I need help... My friend who was meant to be my maid of honour and I have had a massive fall out and I don't think we'll speak again... Basically she was awful to me and when I spoke up for myself she didn't like it and kept on trying to put me down so now I don't speak to her.
I have this other friend who I have been friends with since I was about 2 years old (27 years ago). We used to be really close and then lost touch and now are really close again. She has been there for me more than anyone else has lately and she has really been a rock when all this stuff was going on with the other girl.
I am so tempted to ask her to be my maid of honour but on the other hand I am really worried in case she thinks she is 2nd best, which she is definitely not. I've confidentially spoke to a mutual friend of ours to see what she thinks and she thinks she will be over the moon if I ask her but I still wouldn't want her to be upset or anything if I asked her...
What would you do/think if you were in mine/her position?
Thanks in advance ladies xxxx
CommentAuthorclive
Let's turn this on it's head for a minute...
It's your mutual friend who would probably think that she would feel second best as you asked her what she thinks, but she didn't, feel put out. So I would ask your friend to be MOH - and Rguablymthe mutual friend to be a BM if there's a vacancy:-)
CommentAuthorJemmaH22
Lol, the mutual friends is fab but she also knows I've known my other friend so much longer and that we are really close. I already have 8 bridesmaids due to sisters/nieces but I am sure I could find a role for the mutual friend :-) xx
CommentAuthorclive
Excellent! Go ahead and ask her. It sounds like you have good friends around you by all accounts. :-)
CommentAuthorJemmaH22
I do now Yes... now that the negative ones have gone. The previously maid of honour made some snide remarks about where and why I have chose my wedding venue... That's when the alarm bells started to ring. Thanks for your help... I'll let you know what the outcome is xx
