We can only have 34 guests to our ceremony, including bridal party and we're really struggling to narrow it down. Thought we'd just about got it sussed by being quite harsh, only family members we have regular contact with and the closest of friends (which was harder than I thought it would be). Anyway, this weekend I have found a long lost friend via the book of face. We were so close for many years then she moved away. Life took over and we lost contact (life before fb, changing phones etc) and before we knew it 10 years had passed. We are both over the moon to have contact again, so much has happened in both our lives and we've been on the phone for hours catching up and it's been like we've never been apart. My problem is that I would love her to come to the wedding, she is my sons godmother for a start. But it puts our numbers over the limit by 2 and the registry office are strict on 34 only. Aarrggghhh, its an awful long way for her to travel for an evening do but I cant see there's anyone we can knock off the list. No invites have been sent yet.....has anyone else had a dilema of who gets to be the chosen few??
CommentAuthorGhilaL
We have a 50 guests limit to ceremony and sit down meal we have literally done closest family and really close friends it is hard but most people know we only want a small wedding.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
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Don't know what to say really with such a short time till your wedding, my oh recently reconnected with one of his old friends from about 3 years ago, but due to numbers I've told my oh firmly that he will not be getting a day invite when he's only just reconnected with him and there are others both of us would prefer there due to them being there for us solitarily for the last few years. If there's no one you can see that you would want to drop in place of having this friend then I'm afraid that's your answer, evening invite only.
You could always say to her that the registra is very strict on numbers for ceremony, but if she wanted she could try sneak in as its only 2 extra, but if she can't get in can still be part of the celebration straight after and the pics and come to the wedding breakfast so not just evening
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CommentAuthorLauraK7
Was going yo day are you having a wedding breakfast so star could come for pictures and breakfast even if she can't come to the ceremony?
CommentAuthorFranM76
No we're not having a wedding breakfast - the wedding is at 5.30pm then straight onto the reception with buffet so at least anyone who isn't coming to the ceremony is literally only missing the ceremony, not missing out on meal, speeches etc. I'm going to ring the registry office to double check that they won't let me squeeze an extra 2 in and see what they say - failing that it'll just have to be evening. Thanks ladies xx
Could you have a gathering of people outside the registry office ready to greet you as you come out? Then those who you would have liked to be at the ceremony can be there literally as soon as you're finished.
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CommentAuthorFranM76
Oooh that's a good idea Elinor! Thanks xx
CommentAuthorStinky87
we have 50 including the wedding party and we have just had to say to people it is a small day affair and only close family and closest of friends cna come. we have even put a ban on children unless they are directly involved/ travelling from america becasue we cant afford/ fit any more to the day.
i think most people will understand and especially as you are onyl going straight to the recepetion they are only missing the ceremony which is small compared to the speaches and photos
CommentAuthorAlisonM36
It might be that the limit is 34 seated and they might have some standing room? Our venue is very small too and had a strict limit of 40 but after more discussion we found out that the fire regs stipulate a different number. The actual limit is 40 seated plus 5 standing. It might be worth checking out?
CommentAuthorFranM76
I've checked with the registry office and its strictly 34. Anyone over that number will be asked to leave the room due to fire regs. All sorted tho as a couple of family members are unable to attend xx
CommentAuthorclairenina
We just made a list of people we know, and chiselled away at it ruthlessly
