First, I want to apologise to all you lovely ladies because I feel all I ever do is post things complaining! ><
So, as some of you may know I have had to change my date for the wedding. My h2b and myself posted on facebook about changing it as that was the easiest way to let everyone know. The only people we told prior to it being on facebook were our parents. All other members, including ushers and bridesmaids, were told via facebook.
This morning, I went online and saw that my MOH had posted on one of my recent updates saying "I only found out it had changed because your mum told me." I was like.. I posted the update about it changing like.. four weeks ago.. how did you now know about it? So he is being all pissy at me and I am getting wound up.
I have had nothing but problems about the whole MOH thing since we began planning this wedding. I had my gbf and my sister as co MOH initially but my sister didn't seem interested so I decided on just having my gbf as my MOH. However, since making him my MOH, he is too wrapped up in himself to actually ask me about the wedding or even ask me about anything. I know that sounds selfish of me, but he is always like this. I am the one who goes out of my way to make plans and talk to him but I get nothing back. He has been my best friend for like.. three years which is why I wanted him in my bridal party, but now my sister is engaged and is taking more of an interest in all things wedding related. My other three bridesmaids are all amazing and stress-free. The question I am asking you guys is:
Do you think I should talk to my gbf about how he is being or shall I just not have a MOH at all? I do most of the stuff for the wedding myself anyway, I don't feel like I need a MOH but I know it's the norm to have one. I'm a bit confused about the whole thing.
You don't have to have an MOH at all. He could just be a bridesman on an equal footing to the others. You do need to have a chat with him though, he may not realise how he's making you feel.
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
definitely talk to him and decide what to do with the outcome of your discussion xx
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CommentAuthorAlexN29
I don't know about your gbf but I don't really go on Facebook so if my friend put on fbook that her wedding was changed, I wouldn't see it unless it was a private message to me. I understand that he isn't making an effort and I think you need to talk to him, I did the same thing with my MOH and she has done a complete 180. She just didn't realise I felt that way. Hopefully it will work out for you as well :)
As the others say, just have a word with him hun he may not realise he's upsetting you x
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
I do think you should talk to him but there is over 2 years til your wedding day so maybe he just feels its a long way off at the moment? The nearer it gets the more excited and involved he will become im sure :-)
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
TBH if I had found out one of my friends had changed their wedding date and I was playing a big part of the day id be P'd off if I found out via FB, id at least expect a txt if nothing else. it could be that he didn't see the FB update and did genuinely hear from your mum.
Id just talk to him and find out whats going on xx
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CommentAuthorFranM76
I have to agree that if I was part of a bridal party and only found out a date change via facebook, I'd be a bit miffed. Maybe he feels that you don't think he's important enough to tell personally?? Have a word with him and let him know how you feel - and maybe tell him that the facebook announcement wasn't meant as a insult, you just thought it was easier. Hope you sort it out xx
CommentAuthorbarbie86
I agree that Facebook was really not the best way of telling people about something as major as a date change; I don't go on Facebook all that often, and when I do it's mainly to go post in a couple of closed groups I'm in. So, these dominate my feed and there are LOADS of status updates I miss. In all honesty, I would be pretty annoyed as a guest if you told me via Facebook, given how unreliable it is, and I'd be even more annoyed if I were in your bridal party. I just don't get why everyone does things over FB these days; what's wrong with a personal email/call/text that you know people will definitely receive?...
So, I actually see where he's coming from TBH.
I'd speak to him, and apologise for not telling him personally, and go from there. If he is still uninterested in the wedding, maybe give your sister the title of maid of honour, or else just scrap it completely.
