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    • NatalieF966
      Getting married in 11 months
      Posted: Apr 6th 2021
    Hi all, I'm new here and really just wanted to get some opinions as to whether you would be upset in my situation. So my fiancé proposed Dec 2019 and we booked our wedding pretty quickly for April 2021. My brother then got engaged in August 2020 and they booked their wedding for October 2021. Around November last year we decided to postpone our wedding to April 2022 due to the pandemic, which now means we are getting married 6 months after my brother instead of 6 months before. But my entire wedding has been booked for a year now including my dress, bridesmaid dress, colour scheme etc. I have just found out my brother and his fiancée are having the exact same colour scheme - dusty rose pink. She doesn't have her dress or bridesmaid dresses yet due to everything being closed and has appointments later this month. I am upset that they are having the exact same colour as me, and I'm not sure why she would want the same when we are getting married quite close together. I have expressed how upset I am to my brother and the response is that it doesn't matter to them, it's irrelevant that we are now getting married after them and she has had this colour in mind long before they even met. Personally I feel that having the same colour as your sibling within a short space of time is a big no no and I would never have dreamed of having the same as him if he had planned his wedding before me, even if I do love the colour. Am I being unreasonable for being upset?
    • Bridetobe22
      Getting married in 12 months
      Posted: Apr 7th 2021
    Hiya! Newbie here too...In my personal opinion, this is bang out of order. Especially if you have shared with her your theme and ideas..just general things about your wedding. You have every right to feel the way you feel, maybe talk directly to her rather than to your brother. Explain to her how you feel about it, and how it's made you feel that she is still doing it regardless of your feelings. I hope you haven't shared what your dress or bridesmaids dress looks like with her
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