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    • Emily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Aug 2nd 2015
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    Just wondering if there are any other Brides suffering long term mental health issues?
    I've had depression (with bipolar symptoms in my bad patches) for 6yrs formally diagnosed but 10years total and wondering at the moment if its fair on OH to marry me. Mine comes and goes in bad patches but I don't think there will ever be a time when a bad patch won't come again. OH says now it's ok but will he be able to do it in the future after so many years of constant support. I love him and he loves me and at the moment it's perfect even though I'm not well so there isn't an issue at the moment but I worry that in the future there will be a time when he just says he can't do it any more and walks away. He says it's ok and that he doesn't mind that I'm broken (my words) because he loves me. But I am frightened that it won't be enough.

    Are there any other brides out there with long term mental health problems who can help me xxx

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    • MrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 2nd 2015
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    Health issues or not Hun he's with you and wants to marry you :) men say very few words but they can see what's going on and he obviously loves you otherwise wouldn't be marrying you so as hard as it is try not to worry or fret as your only cause yourself stress that you don't need. We All have times when we think our oh could easily walk out and I'm sure they have moments they think that too but at end of day the good outweigh the bad :) I have some bad weeks where I am really down and struggle to pull myself up but know when I do oh will still be there and I have a physical issue with my knee meaning some times I struggle to walk without being in huge amounts of pay and oh has stuck with me throughout so I know if it gets really bad again he will be there although I always have that concern that one day he will have had enough but right now I want to focus on the good and happiness :) remember he's with you for all of you the good and the 'broken' lol x
    • CatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 2nd 2015
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    I can totally relate to this because my fiancee has bipolar. I did wonder if it was her to start with because what you said has echoed her before in so many ways - she worries about the pressure and stress she puts me under (her words) and there are times when she has bad phases and doubts whether she should 'put me through this and shouldn't be loved' as she puts it but here's the thing, love is blind and no matter what, I love her and it's for keeps regardless of the bipolar. I don't care if she has bipolar, has pink and yellow spots or thinks that eating benches is tasty; I love her for her and I imagine it's the same for you. It's part of you and what makes you 'you' :) I think it was Marilyn Monroe that said 'if you can't deal with me in my bad moments, then you don't deserve to be around me for the good times' and that's precisely how I see it - just because you have something like bipolar, doesn't mean you shouldn't be happy, have a life with your fiance or not be loved. We love you for it, it's a part of you and something that will never change. I've (and I'm sure your fiance has too) learnt ways to work around the bipolar and figure out what works for us so that when there is a down phase, I can work with her by supporting/loving her in the best way possible. Stay strong and remember to use your coping mechanisms xx

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    • DanielleS0709
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 2nd 2015
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    Hi Emily have you got a CPN you can speak to? I'm sure your OH loves all of you. Mental health is nothing to be ashamed of and you certainly shouldn't feel like you don't deserve to be loved. Show this message to your OH and if you have a CPN you can always speak to him/her

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    • Elinor Claire
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      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 3rd 2015
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    I have a history of depression, and my husband is well aware of it. I think as long as you have been totally honest with your OH you have nothing to worry about, he knows that there may be problems around the corner. It may also be that being with your OH makes those bad patches less severe, I know that when I met my husband I was able to come off the anti-depressants, which I wouldn't have contemplated doing prior to that. My mum has also had a lot of mental health issues with depression and OCD, which developed into full-blown paranoia at one point. Dad knew when he married her that she was fragile, and although she was far worse when I was in my late teens and early twenties than at any other time, Dad was absolutely there for her and ready to stay by her side through it. He put it very simply when he said "when I said for better for worse, I meant it".

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 3rd 2015
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    Me and the hubby have been together 7 years and 3 years ago I suffered a head injury and since then I have suffered some issues such as depression, social anxiety, mood swings and much more. As it stands I'm in the best place I've been in 3 years and every now and again I feel the old me but then my moods can change and bam I feel like a b1tch who has cracked.
    Even leading up to the wedding I asked hubby was he sure he wanted to be with me as I'm sure there were less stressful and normal people he could be with, he told me he loves me and wants me and I believe him :)

    Each day can be struggle Hun but remember he loves you not just the good days but the bad ones too, he has chosen to spend his life by your side supporting and loving you.


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