WTF?!?I thought there was other accomodation nearby that she would be able to book, so why then could she not book a room elsewhere (which is what you wanted in the first place) and have her son in the bridal party still? She and her son won't need a room until the evening so it seems incredibly petty that he would have to miss the entire wedding for the sake of where they would all be sleeping afterwards. I still think your friend should still have the family room no matter what as it was requested for valid reasons. I get that she doesn't want to pay for 3 rooms but then most places can put up an extra temporary bed in a room which would mean that only 2 rooms would be required. If she does decide the kids can't come to the wedding then who will be looking after them all day and night?
    Yes, it was a nice idea to include him but ultimately if it doesn't happen it will be entirely because of her not you, she's a grown up and should start acting like one instead of throwing a tantrum! In this case a tantrum that has a negative effect not only on her brother but also her own son and your friend. Accepting that you can't always have your own way and finding a comfortable alternative is all part of being an adult. With or without her son in the bridal party, you will not allow her to bully you, OH or your friend out of what you have already planned for your wedding (apart from whether or not her son is in the bridal party, sadly that is one thing she can control). Put your foot down and tell her to grow up!
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: May 9th 2014
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    She has said that if the boys get bored or unruly (Which they can be very much so to the point its embarrassing) then she can send them to the room with their dad. It would be the dad that would miss out on the wedding to look after them if she decided they weren't to go.

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    • Showgirl
      CommentAuthorShowgirl
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: May 9th 2014
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    She doesn't need to send them off to a hotel room to cool off - generally anywhere away from the guests would be fine - the room next to the ceremony room perhaps, outside, bar, restaurant, maybe ask one of the guests who is staying there if it might be possible to use their room for a few minutes or Dad takes them for a really long walk around the venue to wear them out as soon as they start acting up and then rejoin everyone once they've settled?
 
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