Ok so I have 5 sisters, all have been married. One of them got married in July last year and my dad didn't make a speech. She told him he didnt have to if he didnt want to. In fact I dont think he's made a speech at any of their weddings. I'm the baby and the last to be married and I would love for my dad to make a speech at our wedding. I have a different mum to my sisters and my dad has been there all of my life so the situation with me is different. I have asked him, but he doesnt want to. He doesnt see the point in it and says if my sisters didnt mind then I shouldnt either!
Does anyone think I'm being selfish to be upset by this?
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i'm not sure if my dad will be a speech but i'm his only daughter so i think he will. I would just ask him if he wouldnt' mind doing one and why he didnt at the others, if he doesn't want to is there a grandparent you are close to that could make a speech?
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CommentAuthorJill
Aww hun :( I can see why you want him to - tradition etc - but personally I wouldnt force it if he's really against it. Is he uncomfortable being centre of attention? My dad is and although he wants to do the speech, I cant help but worry for him as I know he hates having the spotlight on him... esp when there will be 100 people there, most of whom he wont know.
My friends dad doesnt do speeches but at her wedding he stood up and thanked everyone for coming, welcomed groom to the family and said he hoped everyone had a good time. Short and to the point - about 30 seconds worth of speaking - but lovely nontheless x
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CommentAuthorlemlau
I know where you are coming and where your dad is coming from. How about you ask him to write something and get one of your sisters to read it out for him or ask somebody else to make a speech?
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Drake
Some people just dont like having all eyes on them and feel embarassed and feel they are going to mess it up with nerves. I dont think my dad will be making a speach at my wedding as he is the same. I know its disappointing but all i try think is he's going to be there and thats all that matters try make the most of what you have. You are allowed to be upset of course you are but that won't change the fact he doesnt want to make a speach. Maybe ask if he could write a few words that could be read out by someone else if that makes it a little easier for him. Therefore you still get the words from the heart x
h2b dad is refusing to do one point blank cos he saying he doesnt know what to say. he never uses the internet. so h2b has suggested that he writs it and fil reads it out. mil has warned him if he doesnt his new york holiday for his birthday is canned if he doesnt ha ha ha. as for my dad he had his written out the week after we announced our engagement and date. hes too excited lol.
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CommentAuthorMrsA2B
Thanks for replying ladies.
Soon to be Mrs Mann - I dont have any grandparents so that isn't an option :(
Jill - Thats all I'd like him to do really. I dont want a full blown speech with punch lines etc. Just something on behalf of my family to welcome Paul and to thank everyone for coming.
I was thinking that I could do that part but I cant really welcome my own husband to the family???!! It would be a little biased rght lol
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CommentAuthorClareS
My mum's giving me away and she doesn't want to do a speech either. I'm fine with that as I don't want her to feel awkward. I don't really want to do one either but instead of mum getting up and saying a whole load of stuff about me, I though I might make a speech about her and thanking her for all the things she's done for me. But I need to pluck up the courage to do this as I get all emotional and turn into a blubbering wreck when I talk about touchy feely stuff lol x
CommentAuthorJill
Maybe you could explain to him that's all your after? I know h2b fretted like mad when he was best man at his mates wedding. Thinking of witty things to say can be tough when it needs to be done, even for the most charasmatic people and can be uncomfortable to see when someone else is feeling the pain of it, even though everyone is behind them in doing it if you know what I mean. Maybe if he knows it's just a hello, welcome, thanks, enjoy it wouldnt be so bad? x
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CommentAuthorGazza 122
My Dad won't be doing a speech either at my wedding, he is not a very confident speaker and tends to shy away from social situations, he is (i think) quite nervous about just walking me down the aisle lol x He did say to me he didnt want to do a speech and i know he wouldnt say that unless he really didnt want to. I have said he didnt need to worry about it as long as he is walking me xx
CommentAuthorTop Cat
I hadnt even thought about my dad doing a speech !!! He can talk the hind leg off a donkey so I dread to think how long he'll go on for !!!!!!
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
I dont think my dad would make a speech ether, i would probably leave it to my mum. I wouldnt be upset atall, maybe hes just a little shy?
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CommentAuthorMrsA2B
I'm glad I posted this thread. I didnt realise how many Dad's arent making speeches!!! I think I will ask him if he'll do a little 'thank you' but if not then I'll break the tradition and do a 'thankyou' myself!
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CommentAuthorSweetchilli
My h2b isn't doing a speech, as he says he will be to nervous and will end up making a fool of himself. He also doesn't have a best man through choice, so my Dad is doing groom, best man and dad speech. Wee shame.
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
My mum is giving me away as my dad passed away when I was 7, but she's said she doesn't want to make a speech, so my younger brother is going to do a 'brother of the bride' speech for me instead :-)
CommentAuthorKellyD
my dad wont be making a speech either. he has anxiety issues and i dont want him to feel pressured into doing something thats going to upset him, his day and my day. i would rather him not do one and be comfortable. x
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CommentAuthormadhen
H2b's brother got married last year and the bride's dad tried to make a speech but got completely tongue-tied...apparently it happened at her sister's wedding too so he was determined to try again this time. But anyway, he just stood silent for three cringeworthy minutes then someone else took over. Then at the end he stood up and said a few words but they were all about the bride's sister not her, he kept mixing up the names and telling stories that had happened to the other daughter.... so maybe some people should be allowed not to make speeches? :( Could he make a toast to you and your groom instead maybe?
CommentAuthorCupCake
My Dad didn't do a speech at my wedding last year. He was diagnosed with Parkinsons and he's got quite forgetful and shaky, I just didn't want to put any pressure on him. Maybe your Dad will make a nice toast to you both instead? that way he won't have to say too much, but will be involved in a small way.
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CommentAuthoricklejaney
My dad doesn't want to do a speech either. But he also said he didn't want to wear a kilt either! I'm hoping that he'll at least agree to do a toast. He has this weird thing about speaking in front of people even though he was a teacher for over 30 years and is a reverend!! x
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CommentAuthorsamitrev2B
y dnt u ask one of ur sisters, i can see ur dads point as well if he didnt do it for them he isnt for u at least he is treating u all equal which is great..... or even ur mum cud do a speech hun, how much everyone wants their dads or partners do to a speech if they feel uncomfortable then u need to just be like thats cool. my h2b doesnt like speaking out in front of everyone but i know he loves me so if he doesnt talk it doesnt bother me i want him to enjoy his day not be nervous n panicking about speeches xxx or y dnt u do a speech? i am xxxx
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
There wont be ANY speeches at my wedding, my H2B hates being centre of attention, so does my son....who is giving me away. and his 'best man' is his daughter and we cant expect her to do one if no-one else is. I wish they would, I am a little bit disappointed that even my H2B wont do it....i wanted him to thank people for coming, and tell everyone how happy he was to have married to me, but then i guess he declared that at the ceremony didnt he? And i know he WILL thank people for coming but i think he will do it person to person. ah well, he dont have to make a speech.....all i want him to say is 'I DO' thats the most important part i spose.
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CommentAuthormadhen
Have you got it sorted MrsA2B? :)
CommentAuthorOWB
If he really doesn't want to do it, then do your own. H2b and I are doing our own as we have no father/best man to do them for us.
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I doubt my dad will do a speech as he is very shy and has already had a little cry when I asked him to give me away! If he doesnt want to do a speech I will ask my mum to do one instead as she could talk for England! Could your mum not do one to welcome h2b to the family? xx
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