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    • MikaelaL2
      CommentAuthorMikaelaL2
      Got married 17 months ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    Does anyone else find it strange that my fiancee and his mother in law think it's a great idea she comes on our honeymoon? We're planning to go to lapland and take our 2 children with us as I don't think I could brave it without them. So his mum said she will come too. How do approach the situation without it backfiring in my face? Thanks in advance
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    • LeanneF96
      CommentAuthorLeanneF96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    I wouldnt be best pleased if my mil came on ours. However we are only planning a weekend without the children so it would be a bit strange her coming! Maybe shes thinking she could look after the children if you both wanted some alone time whilst you are away? Like a quiet meal or something? If thats not the case then yes id think it was a bit odd but she may think shes helping you out. X




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    • KathleenO17
      CommentAuthorKathleenO17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    I agree with Leanne perhaps she does think she is doing you a favour and can watch the kids for you. Maybe speak to your fiancée and try and find her reasoning behind wanting to come. If you would rather it just be the 4 of you then you need to tell him how you feel so he can try and see from your point of view and come to some sort of compromise. Maybe she only comes for a couple of days you are over there so that the 2 of you can have some alone time x
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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    honeymoon should be you two, and your kids if you like, no one else.

    I agree maybe shes doing it so she can watch the kids whilst you 2 have more you time, but i still wouldnt like it. You definitly need to speak up if you dont want her there, this is your honeymoon and is supose to be once in a lifetime x

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    Yes I find it odd - but as you are taking the kids perhaps she is thinking she can look after them so you can enjoy your honeymoon- would def get OH to speak to MIL x

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    I agree with the others that she probably thinks she is helping with the kids.

    Maybe have her there for a couple of days so you can get some time to yourself but politely tell her you want to celebrate the wedding with your family.

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    • MaxineP89
      CommentAuthorMaxineP89
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    Each to their own I guess.

    Personally I would not want my MIL on our honeymoon - but then we don't have small children anymore

    However, if you do, and it would help to have her along for baby siting duties etc - then I see how that could be useful.

    Not sure how long you are going for, but maybe she could join you for just a few days and not the whole of the holiday.

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    I agree, she probably thinks you'll need help with the children. It might make it easier if she is there if you want time to yourselves, although I agree it could feel strange. Hubby and I didn't have children when we got married so didn't have that issue. You need to talk to your H2B first I think, as you need to agree. Potentially you could suggest that at another time you have another bigger family holiday for the extended family. It is a bit cheeky of her to suggest it, unless she specifically offered to come as a babysitter.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Feb 8th 2017
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    I agree with the others. Personally I find it strange and certainly wouldn't want any of my in laws on our honeymoon with us or any other holiday for that matter! Think it should be both of you and the kids but no one else.

    You could politely decline and just say that it's a break for just you both and the children .

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 9th 2017
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    Yup, I think it's strange too! You'd be on your honeymoon as a family enjoying doing family things together, so why would you even really need any help with the children? I think it's really bizarre that she, or your OH, would think it was a good idea! Both of them would surely understand if you said that you'd just like it to be you two and the kids.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Feb 13th 2017
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    Can the children sleep in her room ?
    Arrange days / evenings on your own

    With her coming you can have some 'alone '' time which you wouldn't if you were looking after children 24/7

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2017
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    Have you made any progress on your FMIL?

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    • CommentAuthorKatherineK78
      Posted: Mar 25th 2017
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    No way leave the kids at home with her this is not a family holiday!
 
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