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    • TashyM
      CommentAuthorTashyM
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2015
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    I asked a close friend to be maid of honour because she's really organised and supportive, but lately she seems to be slipping in both regards and I don't know what to do about it.
    A week or two ago I got really worried about something, and when I went to her about it I got told to chill out because "weddings really aren't that hard to plan."
    Friday night we got discussing my hen do, and she's decided my big send off to married life should be...going to our local carnival. I don't really enjoy the carnival, it always rains and it's something we do every year. I had a choice between two dress themesand she chose one purely because she didn't like the sound of the other and wasn't going to dress like that anyway.
    Yesterday we were supposed to be viewing venues together, I hadn't heard from her until I contacted her late Tuesday night, for her to tell me she was going to have to miss the first appointment then meet me after. I hadn't heard from her until half an hour before the second venue, so messaged her for her to tell me that she is not going to be coming at all now.
    I expected more than this from her, and I just think it is really rude to cancel on someone without saying a word until they ask you about it.
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    • Sam G 2b May 2016
      CommentAuthorSam G 2b May 2016
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2015
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    Hmmm quite a hard one, but my first suggestion would be to talk to her quite frankly and say you expect a bit more support from your MOH. And if you don't like the idea she has for your hen do then tell her that as well and ask her to get involved with other bridesmaids to come up with a different idea. Hope it works out!
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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2015
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    I agree with Sam! She doesn't sound as if she's interested at all in your wedding day! Normally this happens when there's loads of time left - I got engaged and book our wedding 26 months in advance - but you've only got 4 so you need someone who can be there for you. I'd seriously have a word with her and just see what's going on - there could be a million reasons why she's like this at the moment and it might be a blip but talking to her is going to de-stress you and get to the bottom of what's going on. xx

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    • TashyM
      CommentAuthorTashyM
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2015
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    I messaged her but no reply yet. It just seems right now that the only people who actually fully put what I want ahead of themselves is my mum and my fiance. I get that she has other things in her life but I'd have thought she'd know me better than to think I would be happy doing the carnival for my hen. My fiance's best woman's first words about his stag was "how does a weekend in Cardiff sound?" and Cardiff is my favourite place in the world, so now I just want to forget about my hen and gatecrash his stag!
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    • TotallyLovedUp
      CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2015
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    tell her its time to put up or shut up! My goodness, if she didn't want to help or be a part of it then she should have said no! what may seem like a small deal to her is a huge deal to a bride! If she isn't bothered by it then find someone else! Sorry if it sounds blunt but you don't need the added stress xx
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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2015
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    My moh was useless but I was lucky I had two really good bridesmaids who picked up her slack

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